Telling Children about upcoming surgery

  • Sunny81
  • Columbus, Ohio
  • 1 year ago

I have 3 daughters and I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions on how to tell them?   My husband, mother, and best friend completely support my decision and are behind me 100%.  Tricky wording things with young girls and one is a teenager.  Also don't want them broadcasting to the world so I need to word it right.  I haven't told a bunch of people yet.  I am doing this for myself and have wanted this for years but don't want them to think mommy is fixing things or that I have a low self-esteem.  I am sure others have gone through this and wondering how they handled it.

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I have the same issue. I talked to my 13 year old daughter, mainly about how I was feeling self conscious because of asymmetry and was having it taken care of. The asymmetry stems from breastfeeding and 45+ pound weight loss. The self consciousness is from a Dr. sending me to a surgeon after a mammogram, and humiliating me about my differences in breast. She didn't have a lot to say. My 10 year old is a real momma's girl and I am worried about her. We haven't talked too much about it.
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OMG.. same question: I have an 8 and 10 yr old girl and I have NO LOW SELF ESTEEM just want my boobs lifted and a little rounder. lol I don't want them to think that everything they think is wrong with them in a few years needs to be corrected besides their hairy arms and eyebrows, like mom . If they want a waxing at 13 ,sure they can get one... I did... but I think I might just tell them I am getting a lift but they will look bigger....
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I had the same question! I also have three daughters, 17, 12, and 10. The 12 and 10 were mostly concerned about my safety. I am worried a bit about them chatting about my "boob surgery" as we live in a very small town. Oh well! Who cares right!
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I told my eldest, my 7 year old daughter, that mummy and daddy were going on a trip because daddy bought mommy some new bobo's. My daughter thinks it's great but swears she won't tell a soul because she doesn't like it when people stare. Both kids are excited to go to grandma's for the few days during our trip and I have given my daughter several important jobs, like keeping out parrot peppa happy and alive, while we are gone, that she can do to keep her mind off us being gone too long. As for my three year old, I haven't had to tell him, for if it does not involve the words, car, bike, truck or engine, he won't listen anyways.
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How old are they? I had my surgery on 12 September and have three boys.. I only told my teen. But i did not go very large. Also did not feel that my 9 or 6 would notice/understand and not tell friends of theirs etc. Read my post if u would like.
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I have no problem telling my 12 and 10 years old. I even showed them my sizers and my eldest told me that it's too small. they don't care. they told me that if it makes me happy go for it. Also when you have something done and it's what you want don't feel like you owe the world an apology. as far as i'm concern it's your body, it's your money it's your business. i've always said that if people need to apologize for everything, women have to do it often. Nobody apologizes for dying their hair blonde, wearing fake lashes and fake nails, wearing extensions, looking orangy from their fake tans, fake lips, fake double d's with the help of victorias secret lift and separate bras. look, life is short just be happy and live your life the way you want it to be. People just have to stop being too judgmental. Don't worry about other people and your kids just look forward to happiness. If somebody ever come up to you and say that those boobs aren't yours tell them it's yours especially when it's fully paid. Have you ever heard people admits to not owning their house yet, or not fully owning their car. Everyone always claims that they own homes, and cars when in reality it will probably take 30 years before they even end up fully owning that house. For the car maybe 6-10 years. Nobody ever says that they own parts of their house or car. They always say they own it, period. With regards to the kids they are for more intelligent that we all think. Look back in your childhood years where you dumb or do you understand what's going on around you but the parent's doesn't think you have enough noggin to comprehend.
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Great question. I'm glad you're being thoughtful about this. If you're getting this procedure to improve something that was made worse during pregnancy/breast feeding, you could always call it "reconstructive".

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