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My husband is not supporting me!
By cgriffith27 on 12 Jun 2012
I am very upset because my husband is not supporting me on my decision to get a TT and SmartLipo. My surgery is June 29th. The closer it gets the more he is making me feel like I shouldnt do it and that I am selfish. Does anyone else have this issue?
I know we all take different views on telling people, but I've told lots of people I'm having a TT - I figure anyone who knows me, knows that I'm not big through lack of exercise, it's more a structural problem. The interesting thing I find is that most women are REALLY interested and supportive, and men are completely embarrassed and don't want to know anything about it at all (apart from the couple of odd ones who find it a bit too interesting!). Maybe there's some of that going on with your husband too? Or maybe he's scared?
Whatever, you wouldn't be doing something as big and brave as this if you didn't need to do it for YOU. You've made the decision, just stick with it.
I feel a bit bad about spending so much money on me, too, but here's my maths: I'm 42. Say I live another 40 years, the cost of this works out at $4 a week. I would happily pay way more than that to be rid of carrying this sagbag around. Come to think of it, it's a bargain!
Hang in there - not long to go!
Stay strong and keep telling yourself you deserve this! This is about you and what you want right now. Not what other people think you should or shouldn't do. I know it's hard when those around you are not supportive but you can do this. I think it's awesome!!
As women we always feel guilty when we do something for ourselves. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look and feel good. Also remember another factor is that the hubbies are worried you are going to look totally awesome and other men will notice...LOL
You will be fine so keep your chin up and push thorough.
We are all here to support you on RealSelf!
You really do deserve this:)