CONSIDERING BUT HAVE ISSUES, FEARS

  • Emmaddd
  • Indianapolis, IN
  • 1 year ago

I'm considering breast reduction, but I have issues and fears. I lost my husband two years ago. He loved my body and always complimented me. Since he has been gone, I find myself feeling uncomfortable with my bust like I did when I was younger. He was a " health nut" and kept the junk food away. Now, cake and ice cream are comfort to me and I've put on extra pounds. Some in my boobies of course. One the reason I never considered reduction was because my husband like my breasts the other was I feared having smaller but less attractive looking breasts. Should I just try to loose weight or seek a consultation? I'm starting to get shoulder pain and irritation. 

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For 2 1/2 years I have been waiting for my breast reduction referral to be approved. This year it was approved. I was really excited and totally looking forward to the physical/health benefits of the weight not causing problems for my neck & shoulders anymore. My Surgery date is early morning June 27th and I am finding that I am now a bit scared. I know I can tolerate pain, I've been through other very extremely painful things. For me I fear the "unknown."
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The morning of my surgery, I was SO nervous. In fact, when they rolled me into the room & 10+ ppl were in there with masks & big lights, I thought, "Holy crap; what am I about to do to myself?" But before I could really freak out, I was under... what seemed like seconds later, I was in recovery with a sweet nurse & I feel crappy. The pain was tolerable, and I only had one mini-breakdown the week after (I wasn't sleeping well & they looked like they'd been run over by a semi). I'm at like 14 weeks right now, and they are sore at times BUT so small & my back is a happy back now!!!
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*Clarifcation: I did NOT feel crappy in the recovery room.
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I've seen pictures of the incisions directly afterwards. That is my fear. the incision site. I also noticed tubes in some of the photos, looks like drainage tubes. Do those come out before you go home? (My doctor has opted to keep me over night).
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I stayed overnight, too; I didn't have drains to take out later & my stitches dissolved... right now, I just have sultures that haven't dissolved - my PS said they may never dissolve. She also said some PS's still use drains, but she doesn't.
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HI, I believe it is completely normal to have an aversion to surgery even if it is for the better, and the thought of altering appearance has a similar psychological effect. If you are sure this is what you want there is really nothing to worry about. The risks are small and if you like the work your PS has done on others then there is no reason to think that you won't have a pleasing result as well. Just think of it as an adventure and enjoy the ride. I had a real breast reduction phobia at one time, but now I know that was fear based in ignorance. Keep in mind your appearance may change, but in your heart and soul you will still be you. That you can know and be sure of.
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I was completely freaked out leading up to and just before the surgery. I got close to walking out more than once. I never had major surgery and had fears about losing control of my environment and reaction to meds. My best friend was so supportive and knew how to talk sense into me. I had my freak out moment at 4 weeks, I think. My left nipple was not healing and I was afraid of losing it. Luckily, meds and patient plastic surgeon helped me. I have a small scar from the healing issues. But scars do not bother me. I have feeling in my left nipple and that is what matters.
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For 2 1/2 years I have been waiting for my breast reduction referral to be approved. This year it was approved. I was really excited and totally looking forward to the physical/health benefits of the weight not causing problems for my neck & shoulders anymore. My Surgery date is early morning June 27th and I am finding that I am now a bit scared. I know I can tolerate pain, I've been through other very extremely painful things. For me I fear the "unknown."
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Its a hard decision to make. I struggled with whether to do it or not for over a year. Finally, I thought I was just going to have a consult to see for myself. I did end up going through with it. Im Having some challenges with complications ( however im told by my PS it only happens in about 3% to 5% of his cases) but I am hopeful for a full recovery. Just take your time and do what feels right for you. Best of luck to you!
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Thanks for the advice, I hope your healing and recovery is full and satisfying.
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I understand the fears but right now the pain out weighs the fear. I've always been large and after 40 I got larger. Didn't really notice the increase because I was depressed but coming out of depression I realized the 32 E I had on was not doing the job. Started paying closer attention to the junk foods (comfort) I was consuming and went from 138 to the 124 I am now. Didn't do anything drastic just stopped the 5 cokes a day and the gummie bears but of course I didn't get rid of my new 30 J's. I hope you can make a profound decision based on how you feel. Good luck!
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Thank you, I'm much more concerned about you than I am myself. You have had to deal with much more than me. I'm doing much better emotionally and physically. I pray that all goes well with your BR and the rest of your life. Great job with the weight loss BTW. It's so true that in some cases breast size is not about being overweight, It's about hormones. Sometimes being sensitive to naturally produced ones and sometimes HRT or oral contraceptives. Weight loss will help some but not all.
