For the past ten years I have been challenged by...
Most of my life I have been a very energetic, vibrant, healthy, athletic woman. I birthed three children by caesarean section and none of them did the damage to my body that the combination of stress, fast and processed foods have. I have gained approximately 80 lbs despite cardio and weight lifting. You can not out exercise a poor diet.
Obesity and depression are difficult to escape alone sometimes, even for a very strong person like me. So I decided to get help by taking a mostly holistic approach to healing my mind body and soul. As part of my body regeneration and rejuvenation I have enlisted the help of Dr. Kenneth Hughes, holistic gurus, a personal trainer and adopting a clean eating lifestyle. Obviously it takes a village to raise a Diva.
I am on a mission to regain my sexy, fit physique by the end of the year via tummy tuck, breast lift, lipo, bbl with Dr. Hughes. He's a frickin' genius, and will tell you so. Lol.
I had a tummy tuck on 05/14/14 and the results were shocking and outstanding! As soon as I learn my way around realself will start posting updates and pictures.
Thanks to all the posters that share their experiences
This Old House
One of my hobbies is home DIY , from small projects to LET'S RIP OUT A WALL OR SOMETHING! I enjoy a great tear down or build up but I know when to call in the professionals. My latest grand project is meee! I see myself as a good old, sturdy house with good bones in need of renovation.
Getting surgeries to help me bring my vision to fruition is a bit daunting, but, honey, sometimes you gotta tear up stuff, make some holes and a big mess to get a masterpiece! Now there was nothing wrong with the masterpiece my Creator put me in originally but time, neglect and stormy weather has ravished this piece or work and restoration is in order.
The tummy tuck is one of my steps in phase 1 of this project. The first step was: Girl, get yo' mind right and get ya life!
The first 2 days of my post op were spent vomiting up fluids and anything I smelled, didn't have to eat it because I was THAT nauseated. I stayed as hydrated as possible. The previous week pre op I ate mostly salads, soups and fruit. I did an Eat. Stop. Eat. eating plan where I ate 2 days, did liquids for 1, ate 2 days...wash, rinse repeat up to 12 ours before surgery. I also drank Smooth Move Tea daily. My goal was to enter surgery as clean and empty as possible. I wanted to minimize the dreaded constipation/bloating drama. It worked! During the first post op days I drank distilled water, lemon water, and watered down cranberry juice, and 2 packets of Energy C per 16oz of water to get nutrients in while the nausea passed.
Day 3 I was able to hold liquids better and a half cup of apple sauce, the snack pack size, at a time. So I ate one every couple of hours, despite having no appetite, in an attempt to coat my stomach for meds and multivitamin. Days four and five were much better. I was off completely off pain meds and could eat low sodium veggie soups, garden salad and a couple of bites of banana a day. I drank Smooth Move tea on the eve of the 4th and morning of the 5th day. On day 6 I released 3 easy bowel movements and have continued to do so. Thus far I have avoided the dreaded over swelling and bloating.
On the morning of my surgery I weighed 224.5lbs *cringe*, seven days post op I was 14.5lbs down! I totally did not expect that. I was just checking for damage. I weighed 5x and threatened my scale within an inch of it's life if it was lying. It knows I have the tendency to flip the hell out at it, so, it wouldn't dare try me that day. Don't judge me.
I hope today's rambling was helpful. I will end here and post pictures. My results were drastic and beautiful to me. My belly flabs and rolls were one big piece of raggedy dry wall that had to come down. Lipo to the flanks and lower back to help get rid of that over stuffed look. I'm still a voluptuous big girl, down sizing.
Next post I will share my experience regarding my doctor, the surgery center, pre and post op care thus far.
CAPTIONS FOR PICTURES WENT WHERE?
4&5 ...TWO DAYS POST OP
PHOTOS IN DIAPER LOOKING PANTIES WITH T SHIRT...BLUE SHOWER CAP BACK SHOT AND LAST ONE ARE ALL 8 DAYS POST OP.
