Photos would really be helpful. Also you haven't really indicated WHY you think your surgeon was too aggressive with your upper and lower blepharoplasty. Are you eyelids not closing properly? Is your lower eyelid being pulled downward? Are you having dry eyes? Are you eyelids looking hollow? Is your scar not healing well?
There are a lot of different issues that could be going on with a lot of different ways to address them. Please be a bit more specific and also try to provide before AND after photos for us to compare.