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Toddlers + Tummy Tucks!

  • Cagirl1986
  • San Jose, CA
  • 3 years ago

I have a 2 1/2 year old who is the biggest mommies boy EVER. He always has to climb on me to hug me, squeeze me, kiss me (my fault because i love his attention) and pounce on me and play with my tummy fat, or pull up my shirt so he can lay his face on my belly. He's obsessed with my belly. I think he sees it as an equivalent of a security blanket. He hasnt been away from me for a full 24 hour period (my fault, because im just as attatched to him as he is to me. Luckily my surgery is on a Monday, so my mom is going to take him monday night, tuesday day and night,wednesday day and night and the babysitter will pick him up on thursday. I'm still unsure about him coming home to stay the night on the 4th day after surgery. He still crawls out of his bed at night to climb into bed with my husband and I. that's fine but he has to be cuddled right into me. and since i'll have drains i cant cuddle him since my drains will be on the sides and i have to sleep on my back :(. I'm scared he's going to freak out because i cant hold him on my lap. I know he's going to want to climb all over me and hug me. I'm scared about him tugging on my drains on accident or out of curiosity. Anyone else feeling the same way!??!?!

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I am having my husband sleep with my 2 and 4 year olds, who still come to our bed at night. I will sleep alone and he will make sure they stay with him, I think at least 2 weeks should be ultra careful like that. i am now 3 days post op.and my kids arrive back home to me at day 7 post op. good luck.
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I got The Mirena IUD, it pinched some but no real pain. The constant spotting is annoying. It has been 7 mo. since and the spotting is less and my period has been cut in half literally. 20/100 women get no period at all!
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yup i agree the spotting was soo annoying!
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Distraction!!! I would suggest that you keep a basket of toys, books or whatever next to your bed to quickly distract the little ones from climbing on you. As for nighttime, maybe a eyehole lock or chain lock on the bedroom door. Remember you will be medicated and unaware until the little one climbs on you. Ouch.
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yes lots of toys and a locked bedroom door while im resting/sleeping! Ill have to make sure someone is around him when he's around me. or else...ouch!! yes that would suck. i think maybe doing what blondie suggested, even at nighttime if he does come into the bed. im sure ill be surrounded by pillows, and as long as maybe he's laying on one and i have my drains tucked and hidden he should be fine laying next to me and not on me. he's less likley to pounce on me if he's sleepy and half awake too instead of in full hyper mode.
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Seriously I feel the same way as you! My son is 19 months and him and I are the same way you and your son are! Its so cute! You are lucky that someone is taking him for a few days. I also have never been away from my son overnight. My mom is watching him the day of my surgery but my husband is picking him up after my surgery and we are all coming home and my MIL is staying with us over the weekend since my TT is on a Friday.. But I am so scared he is going to try to jump on my tummy or anything like that... I don't know if I should put pillows all around my tummy or what... The dr told me that he can sit on my lap I just can't pick him up myself. But I just fear the pain if he tries to play around and I can't..