This binder is my frenemy
"I WOKE UP LIKE THIS, FLAWLESS.."...BEYONCE LYRIC
Ummm.. WHAT THE CRAP...
NO ONE CAN STEAL YOUR DREAM IF YOU TURN IT INTO YOUR REALITY.
Our dreams are like vapors in the hands of others, they can't grasp them, and that's ok, it's not their work to bring it to fruition. Some people can't see in us what we see, that's ok, the reveal will be our gift of surprise and inspiration to them. Most people are moved by what they see.
Dreams are not as fragile as one might think, not easily destroyed or defeated. If you think yours is then hurry up, transform it into a vision and onto tangible reality! Make it true!
The Truth will stand.
"After a while I looked in the mirror and realized something. After all those hurts, scars, and bruises, after all of those trials, I really made it. I survived all THAT, which was supposed to kill me!
So I straightened my crown...and walked away like a Boss."
No More Drains
SWELL HELL, SORENESS, LUMPS, HARDNESS, TT SCARS
Pictures are upon awakening in the morning.
IT'S A GREAT DAY, GET SOME!
WEIGHT LOSS AND MEASUREMENTS
TOTAL IN ALL FOR MONTH OF MAY...31 LBS!
MEASUREMENTS DAY OF SURGERY
TWO WEEKS POST OP
3 week update photos
3 week update details... IF IT HAS A COMMERCIAL OR DOESN'T COME OUT OF THE GROUND OR HAVE A MAMA....I'M NOT EATING IT!
Weight Loss for June so far>3.5lbs
As you can see the numbers are still decreasing! I'm drinking mostly water, and on occasions watered down cranberry juice to stay hydrated and keep the calories down. I am consuming several small meals a day consisting mostly of veggies and a protein of chicken breasts or turkey. Had some Spicy Tempura Tuna Sushi(cooked) the other day but passed on the soy sauce, avoiding sodium like the plague. Fruit, nuts and seeds are my snacks.
PEOPLE ARE STARTING TO NOTICE!
I am out more now and even with that bulky binder I have to wear my waist still looks small. I can wear cute stuff without worrying about my stomach being a fashion tragedy! My breasts are popping out like I'm wearing a corset and my butt and hips are more obvious. I get so many compliments from strangers and... the men..... I didn't do it to attract their attention but I ain't mad about it!
I am getting my tig ol' bitties lifted next month. Baby, it's gon' be a hot summer up in here. I plan to be sleeveless, backless, strapless and occasionally braless...just cause I can! I intend to keep a good portion of my breasts size but it will be nice to have perky full breast instead of full long ones. It will be great to not need scaffolding to hold them up too!
IT'S RAINING MEN
There are many things about being overweight that I found difficult. Strangely I found my fat comforting and safe as well. You can be very invisible when you're obese. I didn't have to be clever or "on" all the time to put people at ease around me like I felt the need to do when I was considered fit and very attractive. Some people think overweight folks are dumb with nothing to say any way. It was easy and a relief to hide in the shadow of my kids and husband. Men weren't hitting on me all the time and women weren't quick to hate. No one assumed I was conceited or stuck up as a plump woman, if I was quiet they assumed I was shy, which I am, or insecure, which I'm not. Fortunately more people focused on my personality and intellect, it was refreshing. It seems acceptable to be cute, smart and fat in this world, gorgeous, fit and dumb but don't have brains, beauty and body.
I realize that I will have to get used to all of the attention from men again without being intimidated or feeling threatened. I will also have to contend with the women that don't return my smiles until they realize I'm not on a man hunt, especially their men or judging them. People will always judge you no matter what so I'm not going to let it work my nerves.
Honey, if someone can't handle you being the best 'you' that you can be, it's their problem. Don't dim your light or fire because they can't stand the heat, I used to do that as a younger woman. Now my thinking is.... you can either warm up to the fire or get away from the heat.
I wrote this blog because I know I'm not the only woman having these experiences. I figured the support and warning was needed. The attention from a great transformation can be shocking and annoying for you, your man and even your kids. It's nothing you're doing wrong, people will have varying opinions and reactions to your fabulous results and happiness.
