10 days till my surgery.... YIKES! I am extreemly nervous for a few reasons and am hoping you gals can help with advice. I have 3 boys 7, 5 and 2 and feel so much guilt. I have wanted to have a tummy tuck for forever and BA since before I had kids and my husband he is so sweet has been saving money in a mommy make over savings account for a couple years. Well needless to say we dont have all the $ saved but we are in a position financially that we can make it happen, but this also means putting a lot of weight on his shoulders by having to take care of the house and kids. See I'm a stay at home mom and pretty much do everything around the house from cooking to mowing the lawn (thank goodness its winter so I dont have to worry about the yard too) I'm a self proclaimed worrier to a fault. I stay up nights worrying about other peoples pets or just silly things, but I do. Anyway so doing this is going to put me in a rough position with my kids.
I'll have the surgery Friday and stay the night then come home to my family. I have told my older boys that I'll be gone over night (by the way I have never been away from my kids over night so this is stressfull in itself) but how I'll explain to my 2 year old that I cant hold him is killing me. He is my best buddy we are together all day I hold him and read to him at night and I dont know how he is going to react to me being home but not being able to do anything for him. My PS said he wants me to try to not hold him espec pick him up for at least 10 days but he said my body will tell me when I feel like I can do it and that I still have to be a parent so I have to accomidate that.
Not alot of people have talked about the recovery and their kids so I'm wondering how your kids did. I think the one that will have the hardest time is my 5 year old because he is old enough to understand that I'm hurt but still at that selfish no empathy stage of life, oh and they are all boys and cant do a darn thing for themselves. I do have to say I'm so so so excited to be able to do this and feel good about myself again and I think I deserve it, but its just so hard to know how things are going to be. If you cant tell I like to have things very much planned including everyones feelings.
Here is a little about me: I'm 37 years old, I'm not at my ideal weight, but my PS seems to think its better to be at a weight I can maintain then try and drop a ton of weight have the surgery and then return to my maintainable weight, that being said I'm 159. I am working on losing weight and will continue to, which he also said if I lost 20-30 more lbs it wouldnt effect my body in a neg way. So thats good. I am 5 foot 1 and live in good old Utah, like I said before I'm a stay at home mom of 3 boys and a fantastic husband. I've been married for 17 years this year and he is as excited for this as I am if not more. He is my rock and basically the only one I have to depend on after the surgery. My parents live nearby but there are physically not in a place that they could help me much espec when it comes to lifitng. I have friends but they all work or live way to far away to help out.
Can I really do this? My husband is a automotive tech so if he doesnt work he doesnt get paid, but he said he plans to take 2 weeks off. He says he's got it all worked out and is willing to do anything to make this happen. I think he is in for a BIG surprise, being a stay at home mom is hard enough work then add a adult that he needs to help. I just dont know. Sorry for rambling and any miss spelling I'm the WORST speller.
By the way my pre op is on March 1, so we'll see what happens then. Well I should attend to my kids but if anyone has advice I could use it. Thanks and good luck to all you gals out there getting more beautiful. I'll add photos as soon as I get to take some