What excuse (if any!) did you tell your work/co-workers about your Breast Reduction?

  • Nicole Karlis
  • 1 year ago

Hello BR community!

My name is Nicole and I'm the managing editor here at RealSelf. I'm in charge of creating content about all things booty and breasts. I'm working on a blog post about what to tell work/co-workers and would love to hear real stories. 

If you could please take the time to help and share your personal story below, that would be great. What excuse (if any) did you tell your boss/co-workers? Did anyone ask you about your absence when you returned? 

Looking forward to hearing your stories; thanks!

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Really interesting to see what people are planning to tell others, and particularly most reactions seem to be just that they assume you lost weight! I am lucky work wise, in I work from home, for myself, with husband so have the best situation possible really for recovery and for not having to explain anything. However I am not keen to tell people generally, as I am so self conscious about the boobies already, and I don't want to encourage people to look at them even more than they already do! that said, maybe I will want them too after my operation (in April). Who knows, maybe I won't even duck out of shot when people take photos afterwards either. haha ;)
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I am really struggling with this one. I work for a large company but the office I work in has about 30 employees. I only told a couple people. One really close friend and another lady I spoke to abut the surgeon she went to when she had implants. Well I guess people are already talking and I won't even be back for a week. Makes me upset on one hand - but then on the other hand it will be pretty obvious so if they know it may be easier. I don't know what I was thinking-I guess I was thinking I would be really swollen and they wouldn't really be able to tell for awhile. But even with with the swelling it is super obvious. Good luck to everyone as we all decide what the right thing to do is.
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i think the best thing to do is have a beaming smile and dress up, oozing confidence and positivity, if anyone mentions it, just say how great it has been. the worst thing to do is to look embarrassed.
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Anyone that asked me I told them the truth, some where interested, others just wished me luck. Some took me seriously, mostly men could not grasp the situation. Important is how you feel, and feel liberated!
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I told a couple of people bluntly that I was having breast reduction surgery. I expect others will either hear thru the grapevine or not even notice.
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I've been blunt about it post-op. I even had a few ppl - who I didn't expect to - ask about the process because they'd always wanted to know.
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I only told a close few Noone in work knows, I just said that I needed surgery, I have worn a padded bra and neck scarves so as yet noone has noticed. I will shed clothing and padding slowly and continue to accept the compliments on my weight loss. Best of luck.
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I find this discussion encouraging as one of the biggest reasons for having surgery is that I feel my boobs make me look so much fatter than I really am. My BMI is 26.5 so I am slightly overweight, but my tops are 3 clothes sizes bigger than my bottoms, and I feel that my boobs make all of me look the bigger size. I get lots of jokes and long cuddles for male friends at the pub, so I think they will notice, but I am expecting shock in the first instance and maybe a few asking my husband what he thinks. If nothing else there will be no tight hugs for a while after the surgery and that may well help people to guess!
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Just went back to work last week... Three people told me I looked as though I had lost weight, and another said I looked well rested.
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I'm very open. Last year I had bariatric surgery. Coworkers asked if I was going to get breast reduction. I told them I have to wait a year I'm very open. I told them that the girls are getting downsized
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I'm a teacher and a very private person, and I have given this a lot of thought. Because I don't see my co-workers for two months, I may have a luxury others don't. I am going to let them think I lost weight over the summer (Because I concealed my breasts so well in the past, I don't know if anyone ever really knew how big I previously was.)
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That's a great idea! Definitely keep us posted on how it goes :) Hope you're recovery is going great!

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I'm being private about it, too. I don't want to have conversations about breasts. I'd rather talk about something else. And I too, was a whiz at concealment. I knew I was a 36DDD and my neck knew, but I think everyone else thought I was a 36D, tops. I look thinner with the smaller chest, so that will be my cover, I hope, when I start circulating more.
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I too had the surgery just a week ago so that I could return for the school year. Some of my coworkers know but won't repeat it. I went from a 36DDD to a 36 B. there's a big difference but I used to wear minimizer bras and loose clothes to hide them. I look like I lost 20 pounds so I'm just going to graciously thank anyone for their nice comments. I'm so glad I did it. Hope my students don't notice!
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At one of my jobs, I am very close to the people, so I did tell my higher-ups and a couple of co-workers. I wasn't met with any judgement or negativity at all, rather, since we are like a family there, they were happy for me that I get to have this done. At my other two jobs, I told my supervisor that I am having surgery, but did not go into detail, and did not tell any co-workers. I'm not trying to be secretive, though, and will share with anyone who asks after I return to work. It's not a big secret that I have large breasts and I am sure people are going to notice.
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It's great you have the confidence to be open about it. I think it really just depends on that person and the work environment. Did you inspire any of your co-workers to get a breast reduction as well? 

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I completely agree that it depends on the person and the work environment. There are places and people that I wasn't so open about it with, because I'm not so comfortable with them knowing my personal business! I don't know if I inspired any of them to get a breast reduction. To be perfectly honest, most of the women I work with are very thin with very small breasts. I am kind of like the black sheep! But I know that I have inspired my mother and best friend to at least look into getting a BR, and I hope that I can inspire other large-breasted women that I know to have the procedure done by telling them my story. That is probably the biggest reason I won't be secretive about it.
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I am 50 and scheduled for my surgery a week from tomorrow (July 31). I am very much looking forward to it! I confidentially informed my immediate supervisor, and two other key people, and I also shared with a couple of folks that I am going out on medical leave for "lady stuff." For the rest of the folks in the office, I simply told them that I had a lot of (vacation) time, and was taking the month of August off to take care of some personal projects :o) I also ordered a great pair of new glasses, and have been growing my hair, which is at a horrible length! My plan is to get a great hair style and wear my fabulous new glasses, so that when I go back to work, the focus will be on my face, and not my body. You can tell I have given this some thought, right? I know someone else who told people that they were having "shoulder surgery" (also true). I'm sure that afterward, I will privately share with folks who I know or think are considering the surgery.
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Emma, 

Hope your surgery went well. I lovee the makeover idea!! You must take pics and share it with us. I'm excited to hear how your plan goes :)

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I've told my team at work and they knew what surgery I was having - I saw no reason to not tell my staff as they will certainly notice the difference when I return to work! :)
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I only told my closest colleagues, and just told my boss - a male - that it was a non-life-threatening procedure. No one noticed when I returned to school because I had covered up my chest SO WELL for so long! No one could tell I was a G before because I strapped them down & wore big shirts & scarves... BUT I'm happy & my back is happy. I'm still shocked they are smaller.
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My husband suggested that I just tell everyone as in his view it was going yo be obvious. . So I did. The best comment I got from a man was "it will improve your golf swing" but generally it was yep we can see why you're doing it - good luck. From women it was how much, where and let me know how it turns out.
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OMG, I was SO worried about this.. It was one reason I delayed my decision for so long. I am the only female in my small group, in a male-dominated math field. Anyway, I just said I was having surgery, that I wasn't ill, that it was female stuff. Not a one has asked me specifics, but did kind of try to get me to give more information, which I did not. I am due to have the surgery this Friday. I am hoping that they will just think I lost weight or something when I get back. I am tall, and my boobs, though very large, kinda "smash" into my chest with a bra, and I wear loose tops. Maybe they will think I had liposuction? Who knows! I am NOT telling, because I will never hear the end of it and have to deal with eyes going to the boobs all the time!
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The most common comment and reaction I had from people who did not know about my surgery: You lost weight and look great. No one really needs to know details if you are not comfortable. Be prepared for that great feeling of lightness of the chest and great decrease in pain. I say this surgery is the best thing I have done for myself in years. :)
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