Do YOUR thang my sistahs! Peace, Love and Diva Smooches
DANGEROUS CURVES AHEAD
Peace, Love and Keep the Shiny Side up!
WHAT I EAT AND DRINK TO AVOID OR REDUCE EXCESSIVE SWELLING
I am still wearing my binder at night and a Spanx like compression garment during the day.
Keeping the sodium, sugar and processed foods to the bare minimum is keeping my swelling at bay. I rarely drink sugary drinks including fruit juices, which I water down.
EXAMPLE OF A DAY OF MEALS:
Upon rising I drink a 16 oz glass of distilled water mixed with the juice of half a lemon and 2 packets of Emergen- C 1000mg, I open a capsule of MSM 1000mg and add it
*Distilled water has no sodium unlike other waters
*MSM is awesome for healing....please look into it
Cereal sized bowl of fresh diced pineapple, watermelon, cantaloupe, grapes, mango, apple, and some type of unsalted nuts and seeds trail mix. Three slices of turkey bacon. I take my Multivitamin and Bromelaine (for swelling regulation) afterwards.
1 Scoop Vegan Smart Nutritional Shake..Vanilla (CVS)
1 Scoop BodyTech Critical Aminos XT...Post Workout Recovery Fuel...Melon Punch
* Good for after workouts to help repair muscles after weight lifting. I figured it to be excellent for aiding in my TT muscle repair and support healing.
Added to 20oz Distilled or Filtered water.
Single serving of chicken breast
Plate of vegetable salad.
I just get a bag of ready made salads from market and put half of the bag onto a plate and add spinach and unsalted trail mix of nuts/seed/raisins/cranberry.
16oz unsweetened cranberry juice with a scoop of BodyTech BCAA & Glutamine with Antioxidant Vitamin C + an MSM capsule + Bromelaine tablet.
Bowl of no/low sodium veggie soup, low/no sodium soup crackers
4 oz of Apple Sauce or 4oz of Raw Almonds
Chicken Breast (steamed), spinach, yam
160Z DRINK OF BODYTECH RECOVERY FUEL
I TAKE THE BROMELAINE 3-4X A DAY
ARNICA 30X TABLETS ABOUT TWICE A DAY
AT LEAST 1 1/2 LITERS OF WATER PER DAY IN ADDITION TO THE OTHER FLUIDS I DRINK
I do not eat the exact same things every day for example, I may have a 2 egg omelet of spinach, sweet peppers, bell peppers or scrambled eggs with salsa with turkey bacon and apple sauce.
The key is.. real food, no/low sugar and salt, foods high in nutrition and water content. Tummy tucks make it easy to eat small meals, you get full fast.
On occasion I've had 2 cookies or an ice cream bar. Honestly though, eating junk food makes me nauseous or gives me a headache now. Yay?
I hope you found something you could use in your healing. Some women are eating much differently and having great results. This regimen is working for me, I feel great, am healing well and have achieved a 36 pound weight release thus far.
Check out my THIS OLD HOUSE and 3WK POST FOLLOW UP POSTS TO SEE HOW I PREPPED NUTRITIONALLY FOR SURGERY AND WHAT I ATE THE FIRST WEEKS POST OP.
GRANDMA IS THE NEW SEXY?....LOL
Here's my update and pictures pictures for week 7 post op.
Scale not showing weight loss but my clothes are still getting looser.
This was my first week back in the gym! I took it easy with 30 minutes of fat burning cardio and 20 light weight training.
That's all for now. Glamama has to go love up on her Glam-baby!
ALMOST 3 MONTHS POST OP TT /Flank lipo
I have been cleansing/detoxing over the weekend in preparation for the surgery.
My energy and spirits are still up and I have not over extended myself in an attempt to avoid complications for the past surgery and the next procedures. I'm nervous but excited.
I will be starting another review for my BL and arm/bra rolls lipo under the name ItTakesaVillage2.
BL/Bra Rolls/Arm Lipo!
