Worried about recovery with a toddler!

  • patty812
  • Florida, NY
  • 10 months ago

I have 2 girls 8 and 10, but also have a very energetic 15 month old who climbs everything.  My sister will be in town and I have a few offers from friends to help with the baby.  I know to bend from the knees to get him in his high chair, but he's going to want to cuddle and how can I push my little lovey away from my breasts without seeming like a mean mommy??!!!  I know it will hurt if he goes near them.  I am having a lift and aug.  So the scars and stitches will be prominent.   How long before you could actually hold your toddler?  Also, how many button down shirts do I need for work if getting your hands above your head hurts??!!!!

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I have a 22 month old and am currently 12 days post op. I was able to lift her out of her crib come day 5 by lifting from my biceps and keeping my elbows down by my side. After getting her from her crib in the morning I did no more lifting of her. To get her in the highchair for bfast, I would put a normal chair in front of her highchair, take off the tray (ours pulls all the way out so then the seat is accessible), and have her climb onto the regular chair and from there climb to her seat. She loved this simply bc she got to climb and seat herself. Later if she wanted up, then I would sit down and she would come sit by me or on my lap. I did keep telling her mommy is sick and you must be careful around mommy. She seemed to understand bc she kept repeating "mommy's sick, mommy's sick". Their jerky movements are unpredictable and so having her sit on my lap made me nervous. She is very active and doesn't sit in one position very long so, our sits didn't last too long. When she came to sit with me it was easier to have her on my side rather than my lap to not lean against the front of me. And that was in the beginning...she can lean on me now no problem. Starting about day 10 I could pick her up (lifting with bicep) and prop her on my hip so my arms didn't take too much of the weight. Also, when let's say she got a booboo and I would normally pick her up to comfort her, I would instead kneel down and give her a hug or even sit on the floor with her to provide comfort. There are ways around being picked up and once you have your BA you will figure those out real quick :)
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I am having surgery in October and my little boy will be 9 months then. I am so worried about how to take care of him and still follow all the post op rules. I will have some help but not putting him to sleep or waking him up (in and out of crib)
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Hey there! I have a 22 month old and Im getting surgery in 3 days! I feel the same way, I was wondering, did you have your surgery? I'm going to miss picking up my girl and playing, not sure how long I'll have to wait...
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See above :)
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Thanks so much!
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