Surgery Fear

  • mrsgood6909
  • hickory, nc
  • 1 year ago

Hi everyone, I am due to have a BR on the 25th of this month and I am terrified. I have worked since last May to lose 30 lbs to get down to under 140lbs, I'm 24 and I am a 36F now. I know the benefits are going to be awesome but I have never had surgery and can't keep the fears away. I have even had nightmares of dying on the table!!! Horrid I know....I have a fear of needles and of the pain I will feel when I wake up....Does anyone have some calming experiences?

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I've been feeling very nervous too. Worrying about not being here for my 2 small kids. But everything I read or hear is that it is safe and will be a good thing!
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It will!! I have two small ones too.
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By now you've been through your surgery, and I'm hoping everything went well for you. My biggest source of support and comfort has been this group for sure! I didn't find it until after my surgery but one of the best things is that no matter what I've felt, thought or seen on my body, I've found at least one other person who has also been through the exact same thing here! The women here are amazing! WIshing you a speedy recovery! :)
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Yes I agree totally with you!:) thank you!!
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I'm also 24, and I just had my surgery in September. It was my first surgery ever, and I was absolutely terrified. The fear was honestly the worst part of the whole experience for me. The anesthesia feels like you're taking a nap! The last thing I remember before going to sleep was saying to my mom "I think I'm getting tired." Then I woke up in my recovery room and felt groggy, so I put two and two together and knew the surgery was over :)
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This is my first post--I have officially scheduled my surgery for Feb 5 and I am so so nervous and scared and excited all at once. Any encouragement is welcome!
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you sound exactly like me!! being on this forum surely helped me know what to expect so im not walking in blinded..good luck to you!!
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I had all of the same fears. I didn't like the idea that I wasn't in control of my body and that I would have to trust and rely on other people. Once I found this community it helped calm me quite a bit. I was on here day and night reading other women's stories and looking at pictures. The night before my surgery it just didnt feel real. I got a good nights sleep and a nice morning. I was a bit nervous when I got to the hospital but for the most part I was quite calm. It helped me to know exactly what was going to happen. They had me fill out forms and put on a gown and give a urine sample. They weighed me and started my IV, which wasnt as unpleasant as I had expected. They took me into preop and the surgeon marked me and I talked with him a bit. The anesthesiologist came around and introduced himself. The whole hospital staff made me feel very comfortable. You can ask them to give you meds if youre nervous. Theres also a prescription that I got for a pill that made it so I couldnt throw up after surgery. Worth every penny! They put something in my IV to relax me and wheeled me into the OR with my sexy paper hat on. I got onto the table and I was out instantly. Surgery took about three hours. I woke up very groggy and thirsty. My incisions had a slight burning sensation, like sunburn, but my thirst was my main concern. They checked on my incisions a few times. I was in a surgical bra. I didnt have drains. I was closed with surgical glue. They took me to my recovery room where my boyfriend was waiting for me. I said Hi to him and the nurse came in to take my vitals. They gave me water and pain meds and meds for the nausea. It took me hours to urinate after surgery so they kept me until I could. I ate soup and yogurt and drank apple juice. I was very weak and my boyfriend had to help me to the bathroom and to get dressed to go home. They gave me more pain meds and discharged me. The ride home made my incisons hurt quite a bit. When I got home I ate a bit of ice cream and went to bed. The next day elt better than I expecte. I could potty on my own and my pain wad quite managable. I was mostly just very tired and bruised and swollen. Im two and a half weeks out now. Im back to work part time at my spa/salon. I can do laundry and light housework on my own. The bruising has faded and the swelling has gone down a lot. I havent had a hard time healing so far. Just had one bad night after working too hard and had to take my prescriptoon pain killer again. Gotta take it easy and let your body heal. I mostly just felt weak and tired and emotional. Try to dwell on the positives. Start preparing your recovery station and prepping your house. Think of all the great thigs youll be able to do and wear when you recover! Congrats on your weight loss! You're going to be so happy you did it. I noticed right away after surgery my back didn't hurt anymore and I could sit up straight. It was such a relief. Keep visiting the forum and sharing your story. Good luck!
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Yes, I had the same fears that you are having. I have an anxiety/panic disorder so that didn't help matters much. However, my good friend told me that she was praying for me because she knew how anxious I can get and incredibly, I was much more at peace about it all that week before the surgery. I was even calm, albeit a little nervous, when I walked into the hospital the morning of my surgery. I had to keep reminding myself of all the positives after the recovery period. I did read somewhere how this surgery is actually considered one of the safer surgeries with a high satisfaction rate. This made me less anxious. My surgery was 12/13. Surgery started at 7:30am and I was home by 2:30pm. I had a great recovery. Don't let your fear get in the way. Think about all the positives afterward. Cute (and less expensive) bras, cute tops, cute sundresses, nice swimsuit without feeling like I have to wear a shirt over it, working out without the girls bouncing all over the place, etc. Thinking about all of that helped to keep me from thinking about the actual surgery. Good luck on everything!
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Thank you! Hearing all the positive stories helps with my nerves :)
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Im still waiting on approval and reading these post has helped alot. You guys don't know how much you and encouraged me and help lift SOME of the anxiety. Thanks so much ladies!!!!!
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The nerves all come with this process!   You are feeling and thinking the same things we have all thought before surgery.  You can do this and everything will be fine.  

I sent you a link to get started on your very own review/page.  You will find tons of support here in the community.  I am happy to have you here with us in the community.

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Thanks so much. It's nice to be reassured when there's so many fears...like how its going to feel, look, heal, and complications. I appreciate the responses!:)
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You bet:)  I am here for you...along with 100's of other women:)

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