Have any of you traveled to have your surgery alone?

  • CandS
  • 8 months ago

Hi, everyone. My story is so much like so many of yours, and the stories and photos you've shared here have really helped me come to terms with what I have to do for myself. Thank you all! So, this is my question. I can't have my explant and lift surgery done where I live, so I'm going to have to visit another city. The problem is that no one can come with me. I know I can hire someone to take care of me the first night, but I'm concerned about just being by myself for the entire thing. Have any of you done this? What was it like for you? Thanks.

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Hi Candi S, just wanted to write and see how you are doing? Looking forward to your update.
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PS: And the biggest bonus-- I have a new friend! I had so much fun getting to know the woman I met on RS. She's not only nice and compassionate for having offered to help me, but we really hit it off. It was like a girlfriends getaway... except for the part where (as Dr. M said) I got attacked with a knife!
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Thinking of you, CandS and anxiously waiting to see how your surgery went and how you feel!! I've been praying for you!!
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HI, EVERYBODY! Well, I got home last night. I just took a shower and washed my hair, (!), dried off and put the girls back in their squishing hammock. And a little (not much, but enough to see a slight difference in the bra) of the swelling has gone down! See, the thing I'm trying not to worry about right now is that I'm still big-- bigger than I would choose to be since I'm small. I know other women feel differently about this, but I like the perky little ones. With the implants, I was a DD+, which really was gross for me. I told Dr. M to please not let me be a D, and I hope that was possible. Btw, I'm six days out from the surgery. Anyway, every day since then, I've had gigantic squished cleavage in the bra. After the shower, when I put them back, they fit better in the bra. They're separate and not squished up against each other anymore! Don't know what will happen as the healing continues; for all I know, they could deflate and then (hopefully) fluff up again, but whether it's because of Dr. Melmed's technique or just the way it's working with me, I don't seem to need the fluff fairy. I mean, they're flattened out and the shape is kind of weird, but I'm not going to think about that now. And the best part is that I'm wearing a size S hoody that I would NEVER IN A MILLION YEARS have worn before explant!! In clothes, anyway, I look proportionate and trim. Since the surgery, I've just been thinking that no matter what they end up looking like, at least I don't have to live with those bags of poison anymore. Oh, yeah-- The implants and capsules came out en bloc. They looked really ugly, but they were intact, even after 25 years. He said they were probably leaking inside, but it hadn't gotten out of the shells. So... I can't repeat often enough that I couldn't have done this without you all to love and guide and pray and show me so much wisdom all the way along. Please know that I can't thank you wonderful, wise, funny, brave women enough for what you've given me, and I want to continue to help others with this journey as you've helped me. xoxoxoxoxoxoxo :)))))))
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Oh, CandS, Isn't it amazing the relief, the sense of peace and authentic wholeness we feel with our precious womanly body having made this decision and moved thru the steps courageously! I believe it truly is an honor to my body and me, as a Woman, to exercise my power to reverse some decisions I made long ago, in my instance 37 yrs ago, and love me as the full valuable woman I am! It is magnificent to welcome you into the circle of sisters who have chosen this relief. I am mindful of each phase in your recovery knowing you will do well and be complete when the journey ends. Bless you Sister. You are among many women of spirit, courage and incredible strength. Selah, my friend. 2cupcakes
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You said it, 2cupcakes! We women need to honor our own bodies and our own truths. When we can reclaim those things and share in community with our sisters, our strength and power will grow to what we truly deserve. Selah. :)))
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Hi CandS! I'm so happy for you! I wish you had someone who could help you physically through the whole healing process, but it's wonderful to know you have the help of an RS woman to take you through the first days. Emotionally you have a whole community of woman here for you, praying and wishing you the best. I'm praying and believing for wonderful results. You will be in my prayers and thoughts over the next few days. I think it's great that you are traveling to Dallas for surgery. I've read a lot of really good stuff about your PS. If I lived in Dallas, he would be my first choice. I really like that he's not interested in implanting woman. My PS here in the Houston area has a great reputation as well and is double board certified. I have heard great things about him too, and know a couple of woman that used him for breast reconstruction after cancer. I have my final pre-op on Monday and I'm scheduled for surgery on the 22nd. I've been very nervous about it, but now have peace and am ready. I look forward to hearing how you are doing throughout this process. Although I think all these women on RS are brave, I think you are at the top of that list. Much prayers coming your way.
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Thank you SO much for your lovingkindness, prayers and support, Forever. I'm not sure I'd be as steady as I am now if it weren't for the wonderful community of sisters here. I'm at the airport now. Gonna be a long day. Have my preop at 3 and the surgery Fri at 9. Btw, I'm so glad you found the right ps close to home. :)))
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Well, I gotta' hand it to ya, Girl. You have hung right in there, prepared yourself to be healthy, found a ps with great recommendations, made travel arrangements, have a RS sister to check on you, have done the research & have sound realistic expectations, and importantly kept in touch. I admire your courage and perseverance; your respect & commitment to yourself for the best outcome. I pray for your calmness and balance over the next 24 hrs as you set your mind & body to readiness for the procedure and over the days to follow. I am among your RS sisters who are surrounding you with comfort and love for this next journey. Concentrate on you and we'll hear from you when you're ready. Selah, 2cupcakes