Thanks for the prayers, well wishes and posts.
CORRECTION FOR REVIEW REGARDING BL/BRA ROLLS/ARM LIPO
STALKER AND OTHER WEIRD SITUATIONS
Fast forward a week later...Girls, I was walking down the street and her brother called out to me. I knew it was him and acted like I didn't hear him. He ran across the street and caught up to me. We exchanged pleasantries and he asked why I didn't come to the b-day celebration at their house and more importantly why I didn't call him. I never took his number so that was weirdness number one. Then he told me he was glad to have a private moment with me and starting proclaiming his love for me. Whaaaat? I never stopped walking.
He claimed I was everything he ever wanted in a woman, and God placed me in his path. He could tell that I was kind and full of love and could love him back. Then he changed it to," No, I know you love me back already. I love you. I am in love with you and can't stop thinking of you." While he was speaking and working himself up I eased my hand in my purse for the pepper spray, I didn't have it, today of all days. I let him talk and interjected a more reasonable line of thinking when I could. At one point he lost it and told me not to counsel him.
I started praying , this was happening so fast. He went from 0 to 120 in 2 minutes! He reached for my hand, I told him not to touch me. He said he wanted to hold me and keep me. Again," don't touch me." I stated that " God" would not promise me to a man when I already have a husband. This joker told me he would kill my husband because he was a no good man to allow me to go around alone and unprotected. That he himself was a real man, has been in jail, was a God fearing man but still a gangster and would blow that MF's head clean off in front of me to prove his love.
I was 2 seconds from losing my bad temper but knew deep down not to incite him more. He started yelling, "Baby, I love you! So in love with you I can't think straight!" I finally turned to him and said, " In Jesus name do not touch me or take another step towards me! I am going on my way and you will stop this nonsense now!" "God, is my covering and has a hedge of protection around me."
He stopped. I continued to quickly make my way to the store. He was screaming my name and professing his at the top of his lungs has I crossed the huge parking lot but he didn't move towards me. Lunatic. I went through that store and out of the entrance onto the next street and on about my business to enjoy my day. I was a bit shaky and nauseous though.
I get asked out every single day by: professional men, married men, younger men, crackhead men, one guy that "manages" strippers and other businesses offered to take me traveling and be my sugar daddy, a pastor supposedly starting up a church affiliate for TD Jakes invited me to Vegas for a few days (I looked him up online while he was talking to me in line, he has a mugshot). I was considering checking out his church until he invited me to Vegas.
I mind my own business, never flirt, am a modest dresser but fashionable. All of these shenanigans happen within a five minute exchange. California men are something else!
I'm too old for this foolishness. Time to buy a car and save my walking for the treadmill.
I am not impressed or swayed by men approaching me because basically their intent is to gain access to your body and other assets. I'm not flattered that some lusty joker wants to selfishly use my body. Never have been. I respect myself, control my desires and present myself with dignity. I am a Royal Negress and I know that. LOL.
However, no woman deserves to be accosted and violated no matter what she is wearing or how she presents herself. Such actions are exacted by predatory types of men due to their own desires to control, manipulate and harm others.
Dr. Kenneth Hughes is a very skilled man. He is a genius and doesn't mind telling you. I appreciate his confidence, sense of humor and artist eye. Much like a sculpture looking at block of marble or clay, this talented man can see right through fat and body trauma to the beautiful physique beneath. Dr. Hughes also has the skills, education and thousands of hours of experience to bring about that beauty. My tummy tuck performed on 5/14/14 yielded shocking and outstanding results! I plan to have him do a breasts lift and bbl. He answered all of my emails within 24 hours both pre and post op. My surgery was performed a week after my consult with him. He and Dr. Lebowitz, the anesthesiologist make a great team. Dr. Lebowitz calmed my nerves regarding the general anesthesia but most importantly he woke me up! The staff always took care of my concerns, calls, appointments, pre/post op care with patience, professionalism and courtesy. I found it a surprising experience because they work in a pressure cooker, the place is very busy. Not all things went perfectly but it all went well.