Why do i feel so down, after getting something that i have wanted for 15 years? i am 8 days post op.

  • england4642
  • england
  • 3 years ago

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thanks everyone. I love this site...I ended up going to my PS's office yesterday and have a doozy of a seroma. The Nurse couldn't drain it so I see the Dr. on Monday to try again. I below up 5 inches in one day so I knew something was wrong. I am going to "work from home" next week I think and see how I handle that.
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That sounds like a great idea to stay home and work.  Stay down as long as possible to make this easier on yourself. 

Getting the fluid out will make you feel better. 
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Butterfly, you should feel a lot better by next week. But, I went to work yesterday, 22 days PO, and I couldn't fit comfortably in my old pants, because I had my binder on. I wouldn't go without it. However, I was uncomfortable and slow and swollen, and just generally wished I wasn't there! It is getting better every day, but hubby will work for me most of today - I just have to go in and complete a tax return that's due next week. Then, I'll go back home and veg out for the rest of the aft. I'll probably take tomorrow off too, and by next Thursday, I should feel a whole lot better to work again.
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well glad to see a boat I could jump in. I am newly post op and a teary-eyed mess. The more I read this web site though the better I am feeling. I literally bawled my eyes out this AM. I go back to work next week and dont fit in my pre-op suits.....all par for the course and will be worth it in the end (as I am told on here by those that have been there-done that!).
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It will be ok :)  Your clothes will eventually fit so just grab a few inexpensive comfortable items to wear for a while.   Go slow when you return to work.  I always tell people to not plan any after work activities for the first two weeks back. 

You are going to be tired by mid day and only want to get home and get your clothes off.  Baby steps!
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You may be down because you are coming off the prescription pain meds. Coming off tylenol with codeine did a huge number on me!
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Mine did great until this past week. I guess 3 weeks of working and stuff seems to be enough. Although, I told him I posted this and he has been better. lol
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Oh, and my hubby has never been in the hospital, except for his own birth, and our son's. He's terrified of stuff, and yet was very good about doing my drain and changing all the bandages constantly on the leaking lipo holes.
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My hubby has been great, but when I go back to work next week, I hope he knows that will be ALL I can handle!

I only got out of bed by myself for the first time on Wed, 14 days post op. I still can't even put the recliner back on my own, but can get out of it.

I am not cooking or doing anything while he is home. I can reheat something for lunch when he's gone, but can't bend down to pick stuff up that I drop, or to get an orange from the bottom drawer in the fridge. He puts an orange and an apple on the top shelf when he leaves, for my snacks, and he makes sure that my lunch is high enough up that I can get it easily.

He vacuumed yesterday for the first time, and he's been doing the laundry, dishes and cooking - only what's necessary, but more than I normally expect.

He sees every night that I can barely sit comfortably long enough to finish my supper, so I don't think he'll be dragging me out to supper soon! :)
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Ac, I know exactly what you mean! I am 4 week and 1 day post op. I hve been back at work since 2 weeks post op. Since I have been working, can get up and go to the bathroom by myself etc, my husband thinks I am "healed". I keep telling him when I get home from work I am exhausted and just want to be pampered. He has been great but at this point is over it. Keep in mind this is a man who has never had an surgical procedure in his life. He still has his tonsils!
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HAHA! Same with my husband. He has only had sinus surgery. It has only been 7 days since my surgery and he wanted to go out to dinner last night, so here I go drains and all. First he jumps into his truck and don't even consider that I can't get in because it was too tall. Then he orders a glass of wine and wants to sit in the restaurant for an hour sipping the damn thing. I guess it's good that I don't work because I will need a lot of time when this is all over to help my poor house recover from neglect. On the 12 things people should know before they have this surgery...one of them should be that your husband will not remember all the conversations about how much help you will need. Talk to ya soon.
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Don't let him think that!

I've told hubby from the get go, that I am not cooking or anything for at least 3 weeks. The most I will do is re-heat something for lunch if he is out. He leaves me some sliced cheese and an apple and orange on the top shelf of the fridge where I can reach them, so I can always have something if he's gone. Other than that, he makes all the meals.

