I need to know of a (Non-Cosmetic) surgery that I can tell people I am having instead of saying its a Mommy Makeover

  • Chowur
  • Utah, UT
  • 2 months ago

We have a lot of family, friends and neighbors that wouldn't approve or understand both cosmetically and financially.  What "realistic" excuse can I use for such a long recovery? I've heard Hernias being mentioned but I don't think the recovery time is sufficient.  Help?!?!

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I'm a school teacher and I'm recovering right now from a MM. I told my principal I was getting a breast reduction. My close family members know. I did not feel like I should tell my co-workers. If they ask I had a breast reduction.
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I think your right not to tell people, it's your private business after all and people are very judgemental unfortunately even on this site it seems. You do what's best for you, I've only told a few close family members who I know will be there to support me and that's what it's all about getting the right support! In regards what to tell everyone else I would go with a hernia
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I completely understand. I work in a school system, and don't want to be the topic of discussion myself. Plus, I have female students who struggle with their body image....I'm going with a hernia. A big one!
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Cyst removal? Lumpectomy? Gall bladder? Hmm...
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I totally understand why you wouldn't want people to know! It's not their business and people can be really judgemental. Tell them you are getting major hernia surgery. That is what I am doing :)
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PsyKat, I am not ashamed. I am completely emotionally and physically ready. In the area I live in Utah and many friends and neighbors do not look as this as something women should do. Plus the cost is another thing that people shutter at because we live in a lower income area.
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Are you getting a full mommy makeover? If so, I'm curious how you'll, yanno, explain the new perky tits with your 'hernia' repair. And by what you just said, you are ashamed, because you're too embarrassed to have people 'talk about you' because of your own personal decisions. Anyways...do your thing, it's your life. Lie if you want to.
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Why do you keep saying that she is ashamed?? Also, she didn't ask you to judge her or your opinion on it. She asked advice on what to say for recovery and you called her out.... She doesn't want people to know, so what? I understand that. When I get my mm done this fall I'm telling people that I am getting a tummy tuck with hernia repair but not telling people about the BA. It's none of their business and I'm not going with a huge size so my goal is to look the same in that department, I wear (very) padded bras now so my goal is to not have to do that and be comfortable in my own skin when undressed.
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Because human psychology and logic. She posted on an open forum, where I have just as much a right as she does to express opinion....if she wanted just hugs and kisses and everyone to agree with her, she should have posted it on her own blog on here. Logic, yay!
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That's wage I did too!
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I'm confused why you're ashamed? If you're too ashamed to admit it, maybe you're not emotionally ready. If it's something you feel is 'wrong' and you have to hide it, why have it? It's like I told my brothers and sisters growing up, 'if you're too embarrassed to buy condoms, you're not ready to have sex.' In my opinion, same idea, just with different circumstances.
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Not everyone wants everyone else all up in their business. I know in my culture we are private people. We don't talk all about everything that's going on in our lives or in our families or in our bodies. We respect each other's privacy and expect the same of others. Unfortunately, some people are nosey and will want to know what kind of surgery she had, which is none of their business. She's under no obligation to let them all into her personal life.
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