I completely get what you're going through...I had twins so my muscles were completely torn and my skin was a stretched out mess. I had the surgery 4 months ago and am THRILLED with the results. Each month it looks better. I actually went with the full-tuck and breast augmentation (aka mommy makeover...but I despise that term). The first week was rough, I'm not going to sugar coat it! Luckily I had a ton of help from family and my great husband. The risks are absolutely there, but for me, it was so worth it. By the 3rd week I was able to walk basically vertically (you'll know what I mean...you'll be a hunchback for a few days...it feels very tight). If you have any questions, let me know!