Need Advice

  • momma2kids
  • WY
  • 2 years ago

I have wanted a Rhinoplasty for over 13 years. I have always felt uncomfortable with my appearance because of my nose. As I have gotten older and have had children my nose seems to have gotten bigger. In 2010 I began saving up money for the Rhinoplasty. I put every dime into my account that I earned (from a part time job I work at 4 in the morning) and that was hard for me to do. I went without a lot because I wanted this so badly. In May of this year I had found the perfect doctor, set up the consultation and finally went. I had not been so excited for something since the birth of my children. The doctor showed me what I could expect to look like afterwards. Yay! He showed me my new straight nose that was not humped and no droopiness when I smiled. Total pricetag: $9200. After my consultation,as I was walking out all I could do was cry. I began thinking of the new future I would have. I could finally have the confidence to take pictures with my kids. I would not have such anxiety about going out in public or talking to people from the sides. I would be able to wear hats and wear my hair up in a bun or whatever way I wanted. I would have the confidence to finally apply to and attend nursing school. Along with other things this was my dream, what I had always wanted.


Unfortunately, my mom ran into some hard financial times so I agreed to loan her my surgery money. As of today, she has only paid back $200. I have no credit due to the fact that I am a stay at home mom/college student and have been since I was 18 and lived with my boyfriend. I am slowly working on that with a credit card I recently got (unwillingly, I am not a fan of credit cards). After talking to the bank, to get a loan I would have to use my vehicles title and use a cosigner which is out of the question since the vehicle is not in my name and I have no one to cosign with me on it. I don't know what to do or where to go from here.


My sister in law passed away in June of this year from a head on collision with a semi. She left behind her two young children. After the accident it put into perspective for me how precious life is and that it should be lived to the fullest. I just cant seem to get over this self confidence issue and I am tired of having such anxiety about just leaving the house. It is a daily struggle for me.


If you have any advice on how you made your surgery happen or what I can do I would appreciate the feedback tremendously. Please no negative comments, this is a difficult subject for me.