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sex... when did you start?

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  • Wisconsin
  • 3 years ago

Hello ladies! Since my TT my husband has been giving me the "look" and asking me every night when will we be able to have sex again. Just wanted to know how long did you wait before you had sex after your TT. thanks. :)

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My big concern is that I still have my drains in. Did anyone begin having sex while their drains were still in? I'm 12 days post op
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Im 4 weeks post op... but had a severe infection from a tummy tuck gone bad. So im not sowed shut. Ive been traumatized from what I went thru. But most of the swelling has gone down, still cant sshower alone, and have home nurses coming every other day to change the gauzes. I hope I wont need a revision, the lipo part of the tummy tuck seems like it was pointless... I cant tell whats water weight or fat. My confidence is diminishing as they days go by. My husband and I began returning to sex. Missionary was uncomfortable as I felt squished and the friction on my belly hurt... maybe its mental... maybe not. It is painful upon insertion as im super virgin tight now and it hurts. I tried on top and its less uncomfortable, less friction, but difficult to keep going with these unused tight muscles. Idk.... anyone else with suggestions or comments? I feel useless n fat to him... yea I kno its temporary yada yada yada but this is a long lasting temporary, and did anyone else lose their lipo results in recovery?
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1 - Listen to your body, if it hurts don't do it as you don't want to undo anything. Also, have you tried sex from behind? Like bending over the edge of the bed with a pillow or something under your belly for support? That is what we did the 1st few times and it was a lot more comfy than the top or bottom. Good luck!
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Lol... my husband is too long for me to handle at this point... its more the insertion that hurts the most.
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Ask your husband to use ky jelly on his private part.
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I'm 9 days post op and pretty sure my husband is afraid of touching me! ;( hasn't even tried or asked about it... Maybe he's loving that he gets to be lazy while I give him head typical guy lol.. I have been scared about going ahead and doing it, but if all of you survived and didn't hurt anything I'm going to!
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8 days post-op. My surgeon didnt tell me I had to abstain so I figured it was common sense. I didn't have muscle repair so my only issue at this point is some minor pain and of course the swelling. My arms are much more of a hinderance, as I had an arm lift w/lipo at the same time.
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I was also scared of what the contracting muscles might make my abs feel like. I am 3 weeks out from a super extended (think capital I) tummy tuck and to be honest, I tried it with myself first to see how the insides would feel. It was ok so I am willing to go ahead and try WITH the bf this time...as soon as I get off my period.
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7 days post op we had it 3 times and was great
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Anyone have painful sex after there tummy tuck? I waited the 6 wks like the doc said and OUCH! I felt like I was going to tear!
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I've wondered the same thing. my husband has been grieving the temporary loss of his sex life since the day I booked my surgery. I'm afraid he won't be attracted to me. I feel like I'll look like a chucky doll, lol! (tummy tuck and breast reduction with a lift)
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Chucky doll as a description is perfect! Ha ha! I've had the same procedures and am also worried about my attractiveness. I have a feeling getting the stitches out will make me look a little bit less like a character from Nightmare Before Christmas
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The hospital told me 4 weeks but my PS said 2-3 weeks. At 2 weeks we did and it was fine and at 3 weeks it was even better.
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I feel like my hubby is scared of me - like he's going to break me or something! At this point, I'm wondering when HE will be ready. I'm 15 days PO and more than ready. Anyone else have a gun shy hubby?
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Nope my husband actually expected me to finish the 1st time it took a lot not to laugh at him! It didn't hurt at all, but I was to nervous to let myself go.
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Too funny!! Thanks for sharing!
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the first time my husband was scared to touch anywhere and now the second time he quickly changed his mind! :)
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Yep - Same here! He seems to have gotten over his fear just fine now! I agree with you Jloeffel, it has gotten better each time. I think we're both relaxing and forgetting about it more each time. Maybe it's my imagination, but I think the tightness of my new belly is helping! Woo hoo - Bonus!
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I just found your post FinallyMyTurn, mu hubby is totally lile that, I am now 6 weeks post op and he still won't even hardly hug me, I know he's scared, did things work out for you?
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Yes! Eventually it all worked out. It was a few weeks but I finally laid down the law - lol. He will never admit it, but I do think he was freaked out by my ugly scar, as well as afraid of hurting me. I'm a little more than 4 months past my surgery (10/7/13) and it's starting to fade - totally healed over. I can't wait for it to blend in even more! Tell your hubby to get over it and have some fun! Good luck!!
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Thankyou FinallyMyTurn ! I did just as you suggested gave him no options and it was great !! I need that ! And we are both happy and I had no pain, but I did wear a beautiful corset top that came down past my incision and held me in really well.
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Good for you! All about us feeling more confident and more beautiful, right? Makes all the everyday things we do - like sex! - more fun!! TT was so worth it! :-)
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My boyfriend was ready to wait patiently for at least 3 weeks, but I wasn't. So it was 7 days PO. Had to be careful, but in a way it was really nice and romantic almost. First thing he said afterwards was "Did I break something", I answered "Yes, my hymen", but for some reason he didn't believe me :D
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