I'm sixteen years old, and for as long as I can remember, my nose has been terrible. I'm incredibly self-conscious about my nose. Because of it, I've always been relatively shy around people I'm not close with because I feel like they're just staring at my nose and not me. I really want to feel confident and I don't want my nose to stop me from living my life. What should I do?
Should I Talk to my Parents About Rhinoplasty?
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First of all let me tell you as a surgeon who focuses on noses, your nose is really not that bad at all and it will not stop you from living your life and I bet most people are not looking at your nose. You need to know this.
Now with this said, many teenagers or even adults gain much more immediate self confidence after a successful rhinoplasty." I say successful rhinoplasty because a bad nose job can make you feel even more self conscious and depressed so be careful who you eventially choose as your surgeon.
Discussing this with your parents is absolutely mandatory BUT be prepared to be surprised. They may listen to you and be responsive and take you to some consultations or they may be shocked to hear you want a nose job and may even yell at you and riducule you so be prepared for either scenario so that you are not taken by surprise.
My own parents were relatively OK with me getting a nose job when I was a teenager but they were not OK with its cost so I waited till I was 28 and paid for it myself. I have plenty of patients who are in their 40's 50's or even 70's who always wanted a rhinoplasty but because of their parents lack of emotional or financial support, had to wait till much later in life. The point is, you can easily live a very happy and productive life without a nose job and if you want one then you should do it when the time is right but do not hide out and dont be shy because of your nose. No one is perfect. Be happy.
Teenage Rhinoplasty: Everybody is staring at my nose!!
I remember when I was your age, and I thought I was mature and knew everything and that everyone over 30 was soooo old! Right now your physical body is a pool of raging hormones, and that messes with how your brain works. Try to get out there and be with your friends, the ones who know the 'real you' and talk about your feelings and try to work out your fears with their help. Definitely talk to your parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, anyone that is interested in you and can help you. Maybe some of them had similar feelings, and they can help you understand what is important and what is not.
If you think that your feelings are too much for you to handle, and you can't get the help you need from your family, then you might want to ask your parents or your school counsellor for a referral to a therapist. Body dysmorphic disorder is a problem that I have seen in young people, when some relatively small issue creates a crushing pressure that is hard to handle, sometimes to the point that the person can't leave the house or participate in any activities. It does not mean you are crazy or anything, it just means that maybe you need some help in getting through this problem. Believe it or not, recognizing that there is something wrong is the first step in getting better, and having a healthier outlook on your relationships with other people.
Whether or not there is something 'wrong' with the shape of your nose is not the point here, it is how you are handling it. Definitely do not jump to wanting to get nose surgery done at your age until you have thoroughly explored your feelings and made sure that you are doing it for all the right reasons. Who knows, maybe you will learn to love yourself, just like your friends and family love you and accept you just the way you are.
I really hope that you have the support, love, and understanding of their parents, friends, and family. In a few years, you will be an adult, and then you can make an informed decision for yourself. Until then, get out there and enjoy being 16! There is a huge wonderful world out there for you to enjoy, and unfortunately there is no way of turning back the clock on those wonderful teenage years- when they are gone, they are gone forever. Try to get involved in a charity, your church, your community, or any activity that is important to you personally- the environment, sick children, the elderly, the poor- giving to others is great therapy! You can really help yourself by helping others.
Claudio DeLorenzi MD FRCS
A few points: Your nose is not terrible. But, all of us have our insecurities. Even those that we perceive to be very beautiful. I would venture to say also that your true friends love you for who you are. Nevertheless, the kind words will not likely change your opinion. At this age, I would definitely talk with your parents. They may discourage the procedure. You can digest their opinion and also visit several plastic surgeons. You can generally see one for a free consultation. The more information, the better. Some unbiased aesthetic information will really benefit you and your parents in your decision. On brief exam of your photos, you do have what is known as a mild dorsal hump (bump on your nose). However, your nasolabial angle (the angle the nose makes with the lip) is approximately 100 degrees. This is nearly the aesthetic ideal. Thus, aesthetically, your nose has both ideal and less than ideal features. Before thinking about this further, it would be wise to see a board certified surgeon in your area to evaluate you in person. The is no other way to assess your nose three dimensionally. Additionally, nasal function is important. This is ideally assessed in person. Good luck.
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First thing you have to do is talk to your parents about your feelings. Then ask them if you can see a Plastic Surgeon for a consultation. If your folks agree then do your homework about doctors specializing in Rhinoplasty in and around your area. Seeing a surgeon allows you to express your specific concerns to someone who can educate you as to what can and cannot be done to improve the appearance of your nose. You also get a reality check about cost, and risks involved in the procedure. Then it's up to you and your parents to decide if you want to pursue surgery. Overall, Rhinoplasty is a great operation and helps patients to put there nose in better balance with the rest of the face. If you goals are realistic and the surgeon is experienced you have an excellence chance of being very satisfied with the change in your appearance. Best of Luck
Having plastic surgery is strictly a personal decision, and you should choose to do whatever makes you the most happy. Please feel free to send any additional, close-up side profile and frontal photos of your nose to my office and I would be happy to provide you with advice. My contact info is listed in my profile. Thank you, and best of luck to you.
Speaking To Parents re Rhinoplasty
First of all, whether or not you have a rhinoplasty, your nose should not "stop me from living my life". With all due respect, you must discuss this with your parents - at 16 years old, you are a minor. Parental and professional advice will be beneficial.
Yes, talk over Rhinoplasty decision with your parents.
It is common for teens to want to change the appearance of their nose. In my experience, the majority of parents are willing to listen to their teens and support the decision for Rhinoplasty. The earliest age for Rhinoplasty is 15, but parental consent is required. Your photo shows a prominent bump, which should correct nicely with rhinoplasty. Good Luck. -Dr. G
Talk to your parents about rhinoplasty...I did!
I feel your pain--I was 14 when I had my nose fixed. Mine was just about as bad as yours and I felt deformed. Nothing could be worse for the self-esteem of a teenager than to feel misshapen. I begged my Mom to let me get my nose fixed, and she could see how terrible my self-esteem was, so she encouraged me to call a doctor myself, which I did!
I think the surgeon was a little hesitant to operate on me, because I was so young, but when I told him that "even if you make a mistake, my nose will be better," he knew how deeply bothered I was by my nasal appearance. Having my nose fixed changed my life, made me feel normal, and improved my self-esteem immensely. I get that same thrill now when I operate on patients and help them feel better about themselves.
So, speak to your parents about it and best of luck!
Speaking to Parents regarding Teenage Rhinoplasty
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It's very important to have this plastic surgery discussion with your family. Outside of financial support and providing informed consent for surgery, one should have the emotional support of loved ones following rhinoplasty surgery. From a surgical standpoint, rhinoplasty for teenagers is typically considered around 16 for girls and 17 for boys.
Rhinoplasty is common plastic surgery procedure for teenage boys and girls. The nose is relatively larger than the rest of the face during this time. Large noses may be due to a bump at the bridge, wide nasal tip, or droopy tip. Due to this facial imbalance or asymmetry, many teenagers pressure their parents for cosmetic surgery. Body parts that might appear too large or too small now can become more proportionate over time.
The nose continues to grow as we age, but the largest rate of nasal growth occurs during teen years. Generally, this rate slows greatly at age 16 for most girls, and 17 for most boys. As a result, most plastic surgeons wait until this age before considering rhinoplasty for teenagers.
Only after a comprehensive evaluation by a rhinoplasty surgeon can he/she help make appropriate recommendations for you. Best of luck.