3 weeks post op blues

  • smashums
  • 2 years ago

I had a breast reduction almost 3 weeks ago and initially I was thrilled. I went from a E to small, perky C. The problem is that I was hoping at this point to be getting back to normal and when I saw my PS the other day and he took off the tape on both breasts the apex has opened slightly (one side is a little worse than the other). He wasn't overly concerned and gave me antibiotics just in case but there's no sign of infection. The wounds are small but I'm having severe anxiety about it. I keep looking at them wondering what I did to myself and they still look so beaten up right now I just can't imagine them ever looking normal again. I'm trying to look at the bigger picture but right now I can't stop crying and I can't really do anything to get my mind off of it. Am I crazy or has anyone else had a similar reaction? 

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I'm on week 9 today and I feel amazing, I actually can't believe how little pain I've had. I didn't have drains after my surgery in fact I didn't have much at all. I had bandages on after coming out of surgery and they were removed the following day when I was discharged from the hospital. I was stitched internally and glued externally. I've had no infections no weeps nothing. I wish I had it done years ago. My surgeon was Tuabin Rasheed and I would recommend him to anyone thinking of having surgery.
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I just found this and am new to this site. I wanted to know more about your help after reduction. I will be having this as soon as insurance goes through. My youngest is 2. The only reliable help I have is my husband and he can only take one week off. I'm also not sure he quite understands how major this surgery is. I have no option for family, friend or daycare help. Is it doable with just husband?
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I could not left or hold my daughter for 2 months. I am 3 1/2 month post op and i still have stitches poking out and still have some pain. it was hard and painful you will need more then a week of childcare!
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I had reduction surgery 8/21/14 and today(9/9/14) was the first day I lifted my 17 month old. My doctor told me not to lift him at all for three weeks, I wouldn't have been able to before today! You will need help at least for two weeks, you will be so sore you won't be able to hardly lift your arms!
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how old is your oldest??? can they help with the youngest? You really do need to take care for the first few weeks as you can set healing back badly by doing too much.
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My oldest in 11 and my middle is 7... They are huge helpers now so I can imagine they will be then too. Still waiting on insurance. Hoping for November date.
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Thanks to all who have posted here and the comments you have made. They have been a real help to me. I'm 3 weeks post op on Thursday and am healing well, although I do have to constantly remind myself it is still not quite 3 weeks and I am still going to find it a bit uncomfortable and not be able to do everything I want to do no matter how frustrated and bored I am. I'm hoping someone can reassure me that the fact that my 'girls' are still quite lumpy and very tender is normal and that the wounds from where the drains were inserted which are still quite sore is normal (they are healing well). Any comments would be gratefully accepted. xx
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I am 7 months. It actually took me 3 months for numbness hardness and lumpy to be better. It takes patience and time and be very careful not to overdo and set your healing back. This was major surgery. Mine stopped being so tender around 4 months. I had lots of pain an discomfort for 3 months longer than most. But i overdid. You may even go thru the horrible depression and worry attacks. But it does pass. Hang in there. I am so proud now of how i look. Praying for your healing.
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Go to amazon and order the merena b2 post op bra. No cup size just order 1 band size larger. It has 3 hooks for strap and . 3 row hooks in front to adjust for swelling and comfort. The cup adjust with you as you drop and it helps form beast in the cute teardrop shape we love. MOST IMPORTANT IT DOES NOT LAY ON OR TOUCH ANY INCISIONS. It fall adds below the sites. Awesome to sleep in as well. I wear it every day since i found them. I wish i knew about it before those darned sports bras rubbed me and caused the open wounds at the t section.
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While I didn have drains I experience the boredom depression and pains.. You will get through this.. That's probably why I couldn wait to read a new post. It truly kept me I touch with everything I was experiencing.. I'm not on any social media but this has been that for me..
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Well today i accidentally bumped my left breast on the corner of a chair cleaning. Its been 7 months and i am in bad pain. Should i apply ice or heat. Took a loratab has not helped. Wow this hurts deep. Think its ok?
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Awww noo. I'm sorry for the pain from the oopsie.. I think I used my ice packs (peas) good luck in that. If pain persist call ur PS and se what the say. Ughh be well and careful
