I am a 45 year old woman planning to undergo the...
The cost of surgery with anesthesia, doctors costs and cost of surgical room at the hospital is looking at approx $9000. I am currently saving for the deposit. Unfortunately after a disastrous marriage I was left in a lot of debt. I am clearing that debt slowly but surely but it is irritating when you want to move forward with your life that past decisions hold you back. But I am a great believer that if there is a will, there is a way.
General thoughts on being a Bond girl
bills bills and more bills
I am hoping for a date of August 22nd but I need to get that deposit in ASAP. I was talking to a few friends and we all agree that too big is too much. I am top heavy and I want to look in proportion. I initially told Dr Bond that I wanted to be really big. But now I just want my butt to match my breast size. I am a 34 DDD and I also want a smaller waist. So am looking forward to preparing a really good regime of yoga, walking and the same diet but smaller portions. I do eat really well. I am a former vegetarian but now I eat meat. So I love greens. :-). I am not sure about how much cc's t oput in to get the fullness but to also keep me in proportion that I want. I also think that sometimes putting too much in can also increase the likelihood of seromas from what i have researched.
My aesthetic vision aka how I want my ass to look :-)
I have changed doctors
Consultation with Dr Jimerson
After having spoken to Dr Jimerson, I can see why he is in such high demand. His work etiquette is impeccable. I did express my thoughts regarding the post care, to him, to the wonderful nurse Kim and to my PCC Sarah. I think that post care is just as important as pre care. I think having a new body takes regular maintenance and emotional, physical and psychological adjustment in one's life. So its important for the health care provider to acknowledge that the surgery performed is of a high caliber and requires surveillance post surgery. I think I was heard regarding my concerns with this.
I have been given a date of surgery!! 08/26/2013
Medical clearance- 20 days to go
Flights in united are the cheapest I have seen so far at 330.. So am hoping once labs come back I can book.
Can't think if anything else right now..
19 days to go
My count down was off. 17 days to surgery/ two weeks to pre-op
15 days to go according to Real self
Today is sorting out day. I need a shower curtain. I have dark colored sheets. Still waiting on amazon to send all my stuff. Will be packing one suitcase (carry on). But I need a second suitcase. Probably go to Marshall's in the week when all of the stuff has arrived. So housework to get the place spic and span is the word of the day. Due to the increased risk of hemoglobin (iron count) dropping during procedure I am going to be increasing my intake from one periodically to three times a day. I just don't want to take any chances. Liposuction can make you lose a fair amount of blood and I do not want to risk having a transfusion at all..
I have posted some pictures of some of my supplies. It's interesting as I am
In the health industry that one of my colleagues asked me why don't I just take the things that I need from the supply closet. I looked at her like wtf., baby I need my job. Why steal when you can buy your own. Things such as gauze, antibiotic ointment, tape cost a few dollars. Makes no sense to me at all getting fired for something when you could have paid. Smh at people.
Anyway enjoy the weekend. This period pain has eased up some. Thank goodness plus I got a lot of sleep last night. Am ready to have a good day.
Oh before i forget it's funny that the long distance relationship that I was in finished. I had told my man in London that I wanted this procedure done. His first reaction was regarding how expensive it was. Then I thought he had come round to the idea when we both looked at wish pics. But I realize he tried to sucker me when "an emergency" came up and he needed to borrow money from me. I initially tried to help out then I thought. This is a deal breaker. I need the money and the surgery is important to me so why am I sending it to him so I cut him off in July. He has been calling ever since but I just lost respect for him. Can't trust a man who has no integrity. Allow me to do me.
It's funny how the closer the date goes the more realistic things look. My emotions change daily and today I am quietly optimistic.
God bless and enjoy your weekend
Two weeks to go..
