Hi, I am 16 and when i was going through my 8th grade transition to a freshman i grew 4 cup sizes then i grew 1 more size now i am 32DDD and i have horrble pain. my dad is imbarised of me when with his friends and does not understand how hard it is to find a bra that fits great.my mother left when i was young. so my dad is a single dad so how do i bring it up that i want reduction? and that i might be able to get it free? please reply Sincerly the very ugly duckling
How Do I Bring Up That I Want a Breast Reduction?
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Breast reduction can be done in teenagers
You certainly sound like a breast reduction might really help you, even though you are only 16. I have written alot about breast reduction in teenagers, and while we think about the surgery differently for young people than for mature women, teenagers such as yourself feel much more comfortable about themselves after breast reduction. I don't blame you for feeling uncomfortable about talking to your dad, I never could have discussed my body with my father when I was 16 and he was a doctor. You should be able to talk to your own doctor or pediatrician about your concerns and your doctor can than approach the problem with your dad for you. This is actually the most appropriate way to go, and your pediatrician should be very happy to do this. As an alternative, if you have some adult women in your life who you talk to about personal things you can't talk to your dad about, on of them may be able to discuss breast reduction with him for you. Although I never could have brought up this subject with my dad, once someone else I trusted did, I am sure he would have been supportive of me.
Discussing breast reduction with a single dad
From your question I must assume you don't have a peditrician or other Dr. who is aware of your situation because they should have discussed this with your dad. If you did they would be obligated to speak with him as they would if you had any other SERIOUS health problem.
This is a SERIOUS health problem with significant physical and mental ramifications at this most important transitional phase of your life. Press ahead with it , and if your dad wants to I'd be happy to speak with him at 718 430 0942.
Once you're on the" road" get the name(s) of a board certified Plastic Surgeon from the American Soc. of Plastic Surgery.
Large breasts in teenagers
As a single father of a daughter, I understand your concern. On the one hand, there is the sexuality attached to a woman's breast and how that influences her relating to other people. On the other hand, you mention functional and physical problems that your large breasts create. Most fathers want to do what is best for their children and want their children's lives to be unstressed and happy. I would mention the pain aspect and suggest to your father that your breasts may be the source of your discomfort. That will open the door for more discussion about how you feel about your breasts.
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Juvenile Breast Reduction
It sounds like you are dealing with juvenile breast hypertrophy along with the physical and psychosocial consequences of this diagnosis. In other words, the breasts are too large for the frame causing both physical and psychological distress.
You should sit down and calmly discuss your problems with your father and show him that you have done your homework and understand the potential risks and consultations associated with breast reduction surgery. You should also understand that further surgery may be necessary in the future (for example if the breasts were to grow in size again).
On the other hand, breast reduction surgery is one of the most patient pleasing operations we perform and I think that for the right teenager (enough symptoms) it may be an excellent option (regardless of the age).
I would suggest an in-person consultation with a well-trained/experienced board-certified plastic surgeon.
This is a conversation you should have with your parent. Obviously until you are 18 or older you can not have this done without your parent's permission.
Informing Dad about Breast Reduction
Most men do not understand why large breast may be a disadvantage. When this ignorance is combined to the sadness every father experiences when his little girl becomes a woman (breasts, periods, boyfriends calling) and many fathers stir clear of discussing any items involving sexuality, it is much harder to communicate.
The tactics used would depend on your rapport with your dad, his personality and educational level. If he has any influential women close to him, I would recruit them to help you introduce the topic. I would similarly try the direct approach of telling him how the breast stop you from being athletic, working out, engaging in certain activities and just how painful they are. The American Society of Plastic surgeons has a position paper on this topic which you can print to show him and your physician.
Dr. Peter A. Aldea
I want a breast reduction
Try to have an intermediary discuss this with your parents, like a pastor, school teacher, a relative like a grandparent. Or maybe your Peds doctor or Gyn doctor can help in these difficult time. Best of Luck from MIAMI Dr. B
Breast reduction and justifying medical necessity
I really think you should tell him that you have a medical problem for which you need to see a doctor. Schedule a consultation with your physician, pediatrician, and or gynecologist first and discuss it with them. Review your medical symptoms such as neck, back and shoulder discomfort, limited physical activity, rashes in breast crease, etc. Also I would agree with searching for medical articles to show your dad after the physician's examination and recommendation.
Breast Reduction in Teens
Even though this is a delicate subject, you should discuss it with your dad. Tell him that you would like to see your family doctor or pediatrician. If you have accompanying symptoms, this may well be a procedure which is covered by your insurance company.
Discussing breast reduction
This is a sensitive subject certainly. Depending on how openly you can discuss things with your dad, the best approach is to be honest with him. Maybe download some articles on the benefits of reduction so he can begin to understand the need you have.
But don't try to "get it free" as the result will likely be very mediocre. I have seen a 15 year-old who was destroyed by a dentist doing a reduction on her.
If you have insurance, they should cover it hopefully for the size you are. See some excellent surgeons in your area for consultations and bring your dad along but not for the exam part with the doctor.
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