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Helping Post-Op Plastic Surgery Patients

Hi All, I have a close relative who recently underwent a major, cosmetic surgery. For about 2 weeks she needs my help getting in and out of bed, chairs, car, etc. I don't mind that at all, but instead of her letting me help her with my hands...she has insisted on me squatting down and pulling on my T-shirt as she puts her full weight on the back of my neck. I told her how much this hurts, but she is extremely grumpy and insists on it. Can anyone let me know if this is normal?

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4 Doctor Answers | Asked by hello2010 in 91607
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Care after plastic surgery

I have been in this business for 25 years and cannot imagine any reasonable patient needing the care you describe or subjecting a friend to this unpleasant treatment.  I'd suggest she visit her doctor immediately to be sure her healing is according to their schedule and tell her you are done and she needs to get going on her own.  This is certainly reasonable at 2 weeks.
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Abusive Treatment of Care Taker after Surgery

Regarding  : "Helping Post-Op Plastic Surgery Patients Hi All, I have a close relative who recently underwent a major, cosmetic surgery. For about 2 weeks she needs my help getting in and out of bed, chairs, car, etc. I don't mind that at all, but instead of her letting me help her with my hands...she has insisted on me squatting down and pulling on my T-shirt as she puts her full weight on the back of my neck. I told her how much this hurts, but she is extremely grumpy and in more
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Helping a friend after surgery

Your close relative is not behaving in a way that would make me want to continue to help her.  You are doing her a favor, and she should at least respect that you would prefer not to be injured in the process!  I realize she is recovering from surgery right now, and she's focused on herself, but you should be able to discuss this with her and find a solution that suits both of you. 
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Altered behavior after cosmetic surgery

This doesn't sound normal but perhaps she is either concealing surgery she has had and doesn't want you to lift her by the arms because she has incisions there or some other reason. Alternatively, maybe she finds this the least painful way of rising from a seated position
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