what do you tell your daughter?

  • hulagirl_1981
  • 1 year ago

I'm 32 years old with 2 great kids. My youngest is 2. Nursing both of them and losing the baby weight has left me with flabby flat boobs. My nipples almost invert, they are so saggy! I had a tummy tuck last year and I think that is the only thing holding me back... The pain was INSANE and I'm worried about going through that again.

I'm a gym rat and while I was walking in less than a week, the pain was almost too much to bear. Also, my scarring is a lot worse than what I thought it would be. I guess I'm worried because I've already been through a painful surgery and the results were not what I expected. I'm nervous about going through it again. 

My other concern is my daughter. She is 6 and I always try to set an example of being healthy and feeling good about yourself. I don't want to set an example that you need a bunch of surgeries to feel beautiful. I feel that my body was fine BEFORE kids, but having them did a number on my body. I told my daughter with my tummy tuck that the doctor was "fixing" it, making it the way it looked before it got stretched out. I tried to tell her the same about my breasts but she got very upset, saying she loves me the way I am and doesn't want me to change. What did you guys tell your young daughters?    I'm still on the fence about getting them. even though I'm unhappy with my breasts, the pain, the cost, the long term commitments to having them replaced all add up to me being very unsure.

My husband really wants me to get them and I know I would feel great if I had them but there are a lot of pros and cons I guess. I've been checking this forum the last few months and I'm so grateful for a community of women that have gone through it and done it. Thanks for any advice you can give me!