I fully agree with my colleagues. Without seeing a good quality photograph with your eyes looking forward in neutral gaze it is impossible to answer such a sophisticated question. The fact that three surgeons felt differently after fully examined you, should signal to you that there is no uniform agreement on how your situation SHOULD be handled.
The degree of lower lid looseness would determine just how much tightening the lower lid would need - canthoPEXY, canthoPLASTY or Tarsal Strip. The hollowness of the Tear Trough could be handled generally speaking with a vertical mid face lift (several such operations or a SOOF lift) or just by applying filler deep along the lower edge of the eye socket to fill the concavity.
Remember - Big operations should give Big results but at the cost of potentially Big complications. You may be happier with a "smaller" improvement which exposes you to smaller risks.
The pictures you added yesterday disclose loss of attachment of the muscle lifting the upper lids (levator) resulting in the sleepy appearance. Depending on the mechanism of loss of insetion and muscle function, this may be fixed in several different ways.
The lower lids in the bootom picture APPEAR lax with SCLERAL SHOW (the position of the lower lid suggests poor tone). This would need to be fixed before any significant lower lid surgery is done especially if already associated with either tearing or dry eyes. the choice of WHICH lower lid tightening procedure (-Pexy, -Plasty or tarsal strip wound depend on the extent of looseness).
A SOOF or a verical Mid Facelift would probably correct the tear trough deformity but these are not small operations.
For a minimal potential impact on your eye shape, pick the simplest procedure. You may not derive the greatest benefit but you will not take on extreme complications either.