It is normal to be worried about your outcome. Part of our job as surgeons is to provide "hand holding" and explanation for the patient.
The massage is certainly helpful, but as mentioned, there are other techniques such as injection with steriods and anti-scar medication [5-Fluorouracil] that can minimize the aggressiveness of the scarring. Discuss these options with your surgeon, and if he is not comfortable with these techniques, then ask him, in a nonthreatening way for a referral.
You can also find a well trained Oculoplastics surgeon at the website ASOPRS dot org.
Best of luck.