Concerned about the possible drop in hemoglobin so I am religiously taking my iron with orange.. I am
Also eating iron rich foods like spinach and green banana.. I have been good with my multivitamins also. I am just trying to speed up my doctors office with this medical clearance paperwork. The lady who writes the transcripts will be back today.. I am also going to be practicing driving with my boppy pillow. Yesterday got stopped by a state trooper for speeding- have to remember to stay focused on the task in hand. Don't want my money to get eaten away by foolishness. So yes i am going to be careful. Will email Sarah - patient care coordinator today. Am getting a little anxious. I have been eating correctly, resting and eating well..
Organizing, packing and touching base
I am also going to order a cane chair and a yoga roll for the post op care. Another thing that I will be doing is paying for a post op CBC probably 4 days after surgery to make sure my levels are decent. Anemia causes so much issues and my menses are no joke either. Heavy like that so I need to be mindful of that. Spoke to another lady who will be in Atlanta the same time as I. So hopefully we will connect. This time next week I will have had my pre op. It's so real now. Still not excited. Just trying to make sure I have all that I need so that I don't get overwhelmed. Having everything in order keeps me relaxed... My
Hope is that he turns the square ass that I have into a round bubblicious butt. I have looked at the Jimerson ladies on here and their bodies are awesome. Hope and pray that my results are this way. I am
Hoping to continue to update post surgery so that others can see the progress at one month, two month and so on.. Anyway have a beautiful weekend and stay healthy ladies. Physically, emotionally and spiritually...
Wow this time next week it will be the night before my transformation..
"Welcome every morning with a smile. Look on the new day as another special gift from your Creator, another golden opportunity to complete what you were unable to finish yesterday. Be a self-starter. Let your first hour set the theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo through your entire day. Today will never happen again. Don't waste it with a false start or no start at all. You were not born to fail."
- Og Mandino
Yes ladies that's how I am going to think today. Five days to go..
Are we there yet?
Enterprise - 1-855-663-3722 (the rate was $18.00) per day. So that works for me.
Have to travel from Atlanta airport back to Suwanee so am using the Metro shuttle service
1-404-766-6666 and that is going to $57 with tip. The usual taxi prices are $90. So that's good.
Checked in with the Hyatt regarding a refrigerator. Also will need a microwave. So that is going to be good.
I am thinking that hopefully Jimerson will sculpt this butt and make my waist smaller. Its currently :-( 33 inches )-: not happy with that. Still eating the iron, spinach, in fact anything green that I can get my hands on. I get my hair colored monthly. Some of us go gray early. Doesn't mean that I am not still young at heart. So a little annoyed that I will not be able to make that appointment but that's what scarfs are for. Also the next question is kinda iffy so just bear with me. To shave, to wax, to nair, that is the question. I still have to find Hibiclens between now and Monday. Amazon order failed me for some reason. So not enough time to wait for it to ship.
Will be leaving New Jersey tomorrow night as the pre-op is on Friday. Ooh wee now it looks like things are moving forward.
Officially out of work and on my way to Georgia.
For those ladies who are out of towners going to Georgia, a word of advice if you have insurance then check to see if your prescription card can be used in Suwanee. I checked with mine and they were also able to let me know which pharmacies accepted mine. CVS, Walgreens, Publix and Krogers. Also be advised that Lovenox (Enoxaparin) is also a special medication that needs to be from a larger pharmacy. I was given the following details for pharmacies that had this in stock :
485 Peach Tree Industrial
Suwanee GA 30024
Tel : 678-546-0584
Suwanee, GA 30024
Tel : 678-546-0893
I spoke with MRose73 last night. She is such a babe. I was feeling a little forlorn. Its really good to have support from someone who is having or has had the procedure. My friend is driving up from New Jersey to pick me up from Jimerson's surgical suite after the surgery and to take care of me for one night. Every one else who I asked couldn't make it. I am going to push through this recovery because I want it and because I know that I am going to do the best I can with what I have.
