I am having second thoughts, ugh!

By nanny938 on 10 Sep 2012

Hello, this is my first time posting on here, I will begin to say how informative this site has been to me. I am a 52 year old woman, wife, and mother of 3. I have two adult children, ages 32 and 25, who live outside the house, and I have a nine year old daughter, living with my husband and I. My surgery is November 5, and I am starting to feel scared and guilty at the same time. I feel guilty about spending so much money, and I am getting scared because of my age. I have Sjogrens Syndrome, and that also scares me when surgery is involved. It is an autoimmune disease. Anyone else have these feelings, and is it worth it?

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sexysoulsister 12 Sep 2012

Hi,
I'm 55 and am 16 days po. This is major surgery with a long recovery. Take your time and don't rush your healing. Doing too much can affect the look of your scars. At about 6 weeks your internal sutures are about 90% healed. My doc wanted me to walk hunched over for the first 2 weeks, so as of to day I am slowly working on standing up straight. My mother will spend a total of 3 weeks recovery time with me after an overnight in the hospital....make sure you have help!

My surgery was 6 hours-due to the type of tuck I had. My mom was against the tt until she saw my belly in all it's glory. Now she is one of my biggest supporters. The pain for me day one was intense, I had/have lots of swelling but I would do it again. You have to decide what's best for you. Just do the pros and cons and pray about it.
PS
The one thing I would stress is use the next six weeks to develop your upper body/lower body and maybe some core weight training. It will save your back if your arms and legs are strong.

sexysoulsister 12 Sep 2012

I'm 54.

nanny938 12 Sep 2012

My husband works from home alot, so he will be a huge help to me. As far as back pain, I deal with that on a daily basis now, without a TT, ugh. This has been something I have wanted for many, many years, and I realize it is a big surgery, and I am praying that I have a good recovery. Thank you, you have been very helpful.

pebe 12 Sep 2012

Hi nanny I am 54 and having my tt tomorrow I will keep you posted on my progress as I go along I really am feeling nervous but hey ho need to get on with it

nanny938 12 Sep 2012

.Oh geez, good luck tommorrow, please let me know how you are doing afterward, thank you. I hope you are very happy with your surgery.

pebe 17 Sep 2012

Hi nanny just to let you no every thing went so well just had my drain out today for me it's been no where as bad as it thought it would be I don't have any pain
As long as I keep taking the pain killers when I look at my new tummy I just love it it's still early days but I'd do it all again when is yours due?

nanny938 17 Sep 2012

I am so happy for you, and glad everything went well. You sound like you are doing great, this makes me feel a whole lot better, lol...Are you going to post some pics? So, how does it feel to have a flat belly, lol...take it easy for the days ahead, and thanks for filling me in :)

suzzabelle 12 Sep 2012

Nanny, I am 56 and had tt on 8/23. It's a long recovery no matter what, so don't anticipate anything other than that. If you read through the posts on August tt forum, you will see a lot of talk about navigating through recovery and you can see what challenges you might need to deal with along the way. Good luck to you!

nanny938 12 Sep 2012

Thank you, and I am prepared for a long recovery because of my Sjogrens, but who knows, maybe things will go fast for me.

DOING SOMETHING FOR ME 11 Sep 2012

I am going on 3 months out my surgery was 6/19/2012...not compromised by the RA or LUUS, but i did develop 3 DVts in my calf and a small seroma that had nothing to do with my previous conditions from what I have been told. But I thought i was gonna have a "speedy" recovery and I DIDNT...just expect to take your time and you will be fine!

nanny938 11 Sep 2012

Thank you! I am concerned about the recovery with having SS, my PS said my healing may take longer because of it. I am also not on any meds YET, thank goodness. How long ago did you have your procedure, and was your recovery compromised by your RA and Lupus.

DOING SOMETHING FOR ME 10 Sep 2012

I have autoimmune disease too...lupus and RA but i have not had any serious problems or I havent been taking any medications for it...However my comestic surgery had me clearence from my RA doctor to be on the safer side...I dont think u should feel guilty as long as your house and children are taken care of you should be able to treat yourself and become happier with you! you will love it...I know I do!