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All my life people would ask me if I had ever considered a breast reduction. My answer was always no, this shat God gave me and its a part if my maternal grandmother that I will always have with me. Then menopause set in and the weight and sagging we're creating constant neck, upper back and shoulder pain. Life is too short! Suddenly I did a 180 and scheduled my surgery! My husband liked my big boobs, but as I told him, he doesn't need have to carry that weight around his shoulders! My surgeon knew I wanted to get to a D, but didn't want the shape compromised. She had to cut very far back to remove side boonies and I'm very sore, but no regrets whatsoever! I look in the mirror and can't believe it's me! Good luck in your decision, do what's right for YOU girl!
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Thanks for sharing with me. I really feel that the right decision for me will be obvious when the time comes and I have very little anxiety about it now. Before I was tramatized. After gaining all that weight, my blood pressure spiked and I became pre-diabetic, so health and fitness really had to take priority. I'm down 20 pounds now and I can squeeze back into my DD bras, although they don't fit. It kind of scares me when women say they loose weight but the size of their breasts doesn't change. I'm hoping that won't be the case for me. So far, they are gettting smaller little by little. I still have 30 pounds to go. About your hubby situation, I don't see how he could not like your new boobs too. LOL
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Keep up the weight loss, I am working on that as well. Am down 8 pounds since Easter. Would like to lose about 15 more, keeping it realistic! Hubby will like them before long! I was a DD when I was 18 and weighed 115 and those days are long gone! I am shooting for 135 pounds and expect it will be a slow weight loss! Even at 135 I was still a G! Have had terrible shoulder ruts for a long time, hoping they will get better! Keep us posted on your decision progress, I am SO happy!
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Well for sure don't get discouraged. Slow steady weightloss is by far the best. I'm using a low carb, higher fat approach and it is working. I'm losing about 2-5 pounds a month and I'm never hungry. Many people have commented on what I said about my husband in my original post. I think I gave the wrong impression. All I ment was, I was happy with my breasts, he was happy with my breasts, I had not pain or discomfort, so I never considered a reduction and I never would want scars anyway. Not that his opinion was somehow "holding back". When I first posted I was not understanding all the issues that bring women to the decision. Until I gained all that weight in such a short time, I had no issues of my own. Wow you're a skinny minny, I had topped out 205 pounds. I believe all your issues will just keep improving.
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Far from a skinny minny girl! LOL, but along with seeing my feet means seeing my flabby tummy! Need some good core work in my future!
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Just start slow. I'm doing core work every week. At first it just hurt, but now, I'm feeling the strength coming and seeing results. It's funny because the women on this site getting breast augmentation joke about how getting larger breasts makes their bellies disappear and makes their waists look smaller. LOL The thing is I want my belly and waist to REALLY BE smaller, because healthwise that's whats important. Just be patient and don't get discouraged. Doing a moderate effective amount of fitness work every week all year is better than doing alot for a while and then getting burned out and quiting.
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Agreed! Getting some core work getting out of bed without using arms!
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God bless all the busty ladies in the world. May they find love in their lives, with peace and healing in their hearts, minds, and bodies. Amen
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I know this post was a while ago but I wanted to respond anyhow . I hate that we are all put in categories . I hate that society looks down on women if they aren't a size 0 or a 6 . The reason I had my BR is because I was in so much neck and shoulder pain that it was either a BR or cervical fusion . Because I could no longer turn my head . I am over joyed because since my BR I can now move my neck . I was so shocked that I had immediate relief . I wanted this surgery for years because I hated having breast so large . And they made my body frame look bigger than I was. I will never regret my decision to have the surgery . But I would never let other people make me feel like I was a freak because of my big breasts . I did this for me , for my health . And when I heal I hope to be healthier than I've ever been .
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I really admire you. You have a quite strength that is so powerful.
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Thank You Em :-) My relationship with God has brought me great peace . Its my personal choice .
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That's exactly where I am at. Cervical fusion or breast reduction. I'm so irritated right now they denied the referral. The PS called me and told me to take their online BR surgery class and they would schedule an appt for me to discuss lipo VS surgery. I did why they asked last week and I still haven't heard from them. You give me hoped glittergal
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