I have not heard from my patient care coordinator. I do wish that Sarah would check in with me more often. I think I would appreciate that. I do call but I have been told that she is with another patient more than enough times so I think I will email her today. My pre op is tomorrow. I guess I am feeling a little nervous today. I arrive in Georgia tonight at midnight. I will drive from airport to the Hyatt. I just need a car for a day and a half. But just saying that the organization for this trip has taken a lot of things away from my regular routine. I stopped my courses and I have focused solely on this surgery. I think you have to, to make sure that you think of everythiing. I can't believe that the date has come so quickly.
Travels plans - 7.19pm 08/22/2013
Leave at 6.28 and arrive in Charlotte at 8.30. Leave Charlotte at 9.30 and get to Atlanta for approximately midnight. Us airways cancelled the flight. They put me on United and now they are delayed. Good job sx is not until Monday but pre op is Friday and I just can't seem to get out of Jersey. Like wtf.. The next thing is here's hoping that my luggage arrives. It should have been swapped off the first flight and placed on the new flight. Just to let all out of towners remember. Book your flight early and don't leave it to the last minute. I am a couple of days ahead of time and I am already feeling challenged by the airline industry. Am trying to stay calm as I don't want to stress myself any further. God willing I will reach Atlanta by 11pm. I am praying that there are no more delays. I been up since 4 am. Feeling sleepy eating a consolation Chinese meal..
Pre op appt and carers in Georgia
Richelle - 678-557-5322
Belinda(Lymphatic Massages) 770-771-2570
There is also recovery house - I will post the ladie's details as soon as I find her email.
If you are coming alone this is the way to go. Do not try this alone in your hotel. You need support. The women listed above are experienced and seasoned carers. Their personalities vary and so does their work style but they have looked after many women in your position. They know the routine and to have someone stay with you overnite to ensure your safety is a gift. I cannot stress this enough.
Please check with each lady their availability and schedule times that are conducive to your imminent surgical date.
Clarice has regular availability and Richelle has times that cover most of Friday into the weekend. Belinda needs organized scheduling so that you can receive the massages that you need. Coordinate your care. This is stressful enough without wondering what happens next.
Pre op appointment - getting close
So now on to Dr Jimerson. I think the man is pure unadulterated genius. He is pleasant, well-spoken and handsome. He gave me an honest opinion of what he could achieve with the body presented to him. I told him that I would be working on my stomach and that he could work his magic on me and i will take care of the rest. I told him to give me an ass that will get me laid. (Sorry celibacy does make you a little uncouth at times.) He started laughing and told me he will make me sexy. You can see that he really has this skillset perfected and that butt shaping is all about an art form to Dr Jimerson. I told him to make it big as he could. He said that he goes in for the shape first and then he adds the size afterwards so if the shape is becoming distorted by the size he will stop. Dr Jimerson hugged me and made me feel like family. His staff were absolutely hilarious. It doesn't help that I could talk forever.. But I really enjoyed the time that everybody spent giving me their experience and how having the procedure had impacted all facets of their life.
One of bigger concerns was my skin texture and whether or not it was malleable to shape. Remember that saying that square pegs don't fit round holes well square butts need true sculpting to become rounded. I am praying for that to happen to me. I was told that the texture or rather the softness of my skin was conducive to shaping. I was glad about that. I then spoke to Kim the nurse at some length regarding my health history. My BP was 128/98. I have to drink a lot of water and watch my sodium intake in Georgia. If my lower number is greater than 100. They will not do the surgery. Also have to take Zantac and my blood pressure the day of the surgery.
My surgery time was moved from 10.30 am to 7.30 am. I am #1 that day. .. This was great.
There is a lot pre operatively to remember. There is a lot to think about post operatively also. So I have my list of things that I need to consider.
One of the things that I was truly fascinated about was the reason why so many women have this procedure? have you really thought about your reason?
I am more comfortable with doing the procedure since I visited the office. When you have been online going over and over the pictures. Or you have spoken on the phone or you have emailed. It's a lot different when you meet your patient care coordinator. I met Sarah, my PCC yesterday. She is like the girlfriend that you hang out with and tell all your secrets to. Great person to have as a PCC.
