My life as an obese child and teenager was truly miserable looking back on it 30 years later. I had no self esteem and no sense of self worth. I learned to live with this affliction, thinking there was no hope to my wieght issues. So I accepted it and in that action found the strength to carrie on with life and be happy . I accepted the fact that I most likely would never marry or have the chance to have children. And all was ok from there till 1989 when I had my GASTRIC BYPASS.
I was 300 lbs at that point. I lost 160 lbs in 8 months. I should have Taken more vitamins and minerals during the process, as my hair ,skin , and eyesight suffered in different degrees of severity, But over all I was very pleased with the outcome.
OK NOW THIS IS ALL VERY GOOD INFORMATION FROM MY EXPERENCE THAT SHOULD BE CONSIDERED.
They say in order for them to be able to do this operation, you have to be certain there is not any depression. WE All Know, if your obese you ARE depressed, And if there is a chance that the opportunity of having this operation was a possiablity.Any one of us would say anything to secure this. And no chance some form filling hospital DR. who spent less than 5 min. looking at your clip board would be able to prevent this from happening. You have to see someone and really spending serious time talking about what to expect when you have slimmed and the inpact of the life as you had come to accept is now turned into something completely unforin to you.
You will still have your issues with selfworth but you will learn to have your coping mechanisms, like bulimia,onerexia,drinking, gambling, whoring anything that will eleveate these feelings.
Just know what you are getting yourself into, so that you are prepared for when things are tough ( and they will. life still happens to all of us) you will be better able to cope and camileon into yet another new life.
After I lost the wieght, All I wanted was the life I thought I would never have, Husband, home, children.Never thought there would come a day I would be the one to be able to pick and choose. And I did. The marriage fell apart as they so often do. But my old thinking kept me feeling that it was all me, it was all my fault. I did everything to keep my new found figure, including bulimia,onerexia, going to bars and dancing all night to help in staying thin. sleeping with anyone who thought I was worth being with. I lost all my friends( on purpose ) and developed social disorders. Now 20 years later I am alone no husband no children no real home. But a life I have. You find out that you never know what could be around the corner. You accept this new life as you have the others, knowing it can flip and will again.
I now have problems, derectly or inderectly caused by my bypass,but I have decent health and I try not to be soo hard on myself anymore.And accept what life throws at me ( good or bad ). Would I do it again ? OH YA!