20 Years Old Breastfed 3 Babies. Considering Saline Implants.

I'm 20 years old. I started having babies young. I...

I'm 20 years old. I started having babies young. I got married when I was 16 and am still happily married with three beautiful children :) I nursed all three and am currently nursing an 8 month old. I started looking into breast augmentation because before I had children I was measured as a 34DD I can still wear that same size it never really changed while breastfeeding. But I've noticed my breasts are a little droopy now and have lost sooo much volume. :( Anyways I want to restore my youthful appearance and I want larger than before because I have a wide rib cage so I think it will look good. And I want a natural feel and appearance. I have read silicone is much more natural looking and feeling but I'm not 22. One dr. said I would qualify because I've nursed three babies. Idk if it's true it was online lol. But silicone also scares me I know its fda aprooved but I'm not sure that makes me feel %100 safe ha. Anyways I will try to keep you all posted I'm going to contune breastfeeding my last baby for a while and keep researching. we are leaking toward saline. My stats are 5'4 1/2 and in 132 lbs

waiting...bills bills bills

So hubby and I had a talk. Originally we were planning to do BA a couple month after I stopped nursing. Hopefully around February. Baby turns one in December. We have an expensive car payment with interest so we want to double it and pay our car of early before saving for a BA. Saving money in the long run. And this is our last baby so I figure I can nurse him for a year and a half and then wait two months before a consult. I already picked my PS and spoken with staff. So this puts us probably out to Nov 2015. I'm kind of bummed about this but know it will get us ahead quicker and before we spend almost 5 grand on boobs paying off something we need more seems more responsible. Hopefully if everyone is patient my review will help :) just have to wait a year :,,) bitter sweet

decisons. support. mommy make over?

Hubby and I talked. We are going to pay off our credit card debt which isn't very much and then pursue this journey. I haven't had a consultation yet but have spkoke with the staff where I'm planning on going and I know two patients personally so that helps. I'm considering getting a Minni or full tummy tuck as well as BA and want to have an umbilical hernia corrected as well. My tummy isn't horrible but there is muscle separation and loose skin. Im hoping to hear more from real self ladies than I have. Thanks for reading ;)

emotional flip flopping

I really expected for my review to sound different lol. Its funny what you put on Here once u actually start writing. I could really use some support from other real self ladies. Those closest to me aren't very supportive of plastic surgery and I understand it. But it does make this journey a little tuffer. One minute I'm all for doing this and then the next I feel stupid and vein and selfish. :( I'm a Christian so I'm also not sure if maybe this is wrong? My husband and I talked about it and he reassured me. Ya know I'm not doing this for the world to see my body. But it's for us and my confidence as a young woman. I still feel kind of silly or ridiculous about it. But I'm tired of feeling like I don't look my age with my body and I want to be confident with myself. Even though I want to go quite a bit larger I'm hoping I can hide them if I want to lol I don't want people to for sure tell I've got them done. I got to thinking...is this really that much different than dying our hair every few weeks or going tanning or painting.our nails buying clothes etc. I think each human being deserves to feel beautiful and I shouldn't be so quick to judge others for their actions for whatever their reasonings are for doing whatever they r doing. I will worry about me and my own intentions. I think beauty is in the eye of the beholder and we don't NEED these procedures to be beautiful. But it sure would make me feel confident to look in the mirror and feel like I look 20 again ;) I'm so blessed to have my babies I'd never trade them for the world. But I'm only going to be 20 once. I don't need to party or go nuts that's not what I'm saying but I'd at least like to be comfortable iny own skin even if its plastic surgery altered. And that's my thoughts for today. Hope to hear from you soon fellow real selfers

horror stories.

I think those closest to me are done hearing about plastic surgery. The only one who supports getting it done is my husband. But I think even he might be tired of hearing about it. He is for my mommy make over or for me not doing it. He likes toned up tummies and big breasts but he loves me for me. So with that being said I'm kind of chickening out a bit. I want fuller breasts and no more loose skin but I've been reading real self horror stories and I just don't want to spend thousands of dollars and still be unhappy. Is this all just too cracked up? Is the media and peers pressing too hard that we need to look a certain way? I just don't know

need a buddy.