If you know me, you will understand that I don't get excited until I am actually in the operating room and anesthesiology is about to administer the general anesthesia. That's the way I have been for years. I think it comes from working in the Emergency Dept as an RN and having to subdue your own emotions in order to help other people. I know I am having this done but it still doesn't seem real yet. I can't visualize my new butt yet. I have prepared the best I can for all of the post op stuff. But I have fully connected to the fact that my body shape is going to be different. Maybe the pain will make it real to me? To be continued....
So after the epic visit I went and got my prescriptions at Walgreens. Guess how much they cost? $31.00.
I had to ask the shop assistant if she had missed something. Got 24 bottles of water for $3.00 also and will do some more shopping today.
I am going to eat some full meals today and tomorrow. Will stop eating at 9pm tonite.. Need some low sodium soups, fruits and yoghurt.
Anyway enough of this update..
Up at 2.31
Prayer for pending surgery
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Today is the day 5.10 am
" I hope you received enough rest , love.
You are light
You are beauty
You are the completion of your manifestation
You are sound
You are satisfaction
You are beauty
You are acceptance
You are your dream made reality
You are present
You are not your negative experiences
You are the present
You are now
You are love
You are peace
You are now
Getting ready to take my medications as requested with one sip of water and shower with Dial..!
As of today I will be updating as frequently as I can to let you experience the procedure with me.
I showered with dial and brushed my teeth. Used biotene mouth wash to stop it from being dry. Hate that humming breath. Don't think that should be inflicted on anyone.
I prayed for a uneventful surgery. got dressed in a pink nightgown and jacket. flipflops. No bra and no drawers. Have my inhaler and I carried my medications with me. I don't have my glasses on so I am Mrs Magoo in that regards.. O-O
Taxi came on time but I am mad early. Wish someone was here already. There is a lot of traffic on the street but Dr J's office is tucked away in the corner. It's a good job there is a lot of light where I am standing
15.21- Exclusive. JuliaElaine has a butt
So here are the pictures:
before and after:
My pain is LEss than moderate about a 4/10.
I am drinking water. I have a burning sensation to my lower abdomen. Rather like when you have worked out. I walked three lengths of my room. My garment got soaked on the left buttock. Clarice is taking excellent care of me. Am due to have my next anti nausea and pain pill at 16.30 pm.
At this time I do not know what was taken out and how much was put in. My waist is thick and I initially thought I could have gone bigger. But I never had any ass at all. And I think once I corset train and do abdominal work I will be happier with everything.
As of now I truly satisfied with Dr J's work..
Split soup and drank 240 ml of water.
I think I have Alice in the Looking Glass syndrome! Smile.. I am trying to stop staring but I am stalking myself! I still can't believe I really went through with it. I am so content with my results.
Getting ready to take some more medications and use my urinal.
My pain is now a 8/10- pain meds now due..
My JP drain is not draining as much as it could be. I will call the office tomorrow.
Also Walgreens only sent me five Lovenox. Not sure if it is mistake or if it is supposed to be. My PT/PTT/INR levels were normal. So I am not sure. Will call to see..
I remember asking Kim the nurse if I could manage on Motrin or Tylenol. Nope - I now recognize that you have to take the medications to be comfortable and to mobilize.
I walk the length off room every time I get up. It helps me get rid of the stiffness. I was told my Lina nurse anesthetist that I need to get up every two hours whilst awake. I am experience stiffness and some body aches. No searing or burning pain. I have been doing my leg exercises to prevent clots.
Side bar. Miley Cyrus is really promoting butt surgery with her antics on that recent award show but damn she got that stripper twerk down to a Tee. However she should save that Ish for her bedroom.. Smh
2.37 am and 7.52 am
My booosky seems bigger to
Me. It's round and full. I am
Still in the mirror looking at myself. For the newbies you will do this too. For the vets I know you do this too.
I have been walking the length of my
I do have pain getting up from my stomach position to standing but I do it because I want my recovery to be good.
