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Any mommies with lots of kids had/having a TT!? I have 6

  • Peachesnsausage
  • Clarksville, TN
  • 1 year ago

I'm scheduled for July 17 we have 6 kids that are 13 ( high functioning autistic) 10,8,7,7 and 7 months.  I'm a little worried about my recovery and ability to get back to playing mommy! Any stories or advice on how to get them and myself through this? 

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Hi sweety, also have six mine are older 28,25,21,18,16,10 I'm 45 just got mine April 29th thank god for my kids cause it took 3 weeks for me to get a bit better they removed 10 pounds of skin my stomach looks great still swollen but happy tried on jeans today went from a size 18 to a 12 so happy my doctor was Dr Wendy Ann Olivier in Brooklyn N.Y great doctor Omg.. Happy for you just take it easy and don't lift anything or any bending take your meds and you'll be great with your families help good luck....
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Thank you and congrats!
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I have 5 kids (10, 7, 4, 3, 1). Just had my TT on June 7th. The first 4 days were the worst as mobility was very much reduced. Once the drains were out (day 5), most of the worst pain was gone. I had muscle plication and have found the hardest thing has been breathing as I had a very large muscle separation. I have been told not to lift anything over 5lbs till the 6-8 week mark. I am mobile, but trying to take it easy. No house work or home management. Friends and family have dropped off meals, I had some frozen, and others have come to clean my house. All very helpful. So if you can, accept all the help you can get. I have spent hours reading to the kids in my bed. My 3 year old accidentally kicked me on day 6 right on my new belly button, and it hurt A LOT. I have iced continually for the first 4 days and it has helped tremendously! Be sure to have several packs available to rotate as necessary. My kids were home from the time I came home from the day surgery and have been really good. If you have 6 kids you probably run your home fairly efficiently and they are probably very helpful... All the best!
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My home is always tip top and my 4 middle kids help me a lot they are 7,8,8,10 now. We've had a few birthdays since my original post :) my biggest concerns are my baby of course... Norah is 7 months and my oldest Parker is a High functioning Autistic. He is capable of caring for himself but his routines are very important and I'm scared that my being down will mess him up. He is a very caring boy and a worry how he will react to mommy having this huge incision and drains! I know they look scary to me so I can only imagine how he will see them!
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My sister, who has 7 kids, sent her 10 year old to help me for the first week. So between my niece and my 10 year old son they took care of the little kids and kept them entertained, diapered, and in/out of naps. My husband also took the first week off work, which was very helpful. My 1 year old, hasn't been too much of a problem. The reason I had to have the surgery, more of a must than a choice, is that I had severe back problems caused by the muscle separtion. As such I had not lifted my 1 year old since January. I had to force the weaning process so April 28th was the last time he breastfed. He has been very upset with me and if I call to him he always heads in the opposite direction. He doesn't know why I suddenly had to stop breastfeeding, nor why I couldn't pick him up any more... so he has had a hard time with me. That has taken a toll on me emotionally at times too... If you are still breastfeeding, a 7 month old can be very wiggly... so it could be very difficult. If you are able to start practicing not lifting the youngest, to prepare Norah for your post op period, it might be good. Cuddle in lying or sitting positions, breastfeed while lying on your back and trying not to allow movement onto your belly... Anything you do the weeks preceeding to get the kids ready would be benefitial. With regards to the drains, the ones I had in could be hidden under my shirt by clipping them onto my bra straps... When out of sight they are more likely to be out of mind for a 7 month old. You will find your 10-7 year-olds helpful as they are at an age when they want to help and be big. I explained the whole process to my kids and even my three year old would run into my room and ask "Mom, are you better?" then he would come to my bid, lift my sheets and see the drains clipped to my shirt and say "OK, not yet, a little longer" Once the drains were out I had to show him the length of my incision, which allowed him to understand that mom wasn't quite well yet. I can't comment about how Parker will do as I don't have much experience with autism (in the day to day). Is there any way that some of the routines you have in place for him, where you are the primary caretaker, could be taught to your 8 and 10 year olds? The drains are uncomfortable and the most pain I had was while they were in, once they were out, my movements were a lot less painful! It can be scary to look at them fillinging and having to measure and empty them, but I believe that if you have 6 kids you've seen yucky stuff before and will do fine...As I said earlier, you can also hide them under loose clothes... and it is only for a few days, depending on your surgeon and how much you are draining, it can be 3-10 days (they look to see that you are draining less than 25ml in a 24hr period, and then they will usually remove it). Hope this helps, encourages, and sees you through it! Cheers!
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I only have 2 kids, but my youngest is 2 who loves to climb on me. I didn't have my TT yet, but when I do I will be staying away for the full time i'm suppose to, just to safe LOL.
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Lol good call!
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Hi there! I have a blended family of five children, when I had my tt last year, they were 8, 10, 12, 15, &16. The first week, they were not home with me at all because I didn't want them to see me so pitiful! I was 6 days post op when they came home and I was still sore, but mobile. I was able to drive my daughters to school (just a mile away) at 7dpo and I was able to hobble around and set the table for dinner, but my husband basically did everything strenuous when he was home, and the rest of the time, I directed my ten year old and my teenage stepsons how to do basic household things and prepare simple meals (like a sandwich, soup, etc).
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Well we've managed to have all but the baby staying with family the first week. My husband will be home with me to take care of the baby. Little stink is try hard to pull up. I'm scared she will be walking by then lol.
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Oh, I can't imagine she would be walking at nine months! But who knows?
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My other girls walked at 9& 10 months. Boys were 12,12,&13 months
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Wow you have your hands full!!  Please tell me that you have total help for the first 2 weeks..

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Yes ma'am I do :)) very thankful for my husband mom and sisters ;)
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Wonderful!!  Glad to hear that, you are a very lucky lady:)

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Yes ma'am I am ;)
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