Just when I start to get excited about the. Mommy makeover I try to councle with family and end up discouraged. They are very down to earth and find this all superficial, stupid, and down right not worth it. I have to admit being raised this way I do agree to some extent. I I don't want or need this for the world but how selfish to want it for just me. But I still want it. I want to be happy with who I am inside and out. I'm not someone who hates themselves I think surgical enhancement would make me happy. I'm not striving for perfection. But better than what I have. I'm not hidious or perfect. Just an imperfect mom wanting to match outside to inside. No one else needs to see it or know about it. Its for me and my husband. But here on real self I feel a bit safer and hope to help other ladies after I get through this journey , in one piece! I just wish I could get a little more feed back. I feel odd posting pics but when i see them on reviews it really helps. I'll see about posting naked ones. Might be after surgery I'll do before's and after's. Or private message. Again stats are 133 lbs 5'4 1/2 waist 31 bust 38 1/2 hips 36

wow! support!

Thank you so much real self girls! It feels so good to read all of these encouraging comments from.people who knows exactly what I'm going through :)
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Oh boy I have been there so many times and now even afterwards people have their opinions and whispers and trust me not giving a care what people think will take you far. You love yourself and do what makes you feel good. In the long run you are living this life for you not for anyone else. Im so thankful for this site. Here you will find sisterly support for all the emotions you will go through and you will never be judged for being who you are and what you feel. Its truly amazing. Have a beautiful day
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Thank you! Everything ur saying is true! Its a great site! It will take you far. You just have to get to that poi t ha. Thank you. You have a beautiful day as well!
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Hey girl, do not let people discourage you, do what your heart tells you and what will make you feel better and more confident. It's not about having a body for other ppl to look at, it's about YOU! You only live once and will only be 20 once as you say, why is that superficial? Why would want to feel beautiful and confident be classified as superficial? Then everyone that goes to the gym or get their nails done are superficial, then all of us are. Honestly darling, do not let negative people let you down, they're only jealous of your courage and of your brave decision. Put your foot down and say, I'm doing it for ME no matter what they say. Plus, the most important person (hubby) encourages you, what else do you need? xxx
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Siena B.n Thanks for your comment. My phones memory was full so I didnt see all these amazing supportive comments!! I said the same thing about nails hair etc. There is a difference in price but still as humans we all have our own type of wordly desires so to speak. I think what matters is where your heart is when you make these decisions. My hubby has been great! Its so nice to get support from other people who know what I'm going through as well though!!
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Of course, u're totally right. Women need to stand up for what they want and stop being pressured by family / society / other negative influences. Luckily it's the 21st century and you have lots of people that support u hun, there's nothing better that doing something for yourself and feeling great about it. I'm sure you deserve a bit of ME time now that you're young, and you have total right of wanting to feel beautiful and confident! it will not only help your relationship with yourself but it will also reflect in your attitude towards others. Nothing beats a confident woman! :) Uve got all my support xxx
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I'm worried about that too. Has society pressured us to feel like we "need" to look like this? I very much appreciate your support. For a while I felt like no one at home besisdes g hubby got it. He's the most important but I have a close knot family and a close best friend who doesn't support it either. So then I made my review and didn't seem to get any here either! Lol now all of the sudden bam! All theses pretty ladies who know just what I'm going through! So thank you again!
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It's natural is us to want to feel / be beautiful, and you already are (don't forget that!) however this will provide you extra confidence and make you feel better, which is what you want. A lot of other women are here to support you and some of them have been through the same sort of hurdles. The outcome is always Do what your heart tells you! xxx
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Thank you SienaB! Your words are encouraging! I think my next step is to just stop listening to the negatives. Or caring about the and things people want to say about breast implants. To tell you the truth I don't want to tell any one what I'm doing because of fear of jugdement. Why should I care I don't know. But I don't like the idea of " you have breast implants?" Eww