Today I will call or email the office and find out how many cc's I was given.
Tomorrow I am
Going to have my garment removed and my dressings changed.
Got to sign off now as Clarice has just brought breakfast for me
I got these measurement from Kim the nurse today..
He took six inches of my waist alone!
1200 ml abdomen
1300 ml lower back
200 ml each back bra roll
300 ml each flank pain
3500 ml in total
850 mL in each buttock
200 mL in each flank
I do have a hour glass figure.
I am trying to stay on top of the fluids and also eating my iron. I have eaten soups and salads.
Tomorrow my garment will come and all dressings will be removed. The garment will be off for one hour and I am going to have the garment washed. It's bloody. So here's the money dilemma. You can either get a new garment or you can manage with the old one.
I have an abdominal board and I am going to go to Dr J's office to find out when I can use the abdominal board. I had a 36 inch waist prior to surgery now I have a 30 inch waist. I am trying for a 27 inch waist so after this surgery settles down I will be following big booty tiny waist's regime.. Yes ladies to be sexy and sophisticated takes dedication and hard work. Are you in it to win it?
4.30 am. 08/28/2013
I am glad that I budgets for most of my care, my supplies, my transportation, my nutrition and my massages. I don't think that scrimping on anything is good for your psyche. It's already an expensive procedure with Dr J so I feel like i need to handle my new
Body post operatively with lots of care. You need to recognize that this new body is priceless and that there is no price that you can put on your health.
I have not worn any clothes since my surgery. So all the clothes that I bought were excess.
I was originally going to have a friend watch over me for one night. I think that I would have been short changing myself. When you go for this procedure if you don't want a carer for Gods sake bring somebody who is not scared of blood or wounds and who can follow instructions as directed by Jimerson's office. Take the antibiotics, blood thinners and analgesia as prescribed. Drink fluids and avoid going to Emory hospital by ambulance. In July I believe four women went to hospital and last night another went. I don't know why they went but I wouldn't want any of you to go.
Go into this process knowing that it is a risky procedure if you are not healthy to begin with..your hemoglobin can drop up to four points so if you are only 10 then post procedure you are now a 6 then you are now a candidate for a blood transfusion. Be careful ladies.
World Premiere of Boosky 9.45 am
When washing the garment. If no washer or dryer available here is the old school trick. Wash in cold water with hydrogen peroxide and some liquid soap. Soak if you can. Remember that you can only take the garment off for one hour only.
Then to dry roll up the garment in a towel and wring it until it is damp. Then use hotel hair dryer to thoroughly dry the garment.
13.16 Wednesday 28th August 2013
Every day do a little walking and it helps greatly with this procedure.
Tomorrow is my first massage..
Post operative care
Went to concentra to get my labwork drawn. My insurance was rejected. So the cost of seeing a doctor was $150. The CBC was $17.60. I also wanted a Ferritin but they could not find the price
At Concentra- Check CBC post op
Met a Dr Adenupe at concentra in Abbotts Creek. Very mild, charming and pleasant man. We discussed my concerns and he agrees with me that a CBC would be appropriate post surgery. I cannot stress enough to anyone having this procedure tread lightly whilst you are going through your recovery. Your body had just had major surgery. treat it kindly so you can get to sashay that ass without fainting.
Now if you don't remember my baseline hemoglobin is 13.5. I had 3500 taken off. My expectations are that I would have dropped my Hemoglobin by 4 points. I just need to know how much iron to continue to take post op.. I really do not care about the money. The way I look at it. I would rather have the CBC teke. in a controlled environment and not be symptomatic than be rushed to Emory Hospital for a blood transfusion. (In the words of scrappy) "You feel me?"
The first stick by the phlebotomist didn't even draw blood. I been drinking 4 bottled 500ml waters per day.
Also got my first post op measurements
Remember I am still swollen.