I refuse to spend nearly 12 grand, and ruin it by rushing into stuff I know I shouldn't be doing. I told him I won't even be grocery shopping for another couple of weeks, because I won't be able to carry the bags, or reach into the buggy. Maybe in a week or so, I will start going with him, both to get out, and to help him with shopping, but he can do the carrying.
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Well, I'm day 11, and I couldn't imagine going out to dinner. I can barely sit at the table long enough to eat the little I do, let alone wait for someone to prepare food, etc. I sit with my chair tilted back a bit and my feet on the wooden bar thing under the table; not straight up like in a real chair at a restaurant. Sitting too straight makes the lower ab feel too tight.
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Maybe at 50 the skin just don't stretch as good as the younger girls. One funny thing in all of this.....yesterday my 20 year old daughter came by to see me. While she was there my husband had to empty my drain and my daughter said "now that is Love." He has taken pretty good care of my except the more straight I stand...the less he does. I think he thinks I am good to go now.
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The panic is perfectly normal!
For me, the c-sections were an easier recovery bc it didn't involve repairing a hernia, or tightening the muscles. But everyone is different. I have heard women say the TT was easier or the same. I have a maltese and he is surviving just fine, and your pups will too! Keep coming to this site and the gals will support you every step of the way.
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Thanks cchad7! Yea, I guess if he just don't let the chihuahua's starve I will feel blessed. Did you do better with your c-sections or your tummy tuck? I didn't have a c-section with my 2 girls, so I don't know. I did have hysterectomy several years ago, but they didn't cut my tummy. I guess because I am so close now to my surgery date I am going through a panic stage. Yikes!!
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Wow...a month. I guess it is what it is. I don't work so unfortunately my husband isn't really that great at housework. It's what will be waiting for me after that month that I fear. Thanks a lot for the info.
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acworthmom, he could surprise you! after 3 c-sections, a ride home from the hospital is the only help my husband gave me! but after my TT he was great. The important thing is to remember to let it ALL go so you don't hurt yourself. A temporarily messy house really doesn't matter in the long run. Have food delivered, get take out and a cleaning service and just recover. Good luck.
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I hear ya!!  Call a really good cleaning service and have them come and give the house a good spring cleaning the month after surgery.  That will get you going and on track to a fresh start. 

You are going to be so happy with the new body that you wont even care about the darn house!  Your mind will be in the mall with the new clothes...LOL
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Ha! yea, I saw where you had a panty burning party and for me it is going to be a Limited cami burning party. For the past few years I have worn one every day under my shirts to hide my tummy and I have like 30 of them. We just bought a condo on the beach in Destin FL as an investment and I have to go there in May. What do you think the beach bod might look like in 3 months (ie. bikini, tankini or full cover up?)
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hi there. i hope everything goes well for you on the 10th. Don'nt worry too much . you will just love the results as i do at only 17 days post op. This really was nowhere nearly as bad as i thought it was gonna be, and i don't regret it for one minute. Like you, my wardrobe is so gonna have a revamp. i constantly covered up with cardigans, and tops that were 3 sizes too big for me, in an attempt to hide the overhang. i hated summer, coz i was allways overheated, not wanting to strip off my cardy!!. Just be positive. You deserve it for yourself!!. Good Luck. x
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Thank you so much. I am setting up my room right now and am excited, but also want it over with. Do you mind telling me how long it was before you were able to stand up straight? Also, how long was it before you were able to lean over to shave your legs. My mind is racing with all the little things now that I have taken care of the big things. Anything you can tell me about your recovery up to 17 days would really be appreciated.
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Hi there. I know just how you feel. I just wanted to ask so many things. I still stoop a little sometimes, especially when i have sat for a long time, but i think you've just gotta listen to your own body. Shaving legs etc, takes quite a few days, because of pressure on the scar. My scar itself has not been too bad at all pain wise, but i had a lot of muscle repair done, and have found that the most uncomfortable of all. It feels like you have done an excessive amount of abdominal x2!!. Especially the upper abdo muscles. When you are up on your feet, it's natural to try to straighten up after a few days, which really makes your back ache a lot. But i've gotta say again, that i have been very surprised at my speedy progression. I was really worried that at 50, i was gonna take a little longer than most to recover. NOT SO!. Keep really positive, as i think this plays a big part in recovery. And let me share this with you. This morning, my husband put his hand around my middle for our morning cuddle, an just said WOW!. I would have normally pushed him away from my hanging tummy, so this is just all SO worthwhile. Hang on in there...xx
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Acworthmom, I know you are asking England but I came across this and I'm 19 days post-op. I was able to shave my legs, slowly and partially left-handed, on day 4. I wasn't able to stand straight up until day 13. Best wishes for your surgery/recovery!
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England, I love that your husband said "Wow" That is definitely worth it!!
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