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Smashums dont worry about it I went threw the same thing trust me u will feel better soon the reason everyone get anxiety n get depressed is because we constantly have it on our minds and we think about the recovery n the results to much as soon as I decide to let it be n dont stress over it my recovery was getting better n better your body needs lost of rest n relaxation be positive n u will get better its been 4months already from my surgery and of course I feel much better but certain things still hurt like my side when I sleep certain ways n when I jump of course n little minor things but i feel good about it no more back pain neck pain headaches I feel good n sexy. Lol keep your head up and let it be dont let it control your thoughts n you'll will notice better results..good luck
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Please go to a specialty store that sells mastectomy recovery bras (or to an online site) or go to your surgeon and purchase the same bra you were discharged in. You deserve to feel comfortable and you will feel comfortable. And those people who think you should feel fine, tell them they can all jump in a lake.
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I am 3 weeks out now and i cry every day my husband is so frustrated with me that i can't take care of our 15 month old daughter and I am with him. If i knew this was going to take this long I would have never done this I have no family support at all and sick of every one think I should be fine by now. I JUST WANT TO FEEL NORMAL AGAIN!
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just show your husband this thread, the 3 weeks blues is really common. be realistic about recovery time and concentrate on the positives. a couple of months out of a lifetime is nothing although it can feel tough at the time.
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kutzke75 hang in there! PLEASE! It gets better. I was in your shoes not to long ago. My husband didn't understand. And that's when I reached out to some of the ladies here. I've had strangers email me to give me encouragement. And now it's my turn. You wanting to feel normal again is all apart of the process. I know it easier said than done, but hang in there. Like the comment stated before keep concentrating on the positives. Let me ask you this. does your husband go to the doctor with you? If not ask him. Then he will be able to get an idea of what you're going through. I know it's tough right now. But trust me when I say it gets better. TRUST ME! I'm a living testimony!!!!! I went from crying ALL DAY LONG to working in pain ALL DAY LONG! To where I'm happy. Happy with my results and just happy about LIFE! You will get there I promise you. Don't give up. Keep posting :-)
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Thank you my husband has gone with me just hard with my parents live 10 miles away and are no help and my husband is self employed so if he doesn't work he doesn't get paid. Also I was a victim of the VA so called wait list and a result of that I was called and scheduled surgery with in 2 weeks before then inspector came and I think some post op things got over looked with them trying to rush to get my surgery done, i did not see my surgeon until a week after my surgery and did not take the bandages off for a week because nothing was said or given to me post op! I did not find out until I saw my surgeon a week later I was suppose to see him the next day and also should have taken the bandages off 2 day later so as a result I was in that ace bandage for a week. when my dr took it of a passed out in his office! I waited three years for this and wondering if I should have kept on waiting. My body hasn't been the same since I had my daughter in March of last year I have had 3 surgery in the last 14 month this seem to take the cake on all of them! I even still have a bruise on my arm from the iv needle!
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Please be careful. Err xplain to hubby that you did have major surgery. You can set your healing back if you cant wait to heal. Can u get a daycare for couple of weeks.
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Go to utube and let him watch the surgery. That should inform him what u went thru. My depression and crying lasted 6 wks.
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s wondering about this "sadness" I'm feeling...reading here, I see its normal. What about , my breast feeling swollen at the end of the day and like there is sandpaper in my sports bra?
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your bra must be rubbing you which is not good and could lead to holes. try padding the sore areas with something soft and getting as much rest as possible. are you using bromelain to ease the swelling?
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The best thing is to relax n rest n think positive we get aniexty n get depressed n cry because we constantly have it on our minds about the recovery n the results and being very anxious as soon as I realize that it was taking over me my depression I decided to relax and think positive and I noticed that my recovery is getting better and better trust me u will get better soon n feel great ..
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Whats good to lighten red scars ? Doctor said that it looks like im getting keloid scar . :( not cool
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bio oil or similar, or you can try silicone sheets.
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