Anyone else feeling down and miserable?

  • Ozali
  • 2 years ago

I am day 5 post breast reduction, having gone from a 32g to a 32 c-d. I have had very minimal pain, and recovery has been so easy, I'm up about and feeling 'normal' other than the fact that all I can do is cry. And I'm not sure why! I thought this surgery would make me feel better about myself. My neck and back pain has gone already, but I just hate looking at myself in the mirror. I feel that it has emphasised my belly and arms, and I feel so horrible about myself. Please tell me has anyone else gone through these emotions? I know it sounds silly but I'm wondering if it was worth it.

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Yes we pretty much all did in this group..lol dont worry Ozali
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I am 8 days post op and have had three meltdowns. I went from 34h to what I've been told is now D. However, I feel so small. Another thing us that I feel like my stomach looks bigger. I am 5'2 and weigh 143 lbs. I didn't think my stomach was a big deal before. I guess it also doesn't help that I have been off of my zolft for 2 weeks. I hope this has gotten better for you because right now I regret having done this!
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I have noticed my belly as well. It's ok.... I'm bigger than you are but I have lost 50 pounds before I had the BR. Once I had the BR my belly looked humongous. Lol. I was devastated, but I know how to lose weight and I will continue to lose weight. It will get better for you just like it has for me. The feelings that you are having will pass and I think everyone has had these same emotions.
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Thank u so much! I just got my drains out and my surgical bra on. I feel a little better.
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It will get better trust me. As time goes on and changes occur. I had to be patient with myself as well. Tomorrow will be 2 weeks for me.
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Thank you. It's good to know I am not alone!
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Today I discovered a way to put everything into perspective - I tried to find something nice to wear in my wardrobe and found that everything is now way too big. So off to the clothes shop I went and bought 4 new tops, 2 dress sizes smaller than I used to buy and they fit great. So that " enormous" tummy isn't that big after all.
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I should try that but I'm thinking I'm going to have to stay in the same size shirt for my belly. Lol. But my current shirts are too big in the breast area.
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This helps! Thank you!
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Have to tell you, I am 4.5 months post op, and now have a feeling of chronic fatigue. Many things attributed though. The last 1.5 years have been traumatic and to be honest, mentally and physically are rough coming back. Just keep a plugging on. Best you can do is just take time and be patient with life.
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I am feeling this way right now. I feel like I have lost my femininity. I am too small and all I see is my stomach when I look in the mirror. I have lost 50 pounds and now I look like I have lost a pound. I'm so sad but others try to lift my spirits saying that they will change but I'm not so sure.
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I was feeling like I looked pregnant after my BR. I had lost 40 pounds before the surgery and it wasn't all that noticeable because of the big boobs. Now that I lost my boobs and can see my stomach for the first time in my life, I too think that I look like I only have lost a pound!!! Ha!!! All my friends assured me I don't look pregnant and that I need to get over it, that I look great........I do know I feel great and feel so much lighter. Relax....don't be sad!
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Lol!!! That's how I felt though. I'm better now and planning my next weight loss journey to get this belly down. Thanks for your kind words. :-)
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once any post op stomach swelling has gone down, you need to face a simple truth - if your belly is fat, then it was before and your boobs were just hiding it. so don't blame being able to see your big belly post BR on the surgery, thank your lovely new boobs for giving you the incentive to do something about the fat belly you have been ignoring for too long. That is what I am doing, have been losing weight and joined a gym since my op.
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I never blamed my stomach on my BR???? What I was saying is that it is more noticeable because my stomach sticks out more than my breast now. I been working out before I thought about a BR. I've lost 50+ pounds and now all I have left is stomach, which of course I know was there before I had the surgery.
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Changingb430, I'm two months out and it's taken me that long to be at peace with how my new body looks. My boobs are square now, very unexpected. It's taken awhile to get used to the new flaws and not focus on them so much. It's good to be motivated to reduce your tummy, but you may find it a little bit less objectionable as time goes on.
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Peediewife, there's no reason for this kind of harshness with other members. We all come here for support, not to be attacked. Every once on a rare while you tell someone off because you disagree with their perceptions and it's appalling.
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Girl don't worry about it I also got scared of my boobs when they looked square n boxy I cried its been 4months and my boobs r looking more natural as months go bye hang in there
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Lol I understand just change your diet n do 100 sit up in sections n walk 2to 4 miles a day n wear those waist trainers n I promise u that u will see results n drink lots of water we should start a lil group for all of us women who had breast Reduction n having issues with our body's n motivate each other to lose weight it would be awesome to see what everybody comes from
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It a traumatic change to our bodies. I'm worried mine will continue to be square after some time but I will adjust as time goes on.
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She doesn't know me or any other members, she's just voicing her opinion. Don't let it get to you. It didn't bother me.
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That would be great! I have lost 50 pre BR I just got more to lose.
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No it won't look square trust me it will form shape as weeks go bye ....b positive n dont think about it ...let it b
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I'm more positive now. I'm letting the process take its course. I trust my PS and my positive real self friends. :-)
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Nserrano, i checked your profile to see if your results were as square as mine but there aren't any pictures, darn it. Im very interested to see if anyone had boobs as square as mine and how they turned out. :)
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