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Yes that's a different thing which I can totally understand, it's no one business what you get or don't get done. You shouldn't tell anyone about it if you don't want to. Plus, I don't think you're thinking of getting massive porn star style breasts anyway, so people shouldn't notice nor judge. So many women have breast implants these days hun that "you have breast implants?" does not sound like an awkward question anymore, but I get what you're saying: keep it to yourself or just tell your closest friends, as it's no one else's business. And you are totally right: stop caring about what negative people say is the first step. Next step, be positive and start planning ur BA! :) xxx
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I have a grandson that is older than you. So here is my advise as a Nana. If you have the chance to do this now....then really consider it strongly! I wish that I had been able to do this when I was young, but there's no way in the world that I could have afforded it then. If you don't do it you may spend a long, long time regretting it. I have disliked my body for so many years and here I am getting a MM at age 57! It's always easy for family and friends to say that you shouldn't do it or that it's being superficial....They don't live in your head, they don't know how you feel about yourself. You have your whole life in front of you. If you are finished having babies, this is pretty much the beginning of the rest of your life! Best wishes on making a decision that you will be at peace with! PS My family doesn't know. I have told my son that I'm having my tummy done. I am not telling anyone who will put negativity toward my decision. I'll tell them while I'm recovering:-)
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Who is going to help you during your recovery? I really am thankful for your comment. My husband said what you did that I will probably end up regretting it if I dont do this. My biggest fear other than dieing from this lol is to regret doing it because of bad results. I hope all goes well and that you enjoy your new hot body!
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Hi there!! Follow your heart. Many many people told me no and day after day I didn't like my own reflection. No amount of working out for sit ups would fix my tummy and my boobs were pancakes!! Stick close to supportive people. Only u know what u want in your heart so u have to go after it... It's so worth it. I would never look back. Start putting up pictures of bodies u want..so u have it to see daily. It's an emotional roller coaster but there's no better feeling when u see yourself naked and your like daaaaaammm Gina finally I love it!! I'm really excited for u. Get some consultations :)
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Thank you haha I am gonna get some consultations ;) and I've been gathering wish pictures. I'm nervous about the recovery and money but I'm also excited to be happy with me again :)
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I wanted to come say "hi" here, too! :) It's so tough, isn't it? I'm 32, not 20, but I had my first baby at 20 and I was so shocked when I started looking the mirror afterwards. I felt like I didn't recognize myself anymore. My mom had 2 kids and her body snapped right back. She left the hospital wearing her pre-pregnancy jeans. She has no stretch marks, no saggy stomach and perky breasts. I never really thought about babies changing my body into something I didn't even recognize! I obviously expected changes... but GEEZ! Over 7 years, I had 3 more babies and, after 4 kids, my body doesn't feel like my own anymore. I eat well, I work out hard, I'm active and busy and I try to be fairly image conscious... to feel good about myself, not for anyone else. You are absolutely right, you DESERVE to look in the mirror and feel good. It sounds like you have a good plan to start putting money aside. I saved for years to make this happen. I think the mommy-guilt just goes with the territory. It means you are a good mom and a thoughtful wife who worries about providing for your family's needs. Just don't be afraid to provide for your own, too.
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Thank you gingerdoll! I will be following your journey :) I was 16 when I had my first and the only one in the family whos body did bounce right back other than my breasts. They were actually a bit smaller which sucked! Haha. I didn't get hardly any stretch marks and I lost the weight in 10 days. So when I was 18 and had my second baby I had a VBAC. C section with the first. Everything went well but I did get stretch marks from the belly button down and a couple on the front hip part of my thighs. Then 3 months later we were pregnant again! And my last pregnancy gave me only a couple more stretch marks. And when I was pregnant I hadnt quite lost all the baby weight. Luckily now my last is 9 months old and I'm down to 132. My pre baby weight when I was 16. I'd like to be 125 before the surgery. And like many the more weight I lose the more my belly skin shrivles and my breasts sag. I'm happy for you to be able to get to do this after you've waitied for so long. I think as women we carried our babies and most of us fed them from our bodies and soon that was all we knew. I'll always be their mommy but one day they will be grown and be busy with their own lives. So I will need my own identity again one day. as much as I'd like to keep them.all babies and have them need mommy forever that's not how it works lol.
