Day 7 Post Op Questions

  • Carrie Deshler
  • Deshler, Ohio
  • 3 years ago

Hello all!! I am a 31 year old mommy of a 12 year old girl and 4 year old boy.  I have always been fairly heavy throughout life.  In January 2010, I weighed 218 lbs (I am  5'4).  Over the course of a year I lost 75 lbs and went from a size 18 to a size 5.  My surgery was 08/19/2011 and I had a tummy tuck, breast lift, and 320cc saline implants.  I have several questions that I would love your help/opinions on: 1.  How much activity is too much?  I felt pretty good in the first couple days and would take several short walks down our alley, take a load of clothes off the clothesline, stand at the sink and do dishes, prepare small meals, fold laundry and put it away, go grocery shopping, etc...  I would feel a bit tired afterwards and hit the recliner for an hour or so and then feel better.  It is now 1 week post op exactly and it's all I can do to go pee in the mornings.  I have completely given up on doing anything except maybe grabbing myself a drink or stepping outside to check out the weather for a minute.  What gives? 2.  I was only taking my Percocet as needed when I first came home, usually 1 every 4 hours then 2 at night to sleep.  Now I feel like I need to take 2 every 4 hours just to function.  That is the prescribed dosage, just I was fine with only half that before. 3.  My 12 year old daughter doesn't really ask questions or anything.  She knows exactly what I had done and I have offered several times to answer any questions she has but she really just seems kinda disinterested.  She and I have a pretty open, casual relationship and I have no problems talking to her about anything but she does normally get the preteen kind of giggles...  I just want to make sure she is receiving the proper message thru all this.  She is not overweight by any means, but she is definately cursed with my same body shape and definately has the potential to launch herself into some weight problems like I did. 4. Is there a general timeframe on increasing intimacy?  The last two nights I've started out in bed with my boyfriend.  I give up after an hour or so and go back to the recliner.  He waits till I get as comfortable as possible then he kinda angles his head towards mine on the pillows so our faces are closer.  We hold hands or put our hands on each other's legs to try to be close.  We are normally a very intimate couple, not just sex wise but lots of cuddling, kissing, and verbal proclamations, lol.  This is really taking a toll on me emotionally, when does it get better?   Thank you so much for ANY replies, I'm kinda lonely at home and have too much time for my head to spin around these things... Carrie

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I am taking 4 weeks off from work - I have a very active job. I also know that any kind of surgery, especially a longer surgery such as a mommy makeover, will have lots of peaks and valleys (ie ups and downs). It is important to keep active but not too active during those times when you feel good so that the valleys are not too deep. Most people, especially moms, want to bounce right back and do everything they did before within a couple of day. However, that is really not realistic.

I had plans on having my surgery about 2-3 weeks before a trip to Disneyland/Universal Studios but my ps discouraged it. He felt I would be too fatigued to enjoy a full day at the parks. So I scheduled my surgery about 2 weeks after our vacation.

My 14 yr old daughter replied, when asked about my surgery, that she that it "was the modern thing to do" - lol!

Maybe you over did it the first week??? I personally do not have a lot of expectation of activity the first week. I expect to walk to the bathroom, kitchen, and maybe outside a bit but not much more. Have you called your ps/nurse to discuss this? You might want to... Good luck!!
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Hi Carrie,

Wow, you have a lot on your mind! :) Understandable at this point in the game. Here's what doctors say about resuming sex after a tummy tuck. It can be hard to wait, but you need to make sure you give your body time to rest and heal. You might want to check with your surgeon about your increased pain medication needs. Usually it goes the other way and women are down to just ibuprofen or tylenol at this point.

One week is NOT very far out and you need to rest, rest, rest and not worry about doing more right now.

I think it's great that you're so open and communicative with your daughter. She's one lucky girl.

I would encourage you to start a review in our Mommy Makeover Review Community. This is a great place to write your story (including having the ability to add photos/video and update as much as you want), and get support/connect with other ladies on the site.

Hope this helps and thanks for posting here on RealSelf!

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