How can I be sure?
Byon 01 Sep 2012
Hey everyone, I want to get a rhinoplasty. I've been wanting to do it for 10 years now, but never did. About once a year I talk myself into it for about a month or so and then back out. I was hoping to get some advice from people who did it, or are about to do it. From what I read in this forum, a lot of the people who had this done wrote that it’s been bothering them their whole lives, that it hurt their self confidence and made them feel insecure. I can’t say it affects me that bad. If it did, it would make that decision a lot easier.
I would say however that it does make me self conscious. It’s always at the back of my mind. I think and hope that getting the surgery will make more confident, though I can definitely say I could spend the rest of my life without it. I have no question though that it would make me look better, that I’m certain of. My nose is big and crooked. I’m just afraid that when the bandage comes off I will look at myself in the mirror and wouldn’t recognize myself. Has anyone here ever had that feeling of “Oh my gosh, what have I done?? This isn’t me!” after the surgery? That is what’s been keeping me from doing that all those years.
I’m not saying I like my nose, but it has become a part of me over the years (I’m 26 by the way). I’m afraid I might lose a unique characteristic. Did anyone have that dilemma too? Maybe it’s a harder decision for men? Also, another dilemma I have is that some would argue that a large nose is masculine. My girlfriend and sister and mom all say I shouldn’t do it. They say a big nose is strong and powerful and has “presence”. So on the one hand, it's me, it's part of who I am, it's been with me since first grade when the kids made fun of me. But on the other hand it's improving myself, and that's always good. I feel I would eventually go through with this, simply because it’s obviously been on my mind for the last 10 years, but I would like to hear from experience what you have to say. Also, I recently moved to America from far away, to start a new life. So I think this is the best opportunity to go through with it, to welcome another improvement in my new beginning. Thank you so much.