3 weeks post op blues

  • smashums
  • 2 years ago

I had a breast reduction almost 3 weeks ago and initially I was thrilled. I went from a E to small, perky C. The problem is that I was hoping at this point to be getting back to normal and when I saw my PS the other day and he took off the tape on both breasts the apex has opened slightly (one side is a little worse than the other). He wasn't overly concerned and gave me antibiotics just in case but there's no sign of infection. The wounds are small but I'm having severe anxiety about it. I keep looking at them wondering what I did to myself and they still look so beaten up right now I just can't imagine them ever looking normal again. I'm trying to look at the bigger picture but right now I can't stop crying and I can't really do anything to get my mind off of it. Am I crazy or has anyone else had a similar reaction? 

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Thanks to all who have posted here and the comments you have made. They have been a real help to me. I'm 3 weeks post op on Thursday and am healing well, although I do have to constantly remind myself it is still not quite 3 weeks and I am still going to find it a bit uncomfortable and not be able to do everything I want to do no matter how frustrated and bored I am. I'm hoping someone can reassure me that the fact that my 'girls' are still quite lumpy and very tender is normal and that the wounds from where the drains were inserted which are still quite sore is normal (they are healing well). Any comments would be gratefully accepted. xx
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I am 7 months. It actually took me 3 months for numbness hardness and lumpy to be better. It takes patience and time and be very careful not to overdo and set your healing back. This was major surgery. Mine stopped being so tender around 4 months. I had lots of pain an discomfort for 3 months longer than most. But i overdid. You may even go thru the horrible depression and worry attacks. But it does pass. Hang in there. I am so proud now of how i look. Praying for your healing.
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Go to amazon and order the merena b2 post op bra. No cup size just order 1 band size larger. It has 3 hooks for strap and . 3 row hooks in front to adjust for swelling and comfort. The cup adjust with you as you drop and it helps form beast in the cute teardrop shape we love. MOST IMPORTANT IT DOES NOT LAY ON OR TOUCH ANY INCISIONS. It fall adds below the sites. Awesome to sleep in as well. I wear it every day since i found them. I wish i knew about it before those darned sports bras rubbed me and caused the open wounds at the t section.
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While I didn have drains I experience the boredom depression and pains.. You will get through this.. That's probably why I couldn wait to read a new post. It truly kept me I touch with everything I was experiencing.. I'm not on any social media but this has been that for me..
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Well today i accidentally bumped my left breast on the corner of a chair cleaning. Its been 7 months and i am in bad pain. Should i apply ice or heat. Took a loratab has not helped. Wow this hurts deep. Think its ok?
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Awww noo. I'm sorry for the pain from the oopsie.. I think I used my ice packs (peas) good luck in that. If pain persist call ur PS and se what the say. Ughh be well and careful
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Smashums dont worry about it I went threw the same thing trust me u will feel better soon the reason everyone get anxiety n get depressed is because we constantly have it on our minds and we think about the recovery n the results to much as soon as I decide to let it be n dont stress over it my recovery was getting better n better your body needs lost of rest n relaxation be positive n u will get better its been 4months already from my surgery and of course I feel much better but certain things still hurt like my side when I sleep certain ways n when I jump of course n little minor things but i feel good about it no more back pain neck pain headaches I feel good n sexy. Lol keep your head up and let it be dont let it control your thoughts n you'll will notice better results..good luck
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Please go to a specialty store that sells mastectomy recovery bras (or to an online site) or go to your surgeon and purchase the same bra you were discharged in. You deserve to feel comfortable and you will feel comfortable. And those people who think you should feel fine, tell them they can all jump in a lake.
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I am 3 weeks out now and i cry every day my husband is so frustrated with me that i can't take care of our 15 month old daughter and I am with him. If i knew this was going to take this long I would have never done this I have no family support at all and sick of every one think I should be fine by now. I JUST WANT TO FEEL NORMAL AGAIN!
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just show your husband this thread, the 3 weeks blues is really common. be realistic about recovery time and concentrate on the positives. a couple of months out of a lifetime is nothing although it can feel tough at the time.
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kutzke75 hang in there! PLEASE! It gets better. I was in your shoes not to long ago. My husband didn't understand. And that's when I reached out to some of the ladies here. I've had strangers email me to give me encouragement. And now it's my turn. You wanting to feel normal again is all apart of the process. I know it easier said than done, but hang in there. Like the comment stated before keep concentrating on the positives. Let me ask you this. does your husband go to the doctor with you? If not ask him. Then he will be able to get an idea of what you're going through. I know it's tough right now. But trust me when I say it gets better. TRUST ME! I'm a living testimony!!!!! I went from crying ALL DAY LONG to working in pain ALL DAY LONG! To where I'm happy. Happy with my results and just happy about LIFE! You will get there I promise you. Don't give up. Keep posting :-)