My hematocrit is 34.4
I am grateful. Thank you Lord
My stiffness. It was awesome.. I think this is an essential part of the post surgery treatment modality. It also helps to smooth out scar tissue left over from the lipo. I am so glad that I have three left to do. I will continue to do the massages when I go back home. I have had to add Benadryl to my medications as my surgical areas are itchy. my skin still feels tight..y buttock and hip areas still feel tight.
As Clarice had completed her duties as my carer I was shown how to document my medications, self administer my Lovenox, measure the drainage from My Jackson Pratt drain. I continue to walk the length of my room. I noticed that it is a lot easier to get into my bed and to get up from my bed pushing upwards. The pain is lesser. I can now put my garment on all by myself. I have that downpat. So far I have drank one liter of water. Am hoping to drink another liter before the end of the night. When my tummy feels itchy I have found rubbing it in a circular fashion calms the itchiness.
Met m73rose and her husband yesterday. Her surgery is tomorrow. She is so ready and prepared.. Great lady.
I am very content with my new body shape and will start wearing the abdominal board tomorrow as the hook and eye part of the garment is leaving an imprint In my skin. Also my legs and feet are swollen. This was reduced after the massage..
Time for my afternoon nap.
You don't like my new ass? Really??
I am an adult and I made an adult decision with my money to get this surgery.
Someone said to me. You were fine before but now that you fine as hell try not to be big headed. Like what is that about? If you know me you would know that I am a humble person. I don't need a big ass to be arrogant. It was not my nature to begin with. I think that many men are jealous of the attention that a woman with a shapely ass receives. The rationale for me is that the man who is acting in a jealous manner or making negative remarks or finding fault or telling you that you are ok the way you are is Scared. Yes ladies he is scared that your new body shape will attract a higher quality man. The low level antics that some men use to upset us should not take priority over the basic necessities. The basic necessities are what makes me happy. The first thing a person who cares about you should ask is How you feeling? Any deviant comments from this baseline should IMMEDIATELY be seen as a red flag.
A no good man or a man that does not wish you well will start criticizing you almost instantly. This man has already reduced you to your body parts and does not see you as a person. So my real self ladies be good and kind to yourself and instead of stressing yourself out. Cut the man off. You would be surprised at how many of them start changing their tune but its too late. Shallow superficial men don't or cannot change. So leave him alone girl.
Male haters are bad but I am sure a female hater can be just as cruel. But that is another story.
. If a man asked me to send a post op pictures I did. It's not right for him to then turn around and ask me "why did I do that?" iam four days post op and swollen. I don't need the aggravation of explaining myself to someone who does not pay for anything in my life or makes decisions for me. What I am trying to say in a long winded way is that some men are shallow. Some men don't want you to go any further than where you are now. A new shapely butt is an eye opener. It attracts attention and in some cases preferential treatment. Women who had or have a flat ass know this. I have not been out yet but I can tell you that the few men that I have passed in the hotel hallway have smiled and been courteous. But yes ladies who are pre op. The attention is real. it comes from all angles both positive and negative and be prepared to deflect comments that are not very nice. People who are nasty have their own agenda. My game plan is to heal and to be stress free. Those are my priorities. Everyone else can kiss my new proved Boosky..
Garment for one hour as specified by post operative instructions. The top of my buttocks feel soft. The rest of Boosky remains hard.. Getting ready for a sponge bath
09/01/2013 HEALING going well
Yesterday I had a fabulous most relaxing lymphatic message with Belinda. It was a tranquil and idyllic experience which caused me to become comatose by 8pm. I had some aching in my lower back by the triangle area. The triangle you have to
Wear for six Weeks to create that beautiful butt cleavage. I have now become proficient at taking off and putting on garment. I had an accident with the easy pee contraption thingy me jig.. I was peeing and did not have the funnel part pressed closely to my va Jajay and ended up pissing down my own leg. Lol who does that? Only someone not concentrating. So ladies you have been warned it takes a little concentration to pee straight. That little incident became two hours out of my garment when I had to take it off to wash it and dry it and Also to take care of my own hygiene needs. I also had another bowel movement once again assisted by enema. I have to stop eating carbohydrates whilst my stomach settles back into its regular routine. I have not used my
Vicodin for nearly two days so I will be returning it to Walgreens. I don't need those type of medications in my home.
