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I had a botched labiaplasty by my gyno in june...

I had a botched labiaplasty by my gyno in june 2011. I only wanted a trim to make oneside even with the other. I woke up from surgery and she amputated my labia on both sides!! My life has completely been destroyed from that day! Iam only 28 and im so lost and scared to death , im so tramatized. I searched and searched drs to fix me, i found dr alter and had a reconstruction in november 2011, and another revision in april 2011 by him using skin from my hood to make me a rim of so called labia. Iam still healing and dont know what i think yet about my appearance. Im just so mentally messed up i feel destroyed and feel i will never ever be normal, most of all i feel my sex life is completely over, no labia, no good sex? Im devastated . Im very very depressed and very lost in life. This is a complete nightmare.... any support will be very helpful for me. Thank you

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Hi Jessica. I am sorry that you too are another victim of a botched labiaplasty. I had my initial procedure in October 2011 by means of a wedge
Incision. Within a wk the stitches had completely opened on
Both sides. The surgeon attempted to re-suture the area again 3 weeks after only for the same thing to happen all over again. Since then, I have been to many specialists who have told me that way too much tissue was excised. Worse still the area can never be fixed now. The best I can hope for is that the remaining tissue can be reshaped a bit but it'll never look ok. I am still in pain and have developed recurrent bouts of thrush since then. I have never regretted anything so much in my entire life. I have surgery booked to do this reshaping in London in July but am so scared I really don't know if I can go through with it.
I don't think anyone can truly understand the isolation, pain, suffering, hurt, guilt and absolute trauma that this causes unless u have experienced it first hand. I really feel for you. I don't have any words of wisdom really but just wanted to offer my support, it's really not easy living the nightmare. I hope that things are looking a little brighter after the revision. Take care xx
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Thank you angie for ur support
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I'm SO sorry this has been such a source of stress and sadness for you. Please try to take deep breaths and not judge yourself so harshly, especially until you can see what your revision/reconstruction looks like. Your sex life isn't over, girl! Even if you don't have labia (which I bet you do now), I think men only care about the vagina anyway. ;)

I don't mean to make light of your situation, though. I can only imagine how hard this must be for you. I'm hoping you have some friends/family who are supportive and can help you through this hard time.

You might want to connect with crissy, who had a similar situation with feeling that her labia were amputated without her permission.

Virtual hugs to you.

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I posted a labiaplasty nitemare blog a few months...

I posted a labiaplasty nitemare blog a few months ago......and This is my results of a labia reconstruction. I had my labia totally amputated in june 2011 by a gyno that was inexperienced. My reconstruction was done in nov 2011. So this is me now... how do i look?... its been a long emotional road and im fighting to get over this emotionally and im trying to except the changes. I wish i could go back and not have done the surgery in the first place,but in life theres no do overs. My goal now is to try to be intimate again, and hope a guy wont question my appearance and i will be able to enjoy sex again and live life again.....all comments are helpful to me.. thank you.......

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Tulips your words are truley helpful and kind... thank you for your support. it means alot to me you are a wonderful person!
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ohhhh honey.... I hope you have a sweet, loving person in your life that can just help you to let go of the pain.... If you don't, try playing with yourself. Sorry if that is TMI, but whatever. Get a vibrator or a dildo, or your fingers and relax, put on some soothing music, get some coconut oil and love yourself! The first step to happiness is freeing yourself from pain and blocks associated with trauma. Remember that life is too short for fears and traumas to define us or get the best of us. You are lucky to have turned out so lovely, and if you are orgasmic, well honey, you will be FINE! Just let go and be free and put the trauma behind you knowing that there is always a divine plan, even when it seems like everything is wrong and the sky is falling.The lessons were there for you to learn, and you have come out on the other side with more wisdom. However painful, I am sure, you are BRAVE. Enjoy yourself, listen to the positive comments that people have made about your results.Please don't let your fears prevent you from living your life to it's fullest. You are whole. You are supported, and your vulnerability to show yourself and reveal the most intimate parts of yourself are enough for me to believe that you have the strength to have a wonderful, beautiful, and caring sex life. My love to you...
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Havnt tried sex yet im to scared
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Sorry if my photos are out of order... please look...

Sorry if my photos are out of order... please look at dates

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Your new reconstruction looks really good! Sorry it was so much trouble but there's nothing to worry about now .
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Thinking of you.... Sending love. My heart is with you.
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Woman to woman I cannot imagine how much this experience has affected your self esteem. I can just tell you how I understand how stressfull this ordeal has been to you. I hope you are better not only physically but emotionally and spiritually. By your pictures i can't beleive your gyno could do that to you. How irresponsible if that person was not capable of doing such a surgery. Now as the other pictures show you look great! And you know what, it looks good!!. I came across here because I was thinking about the procedure since I there is too much labia. So don't think that a man will judge you or be weirded out. In my opinion I think you look great. You are better and feel better girl. Sending you Moral support from here!!!
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To any women that have read by blog. Please think...

To any women that have read by blog. Please think carefully about choosing a great labiaplasty surgeon, i wouldn't wish my pain ive suffered on my worst enemy....please do your research!

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You look perfect--really! I just had a revision by Dr. Alter last Thursday, so I'm still in the healing process. I must say, though, I looked way better immediately after surgery than I did before, swollen and all. I wish I had gone to him in the first place, instead of my butcher ob-gyn.
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how is the sex now? and is the fat still there? i hear that it may not last that long
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You look way better I can tell the difference! I'm happy this round worked out for you.
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