Anyone else feeling down and miserable?

  • Ozali
  • 2 years ago

I am day 5 post breast reduction, having gone from a 32g to a 32 c-d. I have had very minimal pain, and recovery has been so easy, I'm up about and feeling 'normal' other than the fact that all I can do is cry. And I'm not sure why! I thought this surgery would make me feel better about myself. My neck and back pain has gone already, but I just hate looking at myself in the mirror. I feel that it has emphasised my belly and arms, and I feel so horrible about myself. Please tell me has anyone else gone through these emotions? I know it sounds silly but I'm wondering if it was worth it.

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I am feeling this way right now. I feel like I have lost my femininity. I am too small and all I see is my stomach when I look in the mirror. I have lost 50 pounds and now I look like I have lost a pound. I'm so sad but others try to lift my spirits saying that they will change but I'm not so sure.
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Day nineteen, doing Fine. Then from one day to the next infection sets in around anchor on right breast. Pain is insufferable. Going to the P.S. tomorrow.
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Today I'm 13 days post op and feel like Ass.
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It seems to be absolutely typical to feel down at some point, often around 3 weeks. Your body has been through major trauma and you may well be tired from poor sleep. Hang in there and do something nice for yourself.
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Aww sweets. Yes I felt the same way.. I couldn stop crying and felt bad sharing it most days. I missed my girls, struggled a lot even though I new I was walking into my Newness. The PS thot I looked great, all did. I was not comfortable at all. I still have yet to purchase a really great bra and only 2new shirts. I'm 17 wks PO I'm feeling better but not without pains still. Oh yeah my stomach. I wish I could post like most Sisters and report the cart wheels. I still have pains, the scars don't bother me. I still don't feel in some areas but I do have n never lost sensitivity in my nipples. I wish you the best and we are here for you. I hope you know your NOT alone.
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Hello I know its been a year after surgery how are you feeling after a year
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My surgery was December 17th 2013 but truth be told, the first eight weeks of recovery were hell. I cannot recommend enough that you have someone to care for you during this time. My Husband took four weeks off of work and was such a blessing. If I could give only one bit of advice would be to allow yourself to heal. Do not lift anything heavier than an apple as the more you insist upon doing the lengthier your healing. Even the slightest action, i.e.; picking something up, opening a cabinet door, lifting a glass will set your healing back weeks if not months. You will learn to appreciate the ability to lift the smallest of objects as we so often take for granted. You will feel every muscle in your upper body. So PLEASE, I implore that you sit back, relax and allow the luxury of time to reshape, heal and adjust to you wonderful new lil' boobs! get caught up on your reading, movies and or any other little non intrusive activities that you otherwise could never find the time for. I love not paying eighty dollars for a bra Woo-Hoo!♥
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its a month for me now and I still feel the burning sensation in the soreness all over I wanna know when is that all gonna go away maybe at 3 months 4 months
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Trust that it gets better!! I am three months PO. My breasts were so small (to me) at first (it seemed as though I had been scalped), and I hated looking at myself in the mirror. I was VERY banged up during/immediately after surgery. Now I'm VERY happy with them. In fact, I walked into our bedroom last night with no top on so I could showcase them for my fiance. It did the trick. We woke up very happy this morning ;-)
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I know I am very very late, but this is the ONLY honest post I've read on the matter! I'm currently going through post-operative depression at 2.5 weeks out and i feel like the procedure was soooo not worth it! I feel flat Chested and butchered. My family was NOT supportive in my decision and made me feel so bad defensive before getting this done. So now I just feel so sad and obsessed with my ugly little boobies. I feel like a total insecure fool for getting this done. I know this feeling will pass, but for the meantime I'm just wallowing in it. Again, sorry I responded a year too late, but I just signed up for this site today, Lol.
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I know its been a year how are you feeling now
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I'm so sorry you're feel the way you do. I had surgery on 8/5, so I'm a little more than 2 weeks PO. My least favorite part of the day is the morning because I change (take off my bra, unstick my gauze, gently wash my breasts) in the bathroom in front of a big mirror. My breasts are MUCH smaller than I had anticipated, and my left nipple-areola complex is ischemic (and possibly on the way to becoming necrotic). It sort of turns my stomach to see myself. But on the bright side, I love that all of my clothes fit comfortably. I wore a tank top in public today, something I never would have done in the past, lest I wanted to garner lecherous looks from male passersby.
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I think many of us have an adjustment. The huge boobs have made our stomachs look much smaller than they actually were. My BR was last June, and I had the same wake up call. This is basically a "phased project". First the boobs and pain go, then you work on toning up the stomach that lurked underneath. I used bicycling, as that's my usual transportation where I live in Thailand (winters). I just rode many km more than just biking to the market. Water walking is another great exercise. Once you get things "in proportion" again, the whole thing falls into place and you will be forever vigilant about not letting your belly stick out further than your boobs! This surgery was the best thing I've ever done for myself. The lack of pain and discomfort has opened up amazing new vistas! Hang in there and make a plan that works for you to tone up the slackers the boobs were hiding!
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I am 2 weeks post op and feeling the same way! I feel like my shoulders look huge! Hang in there. From reading all of the lists here, things do get better.
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I felt the same way at 1 week PO. It was a Friday and my mom flew home and my boyfriend went to work. I was all alone. All I could think of was I had 5 more weeks of recovery and being alone (which wasn't reality). It was very overwhelming to say the least. I cried uncontrollably and took myself back to bed. I still felt the same way when I woke up and I literally couldn't stop crying. I wasn't really crying for any reason. I finally just went with it and let myself sob. After doing some research online I found that it is completely normal after anesthetics and your body coping with the trauma its been through.
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I never cried an never felt depressed, but it took my breasts 4 months to fall into a softer and normal shape, I was a little worried when they looked boxy. While I am happy with my new size and shape and symmetry, there is something about the appearance of the skin that I am very unhappy about. My PS said there is nothing he can do to correct it. My belly sticks out now that my breasts are smaller, the belly was always there but like many here, the boobs stuck out farther than the belly prior to surgery. I sometimes suck in my gut because I don't like the way I look in some tops now.... I am working on losing a few pounds.... but I do not miss my large heavy chest.
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I am going through this right now
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Wow, your subject caught my eye and I read all that was posted here and I am amazed to say I've been feeling exactly like some of you gals! Talk about hi-lo feelings! One time, I feel totally depressed, next...on cloud nine for doing this finally and being free of the neck/shoulder pain. Hang in there! I am so encouraged to read that others have been feeling like I have and that we are definately not alone in our recovery. My prayers are with all of you!
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I've been feeling like this too. I'm not in pain and I can see that once the swelling goes down and I heal more they will look nice. Ive just been crying my eyes out all the time because I'm so exhausted. I can't get comfortable for sleeping. I'm not resting enough. Im freaking out about taking so much time off work. I'm angry with my surgeon for making recovery sound like a cake walk. I got a prescription for Xanax and its helped me calm down and sleep some. Its a long journey but I absolutely believe it will be worth it.
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Hi ladies, I'm about 7 weeks post-op. my first week or two I cried about every day, probably more than once. I felt like I was an A cup and looked gross. My stomach appeared bigger and I just had a hard time adjusting. Not to mention that after a few days we found I had a complication. Given all that, what you are feeling is completely normal. Once I started getting told constantly how great I looked, I finally started to believe it. It took me longer to heal so it was a bit harder, but I'm really pretty happy now. I won't see my full I still have a lot of healing to do, but I wish I had done this surgery 10 years ago! Just keep reminding yourself why you did it and when you get to start trying on the amazing clothes you could never wear before, you will see how happy you will be. Happy healing!
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I'm at 3 weeks post op. I'm begining to feel a pinchy feeling and a small bit of throbbing. Is this healing?
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Hey I just want to offer my some reassurance and empathy. Recovering from surgery is HARD. All that time at home (lots of it by myself) gave me way too much time to percolate in my head, and I often felt blue. You ladies are doing the smart thing - coming to this community to share your feelings and get support. I promise that you will feel better about everything in a week or two, and you will start to hit small milestones that are encouraging. Here are some of mine:
1. stepping down off narcotics - at about 1 week
2. moving from the couch back to my bed - around 9 days
3. sleeping on my side! around 12 days (but apparently I'm an outlier here)
4. going to the hair salon - around 12 days
5. getting cleared to wash my own hair and change up my bras - around 14 days
6. waking up not sore or achey! - about 3 weeks
7. seeing my breasts begin to "drop and fluff" - around 3 weeks