I am also thoroughly proficient at sponge baths. I noticed that my butt swelling is going down. It's still big but I think it's a lot less shiny looking. The perimeter of each buttock Appears to be softening. Its noticeable. the center still feels hard. I can see some clear sutures to my buttocks. All in all my bruising has been minimal. Any bruising I see I use my arnica gel. It's excellent and you seem to see the benefits by about day 3-4 of usage.
My JP drain has not been draining well at all. The bulb would not stay deflated. I did call the office and was advised it was not an emergency and that Dr J would take care of it on
I am able to push myself up from a stomach lying position without effort. I am able to ambulate quicker also.
Apart from the lower back pain for which I take Tylenol I really would describe every other symptom as aching.. Which is relieved by stretching.
Divorced the JP drain today
Boosky is continually softening. I just have to treat her right and be patient. One of my female friends who was against my surgery saw my post op pictures and actually changed her mind about everything. Now she wants some! People are funny like that. As for the attention - well lets say that men now look me up and down and their eyes linger. I am not familiar with this experience at all. At first I thought I would go about unnoticed as I have been doing previously. Wow did I have my head up my ass (every pun intended). Ladies with a defined and shapely body men do pay attention and smile more. It's true..it's all ages, races and shapes. I still have not sat on Boosky. Have been traveling on my tummy in the back seat. My return to New Jersey will mean me sitting on my yoga roll in my vehicle. Yet another chapter in my journey. But we will cross that when we come to it.. Right... ? Boosky the beautiful bubble will be alright....
Finally back in New Jersey
Day 2 of Aunt Flo..
Anyway talk soon
October is a deserving month
Speaking of hearts, mine was shattered into a thousand pieces by a man who I have loved for some time. About 5 years. He told me that he hated me. I won't go into the ins and outs, but I was so devastated by this that I went to bed for two days. I did not speak to anyone and just lay and contemplated what had I done to deserve that kind of treatment. After my two days of feeling sorry for myself.
I decided that I did Jack Diddly Squat to deserve that. So I thought now is really the time to reconsider how I want a man to treat me. This man did not deserve me. He was not worthy of my time, attention or love. He is not even worthy of kissing this fabulous Jimerson Booty that I possess. So as much as I loved him. I love myself more and I deserve way better. So into the dating scene I have placed myself. And for the record, he has not seen me since my surgery. His loss.
Now onto my booty. Its holding up well. I have been in the Salome for a month. I have been waiting for a follow up call from the office but none never came. Maybe I got my dates incorrect. I am five weeks post op and loving my shape. I had been wearing a squeem over my garment for a couple of days but it was cutting into my skin too much and causing skin tears. (not very comfortable at all.). I am due for another garment and I am going to call Sarah today to find out when I can exercise. I need to make sure that I can do my core work. My diet has been good. Vegetables, Salads, fruits, smoothies, protein shakes, water, meat. I am not in school this semester as this recovery needed my full and undivided attention. The realest thing about having a butt job is the amount of attention that comes from others. Wow, my glutes are doing very well. Its amazing how much power they have. LOL. They have made police officers stop in their tracks and made grown men lose their train of thought. Its funny even when you don't wear form fitting clothing, those "cheeks" demand a second look. I was initially worried that I was losing volume in the first two weeks. But Ladies, I think I have more than enough to work with right now.
Oh and I finally told my mother about my surgery. She is 78 and lives in another country and I did not want to worry her with the whole "I am having surgery" drama. My mother was like "So let me get this right, you spent the entire $12000 on yourself? Well that's a good thing." My mom thinks anything that makes me feel good about myself and enhances my appearance is worth spending money on. She had absolutely no problem with it. So all in all that is the end of the update. I need to add a photo I know. Will try to do it today. Hope that your journey is going well. Its interesting this journey. It strengthens your character in more ways than you could possibly imagine.
