What is the best way to convince parents to invest in my cosmetic surgery?

  • emiyinhouston
  • Houston
  • 5 years ago

I'm 19, so I'm sure that my nose has stopped growing (i hope!). It's so huge that even with my mouth closed, i hate to smile! My mom has adamantly championed me to get braces, but she won't invest in my rhinoplasty.

Isn't that hypocrisy? Aren't braces cosmetic surgery just as much as rhinoplasty? Does anyone have suggestions for how I can convince her to help me pay for a rhinoplasty?

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I realize that this post is 5 years old, and that you've probably long ago resolved this issue. I'm posting this advice for anyone else who happens across this post. Emily, I'm going to tell you something you don't want to hear. It depends on your parents financial situation. Unless they are wealthy you should not ask this of them at all. Getting braces is a much more acceptable thing to ask of your parents. Everyone can look at your teeth and agree that they are crooked or straight. On the other hand your nose might be a different issue. Some people might think your nose is unattractive, while others may think it's great. It's subjective. It's just like everyone agrees that you shouldn't drive around on bald tires, but people can't really say if a red car is better or a blue car is better. If your parents are wealthy then it's fine to ask them to pay. There are two good ways to get them to help pay. One is to sell them on the benefits of this procedure to you and to show them that you have really done a lot of homework on this issue. The other way is to give them something that they really want but you have refused to give them. As an example, let's suppose that you've dropped out of college and they've been trying to get you to go back. You could offer to them that you would go back to school if they would pay for your nose job after you had been back in school for one semester. That way you'd both get something you want out of the deal.
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I think you should express your concerns regarding the appearance of your nose in a calm manner, and be honest with your parents about how it makes you feel. As a parent, if my child wanted to have a cosmetic procedure as a late teen because it was something that bothered them or contributed to a poor self-image, I would evaluate how important having the surgery would be to them. If I saw they were genuinely upset about the appearance of any particular body part, I would consider assisting them financially so they could feel better about themselves. If you can find a surgeon who accepts a payment plan, maybe you could ask your parents to make half the payment while you make the other half. They may be more inclined oblige if they see you are going to contribute just as much as they are. Good luck! :)
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Make your mother understand that getting a cosmetic surgery is not a big thing now. It is pretty common and usual. Also rhinoplasty isn't done now for just the purpose of looking good. It is done to get relief from breathing troubles. So that means it can be classified as a medical procedure. Now your mother will not object to a medical procedure right? Here is the proof http://www.theplasticsurgerypost.com/cosmetic-surgery/rhinoplasty-not-just-for-aesthetics/
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I'm 19, a guy, and want to change my nose as well, but haven't told anyone about it yet. I've always though the same about the braces, it does much less for you than a nose job and it does cost nearly as much, but I don't think it's hypocrisy because it's just not the same thing. Braces are also more of a status symbol. Every kid in my town got them. So it's more about straight teeth than beautiful teeth. It used to be that Jewish Americans would get their daughters nose jobs for their 18th birthdays as a status symbol, but not so much anymore. You have to explain to your mom that this is essentially like waxing. It basically is the same thing. You're going in there and physically cutting out the excess cartilage and bone. Like waxing, you're taking charge of your looks. Show her videos of how it's done. It's actually very fascinating and elegant the way it works.
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Hi Emily,

Hmmm... I'd never thought about your comparison to braces before, but I can imagine most parents feel that way (unfortunately for you)!

Two things spring to mind:

1 - Do you have any "functional" issues, e.g. trouble breathing? This might help sway her or your insurance company to pay for it.

2 - Have you tried offering to help with the costs? Perhaps you could pitch in 50% to show her that you're really dedicated and want it done?

Good luck! I'm interested to see what others come up with as well.

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