I know its SO hard to be inactive when you are used to doing so much. But think of this time as a huge gift you are giving yourself, the gift of healing and beautiful breasts. The better care you take of yourself now, the faster this healing process will go. I really leaned on this community for support when I was feeling bad and it made such a difference just to read kind words of caring. Keep coming back.
Hugs,
Se1f
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Wow. Your experiences are far different from mine, but I think I was drugged to the eyeballs for the first 3 or 4 days. I was on Cloud 9! So sorry you didn't get the feeling of relief and a new life that many of us did. That said, I think my euphoria about the "new me" definitely gave me the endorphins to move and do more than I should, which left me exhausted and pretty miserable two weeks out. I was told to be a "slug" for the first 2-3 weeks. Here in the Pacific Northwest, nothing moves less and slower than a slug! And they eat a lot, too.

I was also told very clearly from the beginning the general "recovery period" for this surgery was 6 weeks. That's a month and a half. So, 4-5 days out...is just the beginning of the trail. The shape of my boobs changes daily, even from morning to night. (The more I do, they more they swell...there's a message there.) It's far too early to know what they will eventually look like, so although I didn't love their shape at first, easy to see it won't be the final profile.

I do caution you about doing too much!!!!! If husbands and children are "tired of you not doing anything", hopefully they'll get up and do it for themselves. My soon to be ex son-in-law stopped by yesterday, and ended up vacuuming for me. If he's willing to do that for a mother-in-law he doesn't particularly care for, surely your family will pitch in for 6 weeks. :-) You've been taking care of them for many years....don't goof up your surgeon's good work for the sake of hurrying back to "normal".

My attempt to be the fastest patient to ever recover from bust reduction ended up putting me in bed for 2 solid days at about 2 1/2 weeks to make up for all my euphoria driven activities. Have never felt so completely exhausted. Feeling better now, but know I added a week or two to the initial 6 week estimate.

Hang in there, and be patient!
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Thanks! I know everything you are saying is right. I appreciate anyone's advice who has or is in the process of this journey! And although it seems like all my posts/comments so far are negative, I am usually a pretty upbeat person, and I believe/hope/pray that I am ultimately going to be thrilled. I just need to work on patience and hopefully my family will come around too. (They really are good folks, but
just are not use to seeing me doing nothing) Thanks again.
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I KNOW you are going to be thrilled! Time is a great healer, and never have I realized how true that was until now. My suggestion is to quickly develop patience before your body revolts and sends you to bed. It might lose patience before you find some.

This is the most lethargic, do-nothing period in my life...and I'm 62. It's worth it. Except for the major surgical advances, wish I'd done this 35 years ago!
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