How do you all deal with your family and friends about tattoo regret

  • Canadagirl75
  • Winnipeg, MB
  • 1 year ago

I got my tattoo 3 weeks ago and regretted it by the next day. My parents don't even know I have it. My close friends do and I have confided in a couple of friends about my regret. They have been supportive but I am afraid that my parents will not be. Do you all just hide the regret and are you all getting the laser done in secret? Hoping to be able to just get the tattoo off without family having to know? I do not want to hear the "I told you so"...even though I know I deserve it. Do you just suck it up and take it or do you pretend to not have regret around them? I guess that last question applies ot those that haven't started the laser removal yet and are just trying to decide.

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To be honest, it's your body, not theirs. It's your skin. Why does everyone care what other peoples opinions are? Does their opinion change the fact that your skin is yours and yours only? No. It's ok to regret decisions in life and thankfully we have the technology to remove some mistakes but it comes at a price. If you care about what your family will say then you already know you won't like the answer. I'm getting one of mine removed because I got it for my partner who became my husband and father of my child. When I got it, I loved it and expected to keep it for life. Things don't always work out for the best but I learned valuable lessons. 1. Don't give a hoot about what people think of your tattoos, they are on you, not them. Some people collect art and pay thousands of dollars at auctions then spend more to get them framed. I don't have my artwork on my walls, I have it on me all the time and I get to take it to the grave with me :) 2. Only ever get a tattoo for yourself and not for other people. I got mine for someone else and not for myself. Biggest mistake right there! If you regret it, get it removed, no use pretending. If you can live with your regret, wear it with pride and laugh about it when you're old and wrinkly :)
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My husband doesn't understand why I'm having my forearm tattoo lasered because he likes it on me (and there was once a time that I did) and even though he's supportive on my decision to have it removed he sometimes tells me how it's such a waste of money. Honestly I really wish that I could just accept this and move on but I can't. It's really taking over my life -- the regret and the depression and anxiety that comes with it. So I really just keep things to myself because really I'm the only one who understands what I'm going through and I wanna spare my family of the stress. The removal process isn't bringing me any comfort for now as I'm still in the initial stages but maybe once I see dramatic fading I'll feel soooo much better. Sigh.
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I've kept this to myself and intend to keep it that way. My husband knows, of course, but otherwise, nah. I will be dealing about this alone with a few select people, not the whole mob, and not my parents as well. It's just a no-no. No, enough to endure myself, don't need others to shame me, thank you very much!
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I told my parents as soon as I regretted it (about an hour after getting it done)... Better sooner than later and they were a lot nicer about it than I thought they were going to be. My mom makes rude comments sometimes but, that's just how she is. I'd rather live the truth than a lie.
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Hi, It is remarkable how much you and I can relate in the sense that we have the same worries about our tattoo regret. I haven't told my parents about my tattoo either - I've told a couple of friends, but yeah, I am getting laser done in secret. I got used to hiding my tattoo after a while, and it's not so bad. I think you can definitely have laser done in secret and it'll be fine. One day you'll look back and maybe reflect with your parents about the whole ordeal...
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My tattoo is on my forearm so it would be difficult. My parents still have not seen my tattoo but with spring/summer coming up I'm going to have to let them in on my secret. Thankfully, I'm more confident than right after I got it. I'm an adult and it was my decision. I can be confident now in telling them as the regret has faded and all the feelings that came with it like shame, embarrassment etc.
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Definitely tell your family/friends about it at some stage. It's so much easier to deal with problems with your family/friends by your side. Trust me, no matter what "I told you so" response they give you, they WILL support you in the end if you let them understand your POV. It's also quite uncomfortable to keep a secret from the ones you love. Have faith in your family/friends!
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Hi! I'm in a very similar situation with my tattoo. The day I got it done because my tattoo is on the large side my parents seen it straight away. I would have loved to wear pants and hide it on my leg but its summertime and I can't get away with it! Anyways I've ordered some make-up called dermacolor for tattoo cover and its worked wonders on my tattoo! Temporary fix until I can afford to travel to get picosure laser removal. Only my friends know I want my tattoo removed so I'm planning laser surgery in secret. I recommend covering it with this makeup until you decide what to do next.

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Hey!! I know how you're feeling. I am very secretive about my tattoo with my friends and family, and I'm 28!! I keep it covered often and only very few people know of my true hatred for it. Getting a tattoo that you hate makes you feel ashamed of what you have done to your skin and letting other people know sometimes increases that feeling. If you want to tell your parents, maybe try writing them a letter so that they know just how sensitive you are about the topic and that way they will know how to address it by not throwing the "I told you so" comment around. What's done is done and maybe they could end up being more support for you then you think.
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Thanks for the advice. I think I'm going to wait a little just to give myself some time to figure out what I'm doing.
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