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Your story is very similar to mine. By looking at your pix as of right now... If u find "the dr" that u will let perform a MM on you... Your outcome would be ahhhhhhmaziiiiing! I know too how frustrating it is when u have finally decided to do what u need to do to getting that feeling of self beauty and ur sexy back. Ur story made me remember how many different, freak'n times something would come up that needed to be taken Care of and therefor would push my surgery back. 6months hear to get to this point, another month or 3 for this other thing that ALSO needs to be done before u can get the surgery. Finally after finding the dr I straight up told my husband that "if it were the other way around and you felt the way about your body like the way I feel about mine... Knowing there a fix out there... And yeah, it's expensive...but if you lost 2-3inches in ur dick size and there was a way to get those inches back... U'd have done whatever it takes to get that done immediately..." He finalllllly got it. All I'm saying is...there's always gonna be something that needs to be paid or whatever... That's life, but it's important for ur entire family's life... Since having mine don in July... I found the part of myself that I had almost forgotten over the years of being pregnant, breastfeeding and pump and Dump, and be of pooped or peed or spit up on... U know what I mean... It was nice to feel my sexy back. I'm happy, my husband is happy and bc of that my littles are too. So get that shit done lady! They have so many payment options these days...
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OMG, the penis size comparison is PERFECT. I'm saying that to my husband tonight. He's supportive and has been behind me since I first started researching, but he doesn't "get it" like I wish he would. I think that'll do the trick. LOL!
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Yay!! Let me know how he responded!! Good luck lady!!
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Hahaha you made me laugh JhenRox! I told that to my hubby and he laughed too! Lol I agree if mommy and daddy are happy, all we be happy. I guess I just feel guilty or the stereotype "fake" for wanting this and that it will make me happy. I felt like I had to do some.inner soul searching or something or I'd always have issues. But truthfully I'm not that self conscious of who I am. I've accepted my stretch marks and breasts and understand they are a part of life. But still doesn't mean I like it ha
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Honestly. Choose the right doctor. I feel like it's one of the best decisions I ever made. Just make sure your in the right financial position to do it. You won't regret it. Believe me. Like you I'm in my 20's and I was very saggy under my clothes. Now I can't wait to take a shower and look at my new body! Think about it... :)
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Oh I'm thinking about it! Haha and all the other fun stuff to do with a new hot body with hunny lol sorry for tmi but I can't wait for my husband to say " you're so sexy." And me believe that I am too!
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I freaked out a little trying to decided if this is really what I wanted! I starting looking at all these documentaries and all these bad things and finally someone said to me your looking for something to go wrong if you want the surgery then get it when you want a cheese burger you don't research all the things wrong with it or the bad things it can do to your body now I know it's a little different bc of how much money you are spending and it's a big decision but think about it if you want this there's nothing wrong with that so go for it! Just make sure your completely comfortable with you dr! I decided to do it and I can't wait! I stopped researching all the bad and starting researching the good don't stress over something that hasn't happened yet
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^^ yeah! What Dachevelle22 said!! It IS totally worth it! I went to a few consults before I found my PS. I knew immediately he was the guy I was gonna let slice and dice me... U'll know when u find ur surgeon
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I'm scared I would t find a goof one in my area a good p.s. I reaserched all of it because I wanted to know the reality that it could happen so if it did I might not be fully devastated. That's what is hard about this. I am ok and functional right now. I don't want to get so messed up that I do end up hating myself or my health gets ruined. I want it to go as good as possible but it's the unknown
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