Telling people

I was SO excited I told **EVERYONE** lol...

I'm in such a fix regarding who to tell as well.. i reckon my mom is supportive if i told her.. but then.. she'll definitely tell my sister and brother and dad and my sis is a blabber. then my mom will blab to her friends and all sigh sigh.. then to a friend i told, i get the "what do you have to cut off?? you're so skinny.." what can i say??? Clothes REALLY can make a difference. So, so far, I have only told my husband and he has gone from unsupportive to supportive. I guess it's good enough for me! Now I'm just hoping my kids don't blab about "mom is in hospital" to anyone and get anyone concerned abut my health. I'm so hoping to get this mm and recovery done and over with so i can stop obsessing about these things. It's not helping my recovery, doesn't add value but annoys the heck out of me!! Sorry for the ranting :( I just needed to get this out of my system :(((((

I'm sorta chuckling to myself reading some of these replies. Mostly my family has been supportive, although my mom is worried but she had a BR 2 years ago and I'm glad she had the experience or she would be a wreck. My grandmother is jealous, lol. Gotta love a woman who at 75 says, "do you think I'd like your PS? Maybe you should schedule me an appointment?" My husband and friends are supportive enough, although they don't want to talk about it, and that's all I want to do right now!! BUT, my sister was really unsupportive :( I asked her to help me the day of surgery and she shot me down, then said, "I'm not sure what you are thinking, sure you will have a flat stomach, but what about your fat everywhere else?" Thanks. I told on her, lol, to my mom and she said she is just jealous. HAHAHA, love my mom. Thanks for the thread revival, lots of helpful responses here.

After reading all these comments I am thanking GOD for all the support I am getting!! I am thinking it is a double standard. Women are so hard on each other. Because people see a "skinny" girl they figure what could you possible need done, people see me a "thick"girl and wonder what could you do to fix you. We are all fixing what we see in the mirror!! The key is being happy with your self. The people that are negative are jealous and not happy with themselves!!!!! Surgery can not fix or help a negative unhappy person!! So those people need to seek therapy!! I tell everyone!! Probably too many people!! The only drama I have received is from my sister in laws! And I know that is all JEALOUSY!!!!!

Funny, Blonde. I just came across this thread even though we have been back & forth chatting on my review. I'm really in the same boat as you with not wanting to tell a lot of people. Most family I don't want to tell... I'm pretty thin, so if you saw me in clothes, you'd think I was batshit crazy for wanting to have surgery, but I don't like the damage my pregnancies and a crappy lipo job did and I'd feel so much more comfortable having it fixed. People never see that, of course. There's always going to be someone who has it worse than I do, but when I stand naked in front of my mirror every day, those people who are worse off are nowhere to be found and I'm the only person I have to compare to. Not only do I not really want to have to convince people that this is the right thing to do, but I also don't really want people to have any idea as to the kind of money we are spending on it.

I've told a few close friends so far, but as for family, we have only told them that I'm having my c-section scar revised again bc it is bothersome and that they are fixing the umbilical hernia that was recently discovered at the same time. Not really lying and at least they know I will be undergoing surgery, but also not telling them the full details. Oops! lol Anyway, thanks for being a supportive realself friend!

Thanks so much for replying after my comment. I have told my mum that I am getting it done and the kids know I am but not when. I'm going to tell them that I am going to prague to check out a clinic and have a spa week and then come back with it done. You are so right shelly this is about me and not about other peoples opinions but wow do they try and make you feel guilty! Ivy that pressure is bad I know exactly what you mean I was thinking of telling my son he's not going out of the house ever again because his risk of being in a car accident is so high see what he says! blonde it sounds like youre experiencing the jealousy issue too why do they do that? no one is stopping them from having it done. I'm just gonna have to follow my gut and go for it I think thank you sooo much for your support I was starting to doubt myself but now having a nike and loreal moment "I'm gonna just do it, cos I'm worth it" haha xx

jojo I totally can understand where you're coming from. Parents are always going to worry.. my mom hasnt said anything negative about it but I know she's concerned although my sister had at TT like 5 years ago... My coworker is not supportive all she does is scare me and say how much pain I'm going to have and that I'm crazy to do this.. basically in a few words how vain I am.. But I've come to grips that noone has to live with our bodies but us.. and if it's going to make us happy then why not?

Good luck to you!

hiya, may I join in???
I'm so pleased I found this thread. I too am having some negative response from family and friends. My husband is mega supportive but my family are more bothered. my mum isn't too happy with it but I think that's because my gran, her mum passed away a couple of years ago (nothing to do with surgery) and shes fightened to death of losing me too. My son who is 13 really does not want me to have it done tells me I'm silly and could die so whats the point, my daughter who is 10 isnt bothered but says I'm fine the way I am.
A few friends know and were all ok with it until I booked it and now its all frosty like a big unsaid thing is going on bit of jealousy perhaps?
I'm having it done abroad (i'm in the Uk and going to prague) which has not helped and convinced everyone i am even more mental than ever even though I have researched the surgeon like a mad stalker and it feels good and the right thing to do for me. I know the whole emotional mum stuff is gonna begin soon the how could I risk my life with two kids etc etc and I need to prepare!
WOW i feel so much better after getting that out there x

LOL exactly!

I have a couple gals who have asked how I am after & I just gave them the minimum response bc I knew they were just fishing for gossip. They haven't checked back. My real friends have kept in touch all along. I'm sure I will get my share when I go back to work in August. Especially if my tatas haven't settled lol. But so what girls if we're hot & they're not? Jk lol

Ivy0924 consider putting on a straight face and telling your friend that as much as you have been wanting to do this out of complete love for yourself, and even though you are capable as an adult of making informed decisions in regards to your life you will cast all of that aside and will not have the procedure because she (your friend) can't handle it. Hopefully she will see how selfish she is being by making this all about her. When I decided to have my own procedures I stopped talking to the naysayers about it. What's the point?

Lastly, girlfriend needs to stop breaking the friend code (telling all your business). Good luck!