I need help

By daisy36 on 24 Jan 2013

I need help, I got implants 1 year ago, and I initially loved the new look. But the last 8 months, I have hated them more and more. They look odd(to me, one bottomed out slightly at 6 weeks, now the other is firming up-cc), I hate the way they feel in me, and what I really want is them out. But, I feel guilty because it was what I had wanted for so long, they cost a lot of $(and more to take out) and my hubby seems to love them. He is a wonderful man, treats me like gold, so I'm scared of telling him I don't feel comfortable with them and that I want them out. I'm scared of what they'll look like and how he'll feel. I feel like a fool, but in the same sense, I had no idea that they would feel like this and I would have complications(who really thinks it will happen to them?). So my question is, can you offer me some advice on how to bring the subject of removal up to my husband? Did anyone else feel the same about telling their significant other? Thank you.

Comments (5)

daisy36 30 Jan 2013

You are so right pearltx, he does and will love me, any way I am. I just feel so guilty about the $ spent, but I know if he bought a car that he felt uncomfortable in all of the time, didn't like the look and it was a lemon, he'd trade it in and learn a lesson, even though as soon as he drove it off the lot he lost 10k, lol. I just need to be absolutely sure, which in my heart I know that I am. It's just hard finding the right time and way to bring it up.

pearltx 28 Jan 2013

He loved you before, right? No doubt he'll love you after. There are benefits to both sides. Implants = bigger boobs. Natural = soft boobs. Men are generally happy with boobs. As for telling my SO, I'm not married, I have a boyfriend. I had talked about having them out before and eh was against it. It was important to me though, so I had them out anyway, and just told him they deflated & had to get them out immediately.

daisy36 27 Jan 2013

Thanks so much for the encouragement, I know in my heart it is what I need to do, I just have to get the nerves together to move on with it. Starting with telling my husband. I just want to be absolutely positive, which I know I am.

Gillbot 26 Jan 2013

Hi Daisy, I just wanted to say that you are not alone in feeling like this. I had my implants almost 4 years ago and even though I had wanted them for years, even though I healed very quickly and even though they looked and felt great I didn't feel great about them. I became more self conscious than I was before, and embarrassed because I had gotten what I wanted but it wasn't what I thought it would be. Your husband sounds great, I'm sure if you explained to him that you are unhappy with your implants he will support you. Having a happy, healthy, confident wife is much better than big breasts. I agree that it's impossible to know this about implants until you actually have them. As for how they will look, because you have only had them for a short time, its very possible that once they have healed they will go back to the way they were before implants. More importantly they will be your real breasts and you will be healthier.Good luck with whatever you choose.

Angiemcc (Community Manager) 25 Jan 2013

That's tough, but it's one of those things you can't know until you do it (get the implants). Lots of women in this community discovered the same thing shortly after getting implants, that they just weren't for them. Especially when complications are involved.

It's too bad your husband likes them so much. It'd be easier otherwise. But I'm sure he wants you to feel comfortable and be happy more than he wants you to have implants.

You probably just need to sit down and have a heart to heart with him. It sounds like he's a nice man.

Please keep us posted and let us know how it goes.