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Advice Please and Thank You

  • lexxic91808
  • Utah
  • 1 year ago

I guess I am joining this site for advice from ya'll who have had a mommy make over.
I'm 20, and I have a 16 month old baby girl. My husband wants more kids, I do not. I'm 5'4 and 140 lbs right now. Before pregnancy I was 120 lbs. I gained 100 lbs while pregnant and lost 60 lbs. I can't emotionally and mentally do that all over again. I've been on soooo many diets to try and lose the last 20 lbs but nothing works. I told my husband if I got back down to my pre pregnancy weight we could have another baby and then I would get my mommy makeover. But since I can't get back down to that weight I just want to get my surgery now. My body seriously makes me so depressed right now.

Some things I am afraid of if I get my surgery now:
1- I will end up wanting more kids ( which I doubt)
2- This surgery won't satisfy me.

Please chime in on this and give me ANY advice.

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Well, I know you prob don't want to hear this but you are so young. I'm 42 and didn't marry until I was 30 so I had kids much later than you. Yes, good points earlier that you should enjoy your 20's and be able to have the body you want. But you are so young and there is a good chance you will want more kids later. Why do you want to get down to your pre-pregnancy weight before you have more kids? You will gain more weight anyway. Why not have another when and if you want more and then worry about the weight and/or surgery after? You know yourself better than anyone and I do not know you so take all this with a grain of salt.
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I do have to say that at 20 you really cannot predict how you're going to feel at 30 or 35. You may want more kids then. That said, you shouldn't have to live with a body you hate all that time. As long as you're okay with the possibility (not likelihood, but possibility) that  you'll want more children someday and that pregnancy could compromise your results, you should go for it. It's nice to be able to enjoy your body in your 20s. You'll heal better now than you will in later decades and you'll never have better skin than now. Believe me, I know whereof I speak!

Hope this helps at least a little. I know it's a big decision!

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