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Has anyone had problems getting help in days after MM?

  • Junebug2662
  • Birmingham, AL
  • 2 years ago

I'm really nervous that my plans for taking care of my 3 kids and my post-surgery self are going to fall through. I'm having MM in 9 days and I can't seem to get enough done to make sure things go smoothly while I am out of commission.

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That sounds wonderful. On day 6 you will want to be left alone a bit. Don't supervise Thanksgiving too much. My longest day has been 7 hours on my feet and it was not terrible (day 11). I should have stopped, but got on a cleaning rampage. If you can sleep through the first 3 days, you'll be in great shape! I am well and on my way to complete recovery. I hope anyone without a strong net will add a little more thought to the process, as I really spent a lot of time the first 3 days wishing I had not gone through with it. There have been a couple of days where I wished I had someone around to just "be" with me. But, as I said, I am so grateful for the help I had.
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June: hope you are now doing well. I am fortunate; my children are 28, 14, and 12. My dh will be off work for the first 5 post op days. I will be by myself on day 6. Then it's Thanksgiving and I will have all 3 kids, plus a couple of adult friends of my oldest and the mother in law. Not sure if my dh will have the day off or not. My oldest is doing T'giving dinner will some supervision by me. I plan on taking it very easy and resting alot.

I'm sure your advise is very welcomed by other moms with little "built in" support.
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I'm 3 weeks out and have some decent perspective on this now. If I could have it my way, I would have a mommy makeover with 2 significant caregivers in my life during the recovery. I would have someone whose priority would be my children for at least 5 days and another whose priority would be me for at least 4 days. After that, needs were less and work could be more easily combined. I would definitely recommend that someone have a mommy makeover when they also had both a mother or sister and a husband (or seriously good friend substitutes). This is not a procedure that is well-endured alone and makes me suggest that other single mothers find solid care and support before embarking on such an arduous journey. I would do it again knowing what I do now, but only with more support. I am eternally grateful for the support I did have, but this is a complicated process when factoring in children and emotional well-being.
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Thanks, cabo_honey! I'm actually thinking about the daycare I used to use. The teachers never had enough hours and several were super nice. I could probably get a couple of them to help with dinner, baths and homework. I am very lucky that the school bus picks up and drops off in my driveway. I won't have to get the kids ready for school by myself until the 6th day. With a lot of planning and "incentives" that should be okay. I'll grab a pack of Hotwheels cars, markers, and other small toys to help things along. I bet we can "race" to see who can get ready first, etc.
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I was thinking the same thing as Angiemcc. Ask your ps office if they have any referrals. My ps doesn't even want me to drive for 2 weeks but I will fudge and drive the kids to school about one week post op (neighborhood streets no freeway). I know where I live there is a company called "Lend a Hand" and they help with a variety of things - taking people to and from appointments, staying with them after surgery (they are NOT nurses more of a hired companion).

Good luck!

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That's smart, because you will be TIRED and sore and not feeling so hot for the first week. You might even want to hire people, if you have to. I know some ladies have hired nurses and a nanny. It's really important to your recovery to take it super easy at first, so do your best to schedule help. And we're here for support, suggestions, and venting. ;)

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I had not thought of hiring someone. Duh! I will arrange that. Sometimes money works when relationships don't! Thanks for bringing me into the realm of the obvious. I can't believe I did not think of that!
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Happy to help! I just really want you to be able to rest and heal up right. :)

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My fiance' is taking 3 days off to help with the kids and me, but otherwise, I'm on my own. He'll be working, but close enough if there is a genuine emergency. I don't have any family and most of my friends fell away when I changed jobs last year. (It turns out that when you're the boss, you don't really have any true friends at work.) I was pretty much alone for my last c-section - even had to leave the hospital AMA to take care of my older kids when the arrangements I made for them fell through. So, it's really scary thinking I might face that again. I do know one lady that I could call who would come no matter what. I will get in touch with her today.
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It's so hard to finish everything, isn't it? Do you have family coming to stay with you to help, or a significant other who is taking time off?

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