Just some more piccies.
Late November Update
To be a narcissist is to act selfishly and to have no remorse or moral conscience regarding your behavior. That's a simplistic definition. However the more easier one to remember is that narcissists are takers. I am and probably always be predominantly a giver. That is essentially how my spirit operates. It has always been my downfall in relationships as I will keep giving without expectation of reciprocity. So here's the interesting thing for those of you who are pre op if you are similar in thinking to me. Once you give this to yourself you will find that you have a different mindset about giving to others. Its an epiphany. You realize that the best thing you could possibly do for yourself is to give to yourself. It starts with making your bed in the morning (yes very basic-but it fulfils the criteria of making your environment comfortable). It also means that the needs of a partner are secondary and not primary to your needs. In other words you come first. It was a big shift in thinking for me. I was like whoa. Am I gonna get hit with a bolt of lightening for this? But I realized that I needed to change. When you constantly give with no returns, or you invest emotionally, sexually or financially in people, be they men or women and they are not truly grateful for what you have done for them; you start to feel resentful. It causes a lot of wear and tear on your spirit and your love of others.
The interesting thing is that when you stop giving, there is major movement amongst the takers. They become belligerent or make up a lot of noise for stuff that they dont deserve and could quite easily get for themselves, but expect you to give them. It changes the whole dynamic between you and them. People are interdependent on each other. That is normal. But when someone becomes dependent upon you for everything and they are not your child, or elderly parent, then you are not only making a cross for yourself to bear, but more importantly you are robbing the taker of a very important growth process. The ability to become responsible and accountable for things that they need in their life. This arrests their development. When I think back to men that I have given to. Initially I thought I was helping but as time went on, it was not seen by the taker as a random favor, it was seen as a necessity and all the things that I wanted or needed became lost. Ladies if researched appropriately and your surgeon knows his craft, then this will be one of the most life-affirming things that you can do for yourself. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty or uncomfortable for giving to yourself. Life is a divine experience and anything that you can do to make yourself beautiful for life is OK. Give to yourself and surround yourself with giving people. The more you give to yourself, the more positive your life becomes.
The takers realizing that they have to take care of their own issues either move on to the next giver or they start to stand up for themselves. Initially as people start to fall away from you, it is lonely, but it is also a rebirth as you can finally assume your rightful place in society and be around people that do actually value you. And to make this painfully obvious I invite any of you who do give repeatedly to others without return to STOP giving and see what happens!! I enclosed some two month post operative pictures. I still have a way to go to making my stomach perfectly flat but I am so happy with my new figure. My dimensions are 38-29-39. I still wear a Faja. I love the women at the Pink Room, 249 Broad Street, Elizabeth, NJ. Maria and Marisol are the best. So until the next update I wish you all a Happy Thanksgiving. God bless and stay focused on giving to yourself.
My doctor will be Dr Jimerson. I initially had Dr Bond however after reconsideration I decided that the travel to Georgia is worth it. I am currently in the process of finishing paying for the surgery. So I have a tentative date of 05/05/2014. I would love to have my surgery before the end of the year. I really want a new body shape. I have started getting rid of clothes that are too small. I have observed Dr Jimerson's work over a period of a few months and I am absolutely sure that he will deliver an astounding body shape for me. I want to have a full prominent butt job. If the before and after body pictures on the advancedplasticsurgery website are an indication of how things will be for me then my life is getting ready to change. I am in awe of the way in which the buttocks have been sculpted to accomodate the fullness. I call Jimerson the Michaelangelo of ass sculpting. Its funny that I have changed my doctor but I am not able to change this on the real self website. I hope that they can change it for me. Real self take note. My patient care coordinator is Sarah - she is a diamond and has been helping through this delicate process. I am looking forward to this journey.