We can get through it. It will only be a few weeks... The boys will just have to learn quickly that the mommies can't play for a little bit even though it will break our hearts more than theirs I am sure!
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yes! i think making a tummy pillow "landing" is a good idea! LOL and thankgoodness for your MIL helping out! my husband swears up and down he will do all the housework, cooking and taking care of the baby (bathes and ect) i really hope he sticks to it. he works a hard job (HVAC) and comes home really tired.
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My dr says you can't lay down straight for the first week after surgery... so we will kind of be propped semi-upright so that may help so that our midsection won't be so vulnerable. I know my husband said he would take care of me and our son the first two weeks after my surgery. Its a good thing my son goes to daycare during the week. But I worry to about how he will handle everything.. my husband is a carpenter so both of our husbands are hard workers then taking care of the little guys at night! Hope they are ready to be Mr. Moms!
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Yes omg it's going to be a mini painful vacation from housework and baby baths and cooking. yes last night i was walking around in that "skiers position" that we will be in for a week. Just to prep myself. LOL my husband didnt know what the heck i was doing. lol. i tried sitting hunched over in different places like the recliner, the sofa, the bed...i was looking online for a bed wedge pillow! they have them at bed bath and beyond for $30 im going to get one because i dont think i can hang in the recliner to sleep!
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I was thinking the same thing mini vacation from work and baby but I will be worrying about my husband getting things done the whole time, lol! I so wanted to try walking around in the skiers position, lol! Too funny that he had no idea what you were doing! I might hang out in the recliner all day and just try the bed at night. I heard it will be hard to get in an out of bed. I remember from my breast augmentation surgery years ago that it was just easier to get on and off of the sofa/recliner than in and out of bed...
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yes. i wish i had the extra $$ (and room in my house!) for a hospital bed like kimmers25 did. that'd be a godsend haha. my doc said that i should be getting up to walk around often to keep circulation going, and it helps prevent risk of blood clots. thank goodness we only have 1 boy. could you imagine having 3 kids running around while trying to recover? eeek
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Yea, that would be great to have a hospital bed... but I don't have the $$ for that after what I am paying for my TT! Yea, I want to take a few shorts walks each day to prevent blood clots! That is my worst nightmare! Yea, its definitely good only having one little guy! He wears me out enough, I couldn't imagine two or three either!
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yes people frown on my husband and i for having an only child, but im only 25, and i like having just one little guy to focus all of my attention and energy on. I see my sister with her two kids under 4 and she's a stress case and a half!
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At first I wanted another but my husband just wanted one and I am fine with that now since he has more energy than both of us together and keeps us so busy! I don't know why other people have to shove their opinions on us about having more kids... its silly... For me its better that I concentrate on him and be able to give him everything he needs rather than struggle with a bunch of them. I agree with you =) people also frown on me having this surgery done but its not their body... I am just thankful that my husband supports me and awesome women on this website like you!
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omg *HUG* yes!!! exactly! my husband is satisfied with just one, and he said MAYBE just MAYBE if we want another one we can, but not anytime soon. That's why he doesnt want to get snipped yet. I was on the IUD but it bothered him and i bad, but now that im having this surgery i think i need to try it again. im thinking of doing the 10 year IUD after my surgery. Right now im on the pill.
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and yes this weekend my best friends boyfriend said he'd by me a drink, and i said no it's ok because i have major surgery in two weeks. and he said oh that's right..your tummy tuck? (obviously my bff told him) and i said yes...and he said "that's stupid to do.." but he wasnt being mean, just his opinon because he thinks i dont need it. and i did get my feelings hurt, because im not doing it out of vanity i just want to look normal. i asked him if he wanted to see my wrinkled up loose stomach and he said um no that's ok i think i know what it might look like..(his ex who is my exfriend her stomach looks a lot like mine does) but im trying really hard not to let anyone get me down and yes this website and great women like you help SO much!!!!!
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My husband got snipped so there is no chance we are having another baby unless we adopt, lol! Which I have always wanted to do but I am very happy with just my one child =) Is the IUD painful? I have heard stories from friends saying they were..
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I know what you mean... its like we are doing this for ourselves and not other people... I live near the beach and we are there 4 to five months out of the year on the weekends...I want to look normal and try not to let people know unless they are my true friends... Some people are just haters! We should be able to be happy with ourselves and if our husbands support us and close friends then the heck with what everyone else thinks!
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I live near the beach too =) and we do a lot of camping! I want to run around in my bathing suit without having my gut jiggling around. ewwww lol the IUD was just kind of uncomfortable for a second when she inserted it then i could barley feel it at all. but it still was this strange sensation knowing it was there..i spotted for the entire 3 months. not very sexy. and to top it off my husband could feel the wires when we would have sex! he hated it! so i hate it removed. it was just too strange, but it looks like im going to have to try again..
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That is cool! I know.. I was hiding behind a tankini last year and would wear shorts over it so no one could see any trace of my stomach... It will be so nice to wear a bikini again and have more confidence... I may never want to leave the beach, lol! When is your surgery date?

Wow that would be strange to feel the wires from the IUD!
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hahhaa i bought a super cute 1 peice 50's style rouched black bathing suit last summer. It's too big on me now. OH WELL =) I'm kinda nervous about wearing a bikini. i havent wore one since i was 21. That was 4 years ago omg! My surgery is March 21st. 12 days away!!! holy smokes. I went in for my pre-op appointment yesterday. Have you visited my review yet?
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Just visited your page! So excited for you that you had your pre-op appt! Did you have to have a physical and bloodwork done or anything like that? I am just wondering since I am still 4 1/2 weeks away from TT.... You will be so excited when you can go bikini shopping !!! We should burn our old bathing suits, lol!
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the worst is my MIL, she says on a regular basis "Oh don't make him grow up alone!" Shove it lady, I am the one being terrorized here, two is one too many I think. I have some only child friends and they say they had the best childhood.
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She said i was in good shape and she didnt need to do bloodwork..since im young and in shape and not overweigtht. i think that they do a test on me at the surgery center though. haha yes ill have to take a picture of my fat pants and fatty bathing suit being set on fire! liberation at its finest =P
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tell me about it!!!! everyone thinks im selfish for having only one.
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