You have a challenging problem.
Sometimes, a mesh is inserted because it is easy and saves a big operation in a high risk patient, but in most occasions it is a sign that you had no stable local tissues that COULD be used to repair the hernia defect. Either way - we need ALL the information before you are put through another operation which might fail.
In some cases, an ABDOMINAL COMPONENT SEPARATION PROCEDURE may get a good stable repair. This operation separates the muscles of the anterior abdomen and advances them forward to repair large defects. To see if you could have it we need all the information.
You would need to gather ALL your surgical records, including the operative notes for each operation and see a Plastic surgeon who performs abdominal reconstruction.