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Thank you my husband has gone with me just hard with my parents live 10 miles away and are no help and my husband is self employed so if he doesn't work he doesn't get paid. Also I was a victim of the VA so called wait list and a result of that I was called and scheduled surgery with in 2 weeks before then inspector came and I think some post op things got over looked with them trying to rush to get my surgery done, i did not see my surgeon until a week after my surgery and did not take the bandages off for a week because nothing was said or given to me post op! I did not find out until I saw my surgeon a week later I was suppose to see him the next day and also should have taken the bandages off 2 day later so as a result I was in that ace bandage for a week. when my dr took it of a passed out in his office! I waited three years for this and wondering if I should have kept on waiting. My body hasn't been the same since I had my daughter in March of last year I have had 3 surgery in the last 14 month this seem to take the cake on all of them! I even still have a bruise on my arm from the iv needle!
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Please be careful. Err xplain to hubby that you did have major surgery. You can set your healing back if you cant wait to heal. Can u get a daycare for couple of weeks.
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Go to utube and let him watch the surgery. That should inform him what u went thru. My depression and crying lasted 6 wks.
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s wondering about this "sadness" I'm feeling...reading here, I see its normal. What about , my breast feeling swollen at the end of the day and like there is sandpaper in my sports bra?
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your bra must be rubbing you which is not good and could lead to holes. try padding the sore areas with something soft and getting as much rest as possible. are you using bromelain to ease the swelling?
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The best thing is to relax n rest n think positive we get aniexty n get depressed n cry because we constantly have it on our minds about the recovery n the results and being very anxious as soon as I realize that it was taking over me my depression I decided to relax and think positive and I noticed that my recovery is getting better and better trust me u will get better soon n feel great ..
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Whats good to lighten red scars ? Doctor said that it looks like im getting keloid scar . :( not cool
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bio oil or similar, or you can try silicone sheets.
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they will look great, I am just over 4 months, I highly reccommend take off those sports bras and throw them away, they ride on the delicate incisions and tear things open...my plastic surgery advise the merena b2 bra off of the amazon size, just order one band size larger, they will never touch your incisons, and you will heal so much faster. I just wish all Dr's would reccomend these, sports bras feel good at first, but they only cause more problems. the b2 bra will not roll up or hurt you, and has 3 hook enclosers in front for adjustment as you swell or unswell, and the shoulders have hooks as well for adjustment, must be the merena B2...I had servere anxiety and panic, I thought something has gone wrong with surgery, and cried all the time, felt scared and wish to heavens it would be all a nightmare...but I promise you the rainbow is coming out again, so cry it out, with loved ones, that helps, and ask for ambien for sleep if your dr did not give you anything, mine did. the sleep helps the depression if you are not resting enough...more greens to your diet, more lean meats, and lot sof water, and lemon water for swelling twice a day...Hang in there, You will get over the depression....I believe it messes with our harmones, no matter what they say, and mine, have now stopped swelling, have gotten soft and normal, and have dropped into a beautiful size c, the b2 bra also allows the breast to form in that cute teardrop pattern we love so much as we heal...it is a post surgery bra....please get one.
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How does one know what size bra to get. I looked at the marena b2 bra and they sound fabulous!!! I just don't know what size I should get. I have my surgery June 20th. I am size 50 triple E. What do you suggest?
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you should buy a band size larger than you normally take and the biggest cup size you expect to be - so if you are a 38DDD hoping for a C, i would buy a 40D
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Thank you Peediewife!!!
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You want need a cup size in the marena b2. Just go up 1 band size if it says 48/50 u should go 52/54. It has 3 rows in front for let in and out as needed during swelling etc. The shoulder has 2 hook adjustments. The cup is made to stretch and grow with you and shape. Amazon is great. They offer free shipping back if not right size or dissatisfied. U can also go to the merena bra website and even call 800# for more information. At 6 months i still love it. It does not roll up and never touches the lower incisions. Awesome post surgical bra.
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Hello to all, I'm new to the forum! And I'm so glad that I found this website! I had breast reduction surgery 3 weeks ago, and the surgery went well. But now the recovery is going very slow! My right side is healing very well, but my left side well that's another surgery. My incision on the left side has opened up, ALOT! I felt like most of you all, asking myself why did I do this? Can I go back to the way I was. Depression is beginning to creep in, and I'm trying to stay positive but at times, I just end up crying. Especially in the shower so no one can hear me! But since I've found this site, I've been doing better, because I know that I am not the only one dealing with this. This site has given me hope that things will get better, and that the pain won't last long. So I thank you for sharing your stories of hope and recovery.
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