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My husband is not supporting me!

  • cgriffith27
  • Houston, TX
  • 1 year ago

I am very upset because my husband is not supporting me on my decision to get a TT and SmartLipo. My surgery is June 29th. The closer it gets the more he is making me feel like I shouldnt do it and that I am selfish. Does anyone else have this issue?

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I do hope he will be there to help take care of you the first week. If not, please find a family member or friend who can help out. The first week is rough but you can do it. Best wishes.
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Newmomat37, Even though hes not supporting my decision he hopefully will step up and take care of me. Also I have my mother and sister very close. If I can just make it though that first week....
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My husband wasn't really keen either but he has now pretty much accepted it.

I know we all take different views on telling people, but I've told lots of people I'm having a TT - I figure anyone who knows me, knows that I'm not big through lack of exercise, it's more a structural problem. The interesting thing I find is that most women are REALLY interested and supportive, and men are completely embarrassed and don't want to know anything about it at all (apart from the couple of odd ones who find it a bit too interesting!). Maybe there's some of that going on with your husband too? Or maybe he's scared?

Whatever, you wouldn't be doing something as big and brave as this if you didn't need to do it for YOU. You've made the decision, just stick with it.

I feel a bit bad about spending so much money on me, too, but here's my maths: I'm 42. Say I live another 40 years, the cost of this works out at $4 a week. I would happily pay way more than that to be rid of carrying this sagbag around. Come to think of it, it's a bargain!

Hang in there - not long to go!
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Thank you HeleninUK! I think you may be right about him being scared. The money thing is maybe where the biggest guilt comes in for me but you have an awesome point in breaking it down! Good luck on your TT in July!!
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Oh Honey, Kimmers is so right. We are really bad for feeling guilty when we do something for ourselves. This is a very personal decision as it is your body and how you feel about it. I look forward to reading your story. I only joined this site a few days ago but I can tell already that you will get a lot of support on here. Take care.
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Fluffycloud, Thank you for the support! You are right about this is wonderful!!
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Also, Good luck on your TT July 3rd!!
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Stay strong and keep telling yourself you deserve this!   This is about you and what you want right now.  Not what other people think you should or shouldn't do.  I know it's hard when those around you are not supportive but you can do this.  I think it's awesome!!

As women we always feel guilty when we do something for ourselves.  There is nothing wrong with wanting to look and feel good.  Also remember another factor is that the hubbies  are worried you are going to look totally awesome and other men will notice...LOL

You will be fine so keep your chin up and push thorough.  

We are all here to support you on RealSelf!

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Thank You Kimmers! I keep telling myself I do deserve this! This website has been so great.
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You really do deserve this:)

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