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How do men react to the incision scar

  • Dallas929
  • Dallas, TX
  • 3 years ago

I am single and concerned how men will react to my scar. I am concerned on how to broach the topic with a new man I enter into a relationship with and wondering how other people deal with it.

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when do you tell about your scar when dating?
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I am having the same issue I am 4 months PO and single. I was dating someone and when it got intimate I was a lil worried but he thought it was a c-section scar lol I let him believe that I kind of worry of someone thinking of me as shallow if I got something like this done.
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Of course I would prefer the scar!!! It is awful having your belly hanging, especially when you are on top of him!!! I think the man that cares for you will only be curious about it, but will never reject you for that.
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Great question... I sometimes wonder the same.. been widowed and single now for almost 10 years. I have not dated much and never to the point of intimacy.
BUT I'd rather this scar than the pannis I had!!
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Tell them you fought a bear. He got ya good in the tummy once but you took em. Tell him that bear never had a chance. tell him your one tough lady and he probably should be real nice to ya.
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I am single and worried about this same thing as well. But it HAS to be better than what I have now?! It just HAS to be. So I'll take the scar. And if a man is so shallow that the scar turns him off... Well... "GOOD RIDDANCE!" right?!

I'm really worried about the scars that will be on my tata's as well. Having a full lift. When I'm done, I'll look like I had a wild fling with Edward Scissor Hands!!
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Amen sister.....my hubby could care less about the scars. They simply love the flat and tight tummy....plus the perky ta tas. The breast scars are not that bad at all. Hidden very nicely under the breasts. You will be just fine.
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I was wondering the same thing Dallas. I'm divorced, no boyfriend as of yet. Considering I did have 3 children and I'm 43 yrs old, I would hope they wouldnt expect a supermodel and hopefully the scar will fade enough.
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I asked 10 of my male friends this exact question.   Half married and half single.  All had the same response.  They all like to watch and look at the supermodel pictures, posters, and shows but know that this is not the norm for women.   They all agreed that they would not want to marry or date a supermodel because they are high maintenance, unrealistic, and intimidating....Hmmm.  Good news right?

So I guess the supermodels are just a fantasy that they do not care to get involved with...Hurray!
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So fun that you took a "poll"!

Very good news idead :)
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Thank you for this. I was worried about this as a single woman too. I spoke to a male friend too about this and he echoed the same thing you did. A scar is not a big deal to them.
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Very cool. Thanks ladies!
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Oh I know! I was able to hold mine off for 4 weeks and that was it. LOL
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Exactly Barbie! When my husband first got a look at my flat and tight tummy he was so excited and his eyes were all but spinning in his head with excitement. And that was even with the drains hanging from my body!!!! Good man :)

No worries girlie....
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I hear ya Kimmers. It was all I could do to keep my hubby from jumping me!!
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lol...oh yah...its like a child in the candy store..taking them in and not getting anything..leaving and comeing back. lol...poor guys suffer more through this then us I think at times ..lol.
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LOL at Kimmers! I'd much rather explain my TT scar than all the flabby strech-marked skin I used to have.

Besides, it's been my experience when a man really wants you, nothing will get in his way.
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A good man who really cares about you won't even blink twice at a scar :)   It gets better and better every month so I would not worry.  It will fade..

If you feel good in your own skin and have confidence you will glow like the moon and the scar will not even matter. 

I would much rather explain a scar than a double muffin top.  Pick your poison :)
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I agree I will be happy to explain a scar rather than a water bed belly! LOL
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I have yet to see a good looking fully healed scar. Any picts. that you can point me to?
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i wouldnt worry about that at all.. i have a c section scar and its never been a issue.. and you can hardly see the scar anyways.. take care of it when its new and yourll be fine.. good luck
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Good question! The responses will probably be as different as there are men in the world...but hopefully some ladies will jump in with their input.

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