How can I be sure?

  • israny
  • 2 years ago

Hey everyone, I want to get a rhinoplasty. I've been wanting to do it for 10 years now, but never did. About once a year I talk myself into it for about a month or so and then back out. I was hoping to get some advice from people who did it, or are about to do it. From what I read in this forum, a lot of the people who had this done wrote that it’s been bothering them their whole lives, that it hurt their self confidence and made them feel insecure. I can’t say it affects me that bad. If it did, it would make that decision a lot easier.

I would say however that it does make me self conscious. It’s always at the back of my mind. I think and hope that getting the surgery will make more confident, though I can definitely say I could spend the rest of my life without it. I have no question though that it would make me look better, that I’m certain of. My nose is big and crooked. I’m just afraid that when the bandage comes off I will look at myself in the mirror and wouldn’t recognize myself. Has anyone here ever had that feeling of “Oh my gosh, what have I done?? This isn’t me!” after the surgery?  That is what’s been keeping me from doing that all those years. 

I’m not saying I like my nose, but it has become a part of me over the years (I’m 26 by the way). I’m afraid I might lose a unique characteristic.  Did anyone have that dilemma too?  Maybe it’s a harder decision for men? Also, another dilemma I have is that some would argue that a large nose is masculine. My girlfriend and sister and mom all say I shouldn’t do it.  They say a big nose is strong and powerful and has “presence”. So on the one hand, it's me, it's part of who I am, it's been with me since first grade when the kids made fun of me. But on the other hand it's improving myself, and that's always good. I feel I would eventually go through with this, simply because it’s obviously been on my mind for the last 10 years, but I would like to hear from experience what you have to say. Also, I recently moved to America from far away, to start a new life. So I think this is the best opportunity to go through with it, to welcome another improvement in my new beginning. Thank you so much.

Comments (2)

Welcome to RealSelf! I didn't have that dilemma, but then, I am female with my dad's nose plunked right in the middle of my face.

If you do decide to do this, research your surgeons like crazy and go with someone who specializes in rhinoplasty. (and is board certified by ASPS/ASAPS)

Thank you!