I joined a few months ago and browsed some before and after pictures, a lot of them were very graphic and it was a bit scary but I guess I was not desperate enough. Also hubby had already said that we would look into surgery if I can't get back in shape in 2 years but I now realize I can't wait that long, I am miserable and it's affecting me too much. We had a talk and I am so happy he understands and I don't need to wait that long after all... we don't have the means to do it right away but with some luck this year, I think next year is more realistic though.I am a bit confused about how to use the site, do I just post here like it was a blog? I really need opinions on all kinds of stuff as I am clueless about this, I think I need a tummy tuck (one of those all around perhaps?), lipo and maybe a breast lift without augmentation. I NEED to have this diastasis recti fixed, it might not be as extreme as some pictures I've seen but I live with constant back pain and I just feel my insides will spill down the floor any minute sometimes thankfully the incontinence issue has finally gone away but it was so humiliating.I want to look into options in Mexico mostly as it is my native country but I have heard wonders of Republica Dominicana and Colombia too but that feels a bit more scary as I would be all alone... I did stumbled upon a traveling buddy post so it might be something to consider, I really don't know.My son just turned 18 months old and I had my tubes tied/cut/burnt so I am def done having babies in case that matters.The first doctor I am considering is Cervantes in Tijuana as I've found two users here so far with amazing results and it seems it's definitely worth checking out, I am also reaching out to friends and relatives to recommend me someone. I don't know many people who have had this kind of surgery but I have heard here and there of a cousin or a friend of someone I know, better than nothing no?