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Why are people silently judging me when I tell them about my TT?

By Jodi S. on 21 Sep 2010

The comments are insinuating that I should just lose the weight and I'm taking some sort of easy way out. I resent this and it makes me angry! They do not know what I have been through the past 5 years TRYING to lose this. It's making me feel like a failure that I have to resort to this.Surgery 10/8

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Angiemcc (Community Manager) 28 Sep 2010

Hi Jodi,

That has got to be extremely frustrating for you. Could you keep your upcoming surgery on the down low and only tell those who need to be told?

In a perfect world, we could just not let what others say or think bother us, but who can do that? Try to keep in mind that you're doing this for YOU and that you deserve it.

And please consider posting your story in our Tummy Tuck Review section. You'd probably get some good support there, too.

Kimmers25 (Community Manager) 28 Sep 2010
Hi Jodi, First let me say you are not a failure. Taking weight off is an extremely long and hard process. It is not easy by any means. You deserve this and only you know what is best for YOU! Personally I only told people that I trusted and knew would support me 100%. Negativity is not what you need to hear during this process. You do not need anyones permission to do this and certainly deserve to be happy. You go girl and just come to all of us women on this website who do understand. We are all here for you and will support you all the way. We like to share our victories with each other :) Hang tough girl!
realmomof2 30 Sep 2010
Good luck and don't let the haters get you down lol! I have found that in general those around me (coworkers) don't usually rejoice in my successes-I think they consider it bragging but I'm very careful not to do such. I lost weight prior to my TT and I do have a few good friends who are happy for me and they make up for the negative ones. Bottom line, it's your body and your life. Get excited and don't be afraid to be happy and proud of yourself!
debi'stime 30 Sep 2010
I too have been very limiting as to who I tell about my upcoming TT (on 10/14) - it is YOUR own personal decision - heck with what others say or think! Taking the weight off is a very hard & long process & some things just don't work! Be very proud of yourself & your decision (I know I am)
sicily35 30 Sep 2010
I am 2 weeks post TT and I have picked and choosen who to share my news with. I've had mostly all positive responces, of coarse who knows what people really say behind your back, and really who cares! The only person whos opinion counts is yours, support is wonderful and if you can't find it in your personal life you can find it here. This was the best thing I've ever done for myself. It is a long sometimes difficult recovery but sooooo worth it! It was wonderful today when I went to get dressed and had nothing small enough to wear!! Thankfully I'm finally feeling ready to shop! Best of luck, this is a great place to get support for your decision!
Jodi S. 30 Sep 2010
Thanks, ladies! You made me feel better. I am feeling good about things now and just want to get it done! I am going to try to make a video diary starting this weekend if I can get to it. Thanks again!
mkell 19 Oct 2010
At first I wasn't telling anyone but our girls and my best friend for her support during the post op, but the more I talked about it and told people about it, the more supportive they became. I have not told everyone, but I have asked special friends for prayer and support. One friend told me today how much she admired me for sharing this personal decision with her. It made me feel good. I guess I felt like the more prayer I had, the better off I would be, and it has been wonderful to share with them.
sweetie1 30 Oct 2010
Well I experienced something similiar. My friends kept telling me that all I had to do was work out as my shape was otherwise fine. They thought that dedicated months of situps would resolve the issue as they understood that my weight was in a healthy range. They did not understand that the loose skin was not going to contract and felt that I have simply not tried hard enough or done the right exercises. I felt a little upset because I was sharing this with them for support. At the end of the day what matters is your happiness though. Good luck.
Susanne3692 9 Mar 2011
I went from weighing 240 to 178 and I was still told that I needed to lose more weight in order to get the "best results", or the "ideal results" by my peers at work... I am not sure why people say the things that they do but I am positive that there was no amount of exercise or stomach crunches that would take away all the loose skin or flab.......

Get it done and do not let the haters get you down,,,,

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