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How do your spouses feel about you wanting a tummy tuck?

  • InneedofTT
  • DFW - Texas
  • 2 years ago

Just curious what some of the responses you have received from you significant others in regards to wanting a tummy tuck... I have a wonderful hubby but he doesn't get it. I told him I went for a consult and his response was, "are you kidding?! Why can't you just work out?". I've had 3 children, the last were twins (they will be 10 next month). Not to mention the fact that I will be 40 next month. There is no possible way for me to ever repair the damage done to my stomach by working out. *sigh* I think I am going ahead with it later this month but really wish I had his full support. I haven't brought up the subject again just because I already feel guilty for wanting to do it and I don't want him to talk me out of it.   Anyone else having this issue?   Thanks!

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Well, I still haven't told my hubby that I have the TT scheduled BUT... I have been researching a BR now and have decided I should consult with another PS that will assist with getting insurance approval for the BR. I have a consult on 4/30. If the new PS can help me get insurance coverage for the BR, I will just let him do the TT too I think. Hubby knows about the BR consult and is amazingly supportive of that. LOL He even said maybe we should just pay for it because he doesn't want me to see a "sub-standard" Dr just to get insurance to pay. The PS I am going to consult with is Board Certified and judging by the photos of his work, wonderful! So, I'm not worried about that! ;) now it's just wait and see... Desperately hoping insurance will cover the BR so I can have both done!
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I would try to get your husband to go to a consult with you so the PS can explain how much of your belly is muscle seperation, loose skin and what is fat. Many people wrongfullly think that the big, floppy blob is just fat needed to be burned off through exercise when often it is the other stuff mentioned if someone is close to their ideal weight.

I am blessed that my hubs was supportive b/c it can be a very long journey, the recovery both physically and mentally. Best to have him on board and to see your doc and look at before and after pics. best wishes to you. :)
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I have wanted to get a TT for a long time and now more than ever since I had my 3rd and last child. My husband has always said you look fine to me and I didn't marry you for your stomach. I have been ok with my stomach after my first 2 boys but now no matter what I do it will not get better or go down, I have been left with this fat blob of jello which is gross. I finally called and scheduled my consults when my husband was off from work so that he could see for himself what a TT could do for me. He was very much impressed but still would tell me I look just fine to him, blah blah blah. I told him that I was not happy in my body anymore and that I needed to be happy in my body for myself, I think that is when he started to come around, but not fully. I finally scheduled my surgery and he was still trying to talk me out of it. My 2 older boys were more supportive at the time than my husband. One day I broke down and said to him that my stomach is gross and I don't even like seeing it myself, I said you have to at least admit that yes it is gross and he did, which that was when he finally fully came around. Now all I hear is I wished May would hurry up and get here and honey you are going to be so happy. Yes he was willing to support me before but now I feel he is supporting me emotionally as well as physically. Hope things work out for you and good luck with your surgery.
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I have talked with my husband about getting a tt several times over the past 15 years. He has said similar things, like why don't you just exercise more, or lose weight. While I've done that. I'm 5'8" and at the most weighed 172, I am now 150 lbs. I watch what I eat and exercise about 5 times a week. I'm even more frustrated because the way look of my tummy doesn't reflect how hard I work or how good I feel. I recently asked him again, it's been about two years since I've last brought it up. I have a good job and have the ability to pay for the tt. I shared with him that I have the money, and would like to have the surgery. I told him that I don't expect him to understand, but I want him to support me in my decision. He said that he doesn't understand why I would spend the money on a tt, but that he would support me. I told him he may even like it ;-), and he later agreed that he might. My husband loves me, and I used that in my favor. I also used the fact I earned the money in my favor. In addition, we agreed that this was not impact our lifestyle, which is important to both of us. My husband said that he wishes that I would have just done the surgery and not told him, which is a total lie, he would have been pissed. But that told me a lot. He doesn't really want to talk about it. I've told my mom and one close friend that I'm getting a tt. I turn to them and this website for people to listen to and support me prior to the surgery. He's agreed to be there for me once I have the surgery and need the help both physically and emotionally. I think that's fair. I think it's important to determine what works for you as a couple. I hope this helps you and you are able to come to an understanding!!!
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I don't have this issue... Hubby is supportive thankfully. Just want to say to you that you don't want this cause issues in your marriage.. so you may have to help him understand... Or have him meet with the ps with you to help explain that you can work out to a limit... You can not get rid of extra skin. Also, u don't know what he is thinking... What if he is worried u become a hot sexy mama and u may not find him attractive... This is his response... Something to think about... You will need his help physically, but mentally as well. Communication.... Good luck
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