Am I going crazy?

  • Gina in california
  • 2 years ago

Im 2 weeks post op from tummy tuck and breast augmentation and I tell you last night I was ready to lose it.  My husband and I sat down this am and we found this forum.  I cannot tell you how nice it was to hear all of this discussion.  I have gone through all the things people have talked about.  I'm always on the verge of tears.  I can't stand up, I'm exhausted, my breast hurt, my back hurts, I get muscle spasms at night.  I just want to cry.  I'm stuck in a body that looks like Frankenstein and I can't get it to work correctly.  I see all of your posts and I see that how I'm feeling is normal.  I just didn't realize all this was going to happen.  I thought yes I would have pain but mostly I would be enjoying my new body.  Wow what an emotional roller coaster.  We own our own business and I watch my husband having to work hard to make up for my slack.  I'm tired , I hurt, I want to cry.  My brain tells me this will all pass and it will work out fine but my heart and emotions are freaking out.  I guess it's just nice to write my feelings down.

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What in the world are these other posts?!?!??? Gina -- I'm so glad you found the site and the forum, and I'm glad that you now know that you are indeed, NOT CRAZY! ;) You will feel better soon -- I read another comment the other day that this is like childbirth...the pain and suffering can be so great, but eventually it is forgotten! And replaced by joy! Sending love & light & healing prayers up for you. Take care.
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Hey Gina, the thing that we don't realize is how much of an emotional impact this surgery has on us. I had no idea at all. I spent the first 5 weeks in an emotional roller coaster, crying my eyes out for no reason whatsoever. Luckily my hubby is an absolute gem and would give me a big hug when I was feeling like crap - he would just know it. Don't worry it will pass, but you need to give it time. I'm 7 weeks PO now and I feel amazing. Just think of it like an extended PMS (lol). You will start to feel physically better week by week. I wasn't even fully upright until 5 1/2 weeks PO, and my back was killing me for weeks beforehand. At two weeks PO I would walk about for an hour and then have to sleep half a day. Give yourself time to heal and stop trying to do too much. A TT is MAJOR SURGERY and you need to allow yourself time to recover. Be kind to yourself. Good luck. Oh yeah, I'm 7 weeks PO and I still get the muscle spasms, but they don't hurt anymore. :)
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Flowerbell!! Thank you for your response here!!! On Monday I will be at my 6 week post TT!! Finally wore pants with a zipper and heels yesterday!!! Thank goodness they actually fit, I had been nervous about it since my TT date 03/03/14!!! It's been a roller coaster ride and my scar is still looking pretty freaky at this point, but it can only go up from here!!! Hoping to get back to the gym within the next 2 weeks!!!
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Nope that is normal. In general I am a calm person who doesn't cry or flip out. Not so much since the tummy tuck....I have had more crying meltdowns since I got this done than ever in my life. Then I get mad and snap at everyone and then have to apologize and feel guilty. It was nuts for the first few weeks. It gets better..
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Aww!!! :( hang in there it will get better, we are so indepent women that we can't stand to be helpless and like my husband said when I had my tt he goes "mama I can't wait for you to get better because you are the rock of this house!!" we have a 4 year old son an dlet me tell you it was hard for me just to sit and watch my husband doing most of the stuff in the house, thankfully his mom and mine were a great help plus my best friend who's a nurse would come everyday until I was able to stay home alone ( about 2 wks) don't rush the process please, is frustrating the fact that you are sore every where and can't stand up straight ( I was able to do so until week 4 so don't feel bad!) the key is to do a lot of rest....this site is great and just ask anything and we will try to help you thru....
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Hi Gina- I had my MR TT on 6/18/12 and I felt the same way. At one point I cried, I was frustrated and began to regret my tt. I began to stand stright at 5 wks po and still hunch over a bit after a long day. I also feel a pull in my ab area and it annoys me so much that I can't just get up and go. It seems like everyday it gets better, what I have learned through this whole thing is to be patient one thing that I was able to do for 3 wks then frustration kicked in. Yes what a roller coaster ride!! Now I feel bad for my poor husband because he has been amazing with it all and I easily snap then go back to apologize but he understands my frustration- it does get better just hang in there.
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