Hiding from others that you got a TT

I've decided that I am going to be candid about my procedure if a conversation arises. It takes too much energy to keep secrets and at the same time it's nobody's business what I do so I definitely won't tolerate negative criticism. As far as work is concerned I will be out for a month and I am a remote employee anyway so I don't always see the same people. I will let everyone know that I am going out on medical leave, that I am fine, and I will chat with them in a month.

Hi kimmers25, I wad so happy to read that you dont or didnt wear a binding garment. I am 1 week post op and was able to take off the bg with the bandages on day 3.

How are you feeling?

Im not telling too many people either, as Kim said, people feel the need to put in their own opinions and frankly I just dont care what they have to say. I've waited for 20 years to get this surgery so as far as Im concerned they could mind their own business. I know it sounds harsh but people make mindless hurtful comments so to avoid it I decided I'll keep it to myself.

My husband knows, one of my best friends "Helenes Transformation" (who's getting her tuck as we speak today) and my in-laws (only because they are my bosses). Thats about it.

Hi Rosie,
I'm with you. My children, bf and my boss are the only ones that know. I dont think its anyone elses business. :)

I was even considering if I should tell my 17 year old son. He's given me an earful for years about "plastic surgery". I understand he's just a kid and love's his mama the way she is but its a bit annoying after a while (poor guy). But I guess there is no way to hide it from him since Im usually really active and for at least two weeks I'll be laid up in bed.

The compression garment I was given, is called a "flexie". It doesn't show through my clothes, or make me look bulky at all. I have to wear mine for another week 24/7, then I get to only need to wear it during the day, for the following few weeks.
I didn't leave the house either that first week. When I went for my 1 week post op follow up, I just hid my drain under my hoodie, and wore sweat pants. I was in enough discomfort to not care much what anyone thought. It was so great to have the drain removed! I was finally able to stand up straight!

Hi there, I've been looking for a thread like this because i need advice. I'm having a tummy tuck and at first i wanted it to keep it for myself. But my husband is a twin. He unintentionally said it to his twin brother (eventhough i had asked him to keep it quiet) and this brother's wife is an incredible gossiper that tells everything. It is incredible. Now i was forced to tell her i was going for the procedure. I know already she will be talking after my back and calling me vane, etc. All because she is annoyed by her belly as well, but has not the guts to go through surgery. She always brings "uncomfortable" topics to conversation when there are lots of people around. I remember she usually would begin about "why my husband did not marry me", in front of 10 or more persons. Only to watch my husband (we are now married) and i nearly get an argument. We finally decided not to give her the pleasure to watch us argue about that. We married when WE were up to that, not her! Anyway, to make long story short, this topic about surgery, this she will also use to animate the conversation at birthday parties, etc. I have already warned her that i am not putting up with her behaviour again and that she must mind her own business. But i need some short, bold answers to have prepared if she brings the subject to conversation in front of a lot of people and everybody tries to throw their 10 cents into it, which people over here do A LOT (i'm in The netherlands) So, please, help! I have a few ideas of my own, but every contribution will be much apreciated. Thanks in advance! Holantina.

Outside of my family I told 2 people but I didn't tell them what was going on, I just had I was having a surgery and if I needed them I would call and they said yes, one of them I havent heard from since the day before the surgery even after multiple calls and I feel they walked away and I didn't even tell them what was happening other than surgery...kind of let down but I don't need them. I trust my family most and you shouldnt have to feel anything wrong about it, they should understand. But I doubt I will tell anyone what really was done, people are judgemental, don't understand, or make terrible analogies trying to understand.

I myself did a really good job of hiding it from most people I see daily and one went out 3 times after the surgery, my drains are gone and now I can walk without a jacket on in July with an odd bulge in the store...I swore if I got a accused of shoplifting...

If the question does arise I will just say stomach/digestive issues that required a lot more than heartburn. A little white lie won't hurt anyone.

Hi ladies,
Thanks for the help on this. I have heard a lot i'm to sweet and take to much from people They say i have to be bolder and stand for my self and put sometime people in their place. But i'd prefer to do this in an assertive way and not unrespectfully. That is why i asked your help. Thanks! If anyone has further ideas, you are more than welcome to chip in.
Kimmers you are right, she is very annoying and always sticking her nose in everybody's business and judging others on their back. I know that because she does it the whole time at my place. I never join her and try to cut those conversations as short as posible and go over to more constructive topics :-) I unfortunately have to put up with her because of the family relationship. Otherwise i would already shown her the door of the house.
If she brings the surgery topic into conversation during a big gathering of people (usually a lot op people i barely know at her or her children's birthday parties) i wil tell them i'd rather not discuss my reasons why with people i barely know, that i deserved this and that i'm the boss over my body and i determine what happens to my body. Period. And of course everything you wrote, about it not being none of her business in the first place.
Knowing her, i would have rather kept it secret but it was not posible. Also, i wonder if i would have got away with it at all. Surgery is going to make SUCH A BIG difference in my physical appearance, that she would have found out anyway. I really have a very protuding, hanging belly, typical for good candidates for a TT (get asked wether i'm pregnant the whole time) My P. surgeon has said he would get it totally flat and looking superb, since the loose skin and diastasis the only problems are, further is my waist very shapely and relatively slender :-) So the difference will be so noticeable, that they would guess anyway :-)hahaha....
I'll keep you informed about the matter :-)
Anyway, the procedure will take place around the end of this year or begin next one. The erason is that this plastic surgeon is very very good and only makes this kind of operations in a hospital (Sint Lucas Andreas hospital in Amsterdam) and gets very limited time a month. That is why he hast a waiting list. But is is really a very good surgeon, i've seen many pictures of his work at a dutch forum and he takes time for his patients to inform them, etc.
Thanks again, also for your survival guide, it is very useful!
Hug from Netherlands,
Holantina.