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Hi CandS, Thanks for sharing! I like you will have to travel and I will not be taking anyone with me. At this time, just trying to figure out who I want to do my surgery. I want to go to someone that has lots of experience with explants and that has a " KIND" bedside manner. Looking at Dr. Melmed or Dr. Kolb. I have not seen any pictures from patients of Dr Kolb so that makes me a little nervous. I know that I need to make a decision soon because I think that I read that Dr Melmed is 69 so not sure how much longer he will be doing surgery. Seems like deciding on the doctor is the hard decisions to make, then you just take it from there once that is done. So I will be following your story and wishing you good luck for a out come that you will be happy with!
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Hi, lovepink. Yeah, it's coming up fast now. Pretty surreal. Anyway, from what I've heard, Dr. Melmed is a very unusual "older" man-- very healthy, looks younger than the average person his age, and mentally on it. I've also spoken to him on the phone, and he was very communicative; at no time did he rush me or make me feel like his time was too valuable to give me some of it. Another thing about him is that not only has he done thousands of explants, but also he won't put implants in. So, I feel good about my decision to have him do the surgery. It's not an easy decision and I think you're right that it is the big, important one. I wish you all the best in figuring out who to go with. If I can help, ask. :)
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Thanks CandS, Was Dr Melmed able form looking at your pictures able to give you an Idea about what size you may end up with?
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Well... hmm. This is what he said. "You have a lot of breast tissue, and you'll be an excellent size." He wouldn't/couldn't be more specific. The other docs I consulted with said essentially the same thing. BUT... I'm sure he'll be able to tell more about it when we're in the same room and he's examining me. Also, that was much too vague for me because from what I've read here, most women want to be as big as possible. I started out as a big B/small C and ended up as a DD+, and I've always hated being so disproportionate. I WANT to be significantly smaller; no more than a B if possible. And I have no idea what he'll say about that, or if it's even possible. What I'm going to say to him is that I want the best shape I can get, and I don't care what size that makes me. If you remind me after May 2nd, I'll tell you what he said, and what happened.
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Ok, I will talk with you on the 2nd or later when you are up to it. I would "Not like" to be as big as possible, a nice B would also be great to me! I will be sending you good thought's this week.
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Thanks. :)
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Hi CandS, So glad to see you're proceeding with the explant and have a great surgeon. You'll be much stronger giving yourself the month to be ready for the the procedure. My 36+ yr old leaking silicone implants were removed almost 7 months ago now; also had a lift. I am very pleased with results. I think you will be, too. Sounds like you're being kind to yourself and are wise to do so. This removal process is all about loving & caring for ourselves. My best wishes and thoughts are with you as time passes & May draws nearer. Selah, my friend. 2 cupcakes
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Thanks for the kind words and wishes, 2c! And also for telling me about your experience. I appreciate hearing from someone whose situation is similar and whose outcome was good. Definitely helps with my emotional ups and downs. Selah, friend.
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Hey, did you get yours out? How are you doing?
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Hi, 2b! Actually, I got horribly sick a few weeks ago with a stomach infection, so I had to postpone my surgery until May 2nd. I was so wrung out from 5 days of constant pain and not being able to eat right that my ps and I agreed that a month of being able to work out and get my strength back made more sense. Emotionally a serious drag, but no choice, really. I didn't mean to drop off the face of the earth, but between feeling physically and emotionally awful, I just couldn't cope with communicating. I have been following everybody's stories and sending out positive energy to all. Thanks so much for asking after me! It means a lot. :)))
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Ughhhh, how terrible, first of all, that you've been so sick!! Secondly, that your surgery date has been delayed! I know how hard it is to wait! My surgery date is next Friday the 11th and I am so afraid that I may catch something before then! I took my daughter and her two small children out to lunch a few days ago and my grandson was coughing. I immediately asked her if he had a cold and she sighed and told me that it was allergies. Of course, she had to roll her eyes at me! Kids! Anyway, I'm glad you're feeling better and are taking time to regain your health and strength before your surgery. Hang in there; your time is coming soon! Take good care of yourself! XOXO
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ME, TOO!!! I'm totally paranoid that I'll get something else-- again-- before May 1st, when I leave for Dallas. (Surgery is May 2nd) And yes, it's really hard to be patient, as we all know. Thanks again for your good wishes, Petunia, and I'll be thinking positive and loving thoughts for you next Friday, too! :)))
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I think you're so brave to fly all the way to Dallas to have your surgery! It sounds like you'll have someone who will help take care of you, though. Like someone else said on here, I wish I lived closer because I would definitely help out! It sounds like you have everything arranged and you'll be fine. At least the explantation surgery shouldn't be nearly as bad as the implantation part! Crossing my fingers! Thanking you in advance for your positive and loving thoughts for me. That really means a lot! Xo
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I'm sure that the closer I get to the actual event, the scarier it will be, and adding in the logistics of the trip doesn't help. But basically, I'm prepared to deal with it. My doc and his staff are wonderful. I can call and talk to them anytime, which is really helpful. So... here we are, going over Niagara Falls in a barrel. Eek. But so many women here have done it, and we can, too! xxxx
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What city are you going to?
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Dallas. Dr. Melmed's going to do my surgery. I'm flying in the day before. Then I'll have the pre-op consult with him. I've spoken with him on the phone and uploaded photos, but I haven't seen him yet, of course. I'm staying four days after the surgery and flying home on the fifth.
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